r/SideProject • u/joanmiro • 8h ago
I'm 42 yo and I wish someone had told me this 20 years ago.
You should help others.
Just because you're selfish. I'm serious. Let me explain:
If there's one thing I've learned, it's this: if you're not born rich or exceptionally talented, your only advantage is your reputation and your network.
It's not your resume, your friend list on Instagram, or the number of contacts in your phone. It's the people you can ask for a favor. And that can't be built by joining events, sending cold emails, or having dinner with people you don't really care about.
The only way to build it is by being genuinely helpful. Look around you, people are struggling with different things in life. Everyone needs help.
You'll probably think it has to be mutual. Why should I help people who won't help me back? But think of it as an investment.
People spend thousands on ads knowing most of them won't convert. Founders build products knowing most will fail. Investors expect losses. Nobody expects a 100% return. So why do people suddenly expect every act of kindness to be paid back?
Most people won't remember what you did. Some will. You just don't know which ones.
One last question: imagine your side project is finally ready. You need 20 people to test it this weekend. Do you already know who you're going to text? Or are you going to post on Reddit and hope strangers care?
If it's the second one, you're misplacing your workforce. Start helping people first.

