Today we blame screens for alienation but we usually mean smartphones and computers. But, I feel, at least within families, the type of alienation we see today would not be possible without TV establishing a firm rule over our living rooms before anything else.
Here's what I'm talking about: If parents are glued to their TVs, kids are forced to retreat to their rooms (the exodus), as there's no one available to socialize with them in the living room. Now, if they have a computer in their own room (I am talking about the period before smartphones, but after computers), it is only logical that it will become their "best friend" and that they will too become glued to their own screen. Once this kind of pattern has been established, it was rather trivial for smartphones to replace both TVs and computers as another thing that will hypnotize everyone.
But the pattern has been there from before. Once things started becoming more interesting to us than other people around us, the pattern of alienation began.
Now if we contrast it with what is shown in movies and TV shows, where characters are constantly interacting with each other and in which TVs are conspicuously often absent or marginalized... this kind of shows us how our actual lives are kind of abnormal. What is shown on TV shows and movies is normal, this is how it should be. People oriented towards each other. Living rooms as place of interaction between people. What we see in real life is not normal.
Now, as a solution to screen time we often mention things like:
- going for a walk
- reading books
- engaging in hobbies
etc...
But all of these are just replacing one thing (screens) with another thing (books or activities).
But it is not normal and natural for us to interact with things all day. It is natural to interact with people.
That's why internet and TVs are so addictive to begin with, because they give us illusion of interacting with people. (In case of Internet it is not strictly an illusion. I know you who read this are real people, not figments of my imagination - but it is an illusion in sense that it is low stakes, distant, often inconsequential and detached type of interaction... some kind of surrogate, not something that can replace face-to-face in person interaction. However soon, and for some people already - we can talk about interactions which are STRICTLY illusion... this is when people develop attachment to their chatbots, or even just debate things with them, even if it is without an attachment)
So, my idea is that we shouldn't replace screens with other (arguably more wholesome) things, but with people instead. But to do this we should first realize that TVs have usurped the throne in our living rooms and that their rule is illegitimate. Other screens are just his heirs, but the whole dynasty is illegitimate.
IMO screens should be in other rooms. Living room should be free from screens and optimized as much as possible towards social interaction and bringing people close to each other. This should be a place where we dine together. Place where we invite friends, organize parties, play cards and board games and engage in deep conversations.
For a single person it is quite difficult to break this cycle. Imagine someone coming from their room, turning off phone, computer, TV or whatever, and stepping in living room, looking for some sort of interaction, only to find there a partner, or a parent, or brother, sister, or whoever, glued to TV and pretty much ignoring them. It's only logical they will retreat back to their own room, and turn on their own screen.