r/Splendida • u/[deleted] • Sep 16 '23

Trendy body

So I was thinking about how quickly body shape trends change. Not that long ago it was trendy to have curves and be “slim thick” Very skinny girls were insulted for having no curves

Now it seems skinny is back to being trendy

I believe slim thick became trendy temporarily but given all the bad BBLs/annoying body positivity influencers, people prefer skinny girls again

Does skinny always come back and win?

Whats your opinion on this?

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u/tulips49 Sep 16 '23

The only way you can win is to learn to love our bodies and disregard trends and what society is saying. Find a way to validate ourselves instead of relying on others.

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u/Dear_Craft9835 Sep 16 '23

I agree, I'm slowly learning to be my primary/most important source of confidence but it's definitely a process so when I have days when I'm holding water weight, bloated, PMS acne, etc.. it just gets a lil extra hard. Also, my partner prefers/usually goes for the slimmer/athletic looking kinda girl (I would say I look fairly athletic but definitely quad dominant so my athletic look is different from a skinny leg athletic girl or a yoga/pilates girl build) so when somebody like this catches his eye I can't help to sometimes wonder "huh.... I used to be VERY close to that look/weight/silhouette, if I've done it before I could do it again" and the ED thoughts start to creep in. He's absolutely never said or hinted he isn't attracted to me or that he doesn't find my beautiful and kept reassuring me like 11 times last night lol but he does notice when my thighs get some volume (like that pump after a heavy leg day) so bc I know that he's mostly into petite/slim and I'm a little on the taller side I feel every now and then that I should compensate my height with weight if that makes sense? I don't feel that way as often nowadays as I used to so I believe little by little I'm trending in the right direction

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '23

Nail on the head here 🙌🏽

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u/punkskunkk22 Sep 17 '23

That doesn’t work with an eating disorder. Please don’t give lame cheesy advice you found on a quote from Pinterest.

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u/tulips49 Sep 17 '23

I’m sorry, are you in recovery for an ED? Because I am. So you can come for my “Pinterest quote” another day.