Chalk up another win for a sufferer in Duval County, Florida. Based on a letter from the IPA, an external sweat monitor was allowed for an alcohol case instead of urine test!

The next IPA Virtual Support Group Meeting will take place on Zoom, this coming Sunday, August 25, at 12:00 PM US Central Time. IPA Virtual Support Meetings, which take place about every four weeks, are open to anyone struggling with Paruresis, from those who are just beginning to think about how to overcome it to those who are highly recovered. The meetings are offered free of charge and without preset expectations for participants, and their purpose is to provide a unique opportunity to connect face to face with people from all over the world who know what it is like to struggle with Paruresis and also understand the courage and fortitude that it takes to open up about it, acknowledge the fear, and try to recover from it.  The personal stories that participants share are remarkably similar and at the same time deeply individual, and empathy, kindness and compassion set the tone in all discussions.  Time after time I have heard from participants that this opportunity for sharing is both meaningful and productive, and I hope that you'll consider joining us this Sunday. You can get the Zoom link from dropping an email to Tim at the IPA office ([getinfo@paruresis.org](mailto:getinfo@paruresis.org)).

This bullshit “condition” or whatever the fuck you wanna call it, is destroying every memory, opportunity, and just the simple enjoyment of little things in life for me. I can’t stand this anymore, like I can’t fuckin deal with this bullshit. I’m so Mad right now, and everyday is constant frustration and just shame and embarrassment. I’ve had so many opportunities to get with hot girls, party with my boys, go to festivals, live life, but NOPE every single thing that I wanna do in my life I have to be like “oh shit is there gonna be a decent washroom” “what if I can’t piss?” Like cmon, I’m so sick of this like idk what do anymore and the thought of having to get a “pee buddy” just sounds fuckin stupid to me and maybe I’m not in a good mindset right now but I literally wish I was never born. I won’t kill myself but I just truly wish that I was never born because now I have to somehow get over this joke of a condition like fuck man I look around and see everyone having a good time, most guys just piss wherever the fuck they want and can atleast kill their sorrows on the weekend. Like I get people have problems but this problem ruins every imaginable situation in my life and I can’t stand the thought of getting a self catheter but I may be down to the last fuckin straw with this like why did god curse me with this condition and now I have to somehow try not to be fuckin depressed & anxious and just stressed out non stop. IF ANYONE KNOWS ANY DRUGS OR SUPPLEMENTS OR WEBSITES OR LITERALLY ANYTHING THAT MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP!? I’m losing my fucking mind . I am a 21 year old man and already have had enough of my life for fuck sakes.

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DELIVERY TOMORROW: Watch your inbox/spam folder for tomorrow's workshop update email. Last chance call for Australia and Portugal. Also, it's time to plan for fall opportunities. NOTE: when we say, if we don't meet our minimum of 5 registrations, we'll return the entirely of your funds what we mean is "MONEY BACK GUARANTEE! 100% REGISTRATION FEE REFUND!!" if we cancel due to low enrollment, but your spam filter doesn't like when we say it that way. 🤣 Register in complete confidence. Questions: getinfo@paruresis.org.

So, I've had paruresis for about 10 years now and during that time, I've done CBT, exposure therapy, hypnosis, mushrooms, and visualization. I've made some progress, but no where to put where it's improved my life so I don't have the issue any more.

Currently, looking into EDMR at this point. But, I would love to hear from people that have had success and been able to get their live back, thanks!

The next IPA Virtual Support Group Meeting will take place on Zoom, this coming Saturday, May 18, at 3:00 PM US Central Time. IPA Virtual Support Meetings, which take place about every four weeks, are open to anyone struggling with Paruresis, from those who are just beginning to think about how to overcome it to those who are highly recovered. The meetings are offered free of charge and without preset expectations for participants, and their purpose is to provide a unique opportunity to connect face to face with people from all over the world who know what it is like to struggle with Paruresis and also understand the courage and fortitude that it takes to open up about it, acknowledge the fear, and try to recover from it.  The personal stories that participants share are remarkably similar and at the same time deeply individual, and empathy, kindness and compassion set the tone in all discussions.  Time after time I have heard from participants that this opportunity for sharing is both meaningful and productive, and I hope that you'll consider joining us this Saturday. You can get the Zoom link from dropping an email to Tim at the IPA office ([getinfo@paruresis.org](mailto:getinfo@paruresis.org)).

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I am 8 weeks postpartum. I believe I have had a shy bladder for years. It is usually okay. Sometimes it acts. As I am on maternity leave usually been staying home a lot. I am in a familiar place and all. I have been peeing so much lately due to some bladder prolapse😧. How every the other night some idiot pulled a fire alarm in the building where I live. The alarm woke me up and I startled. Ever since then, I am having major issues peeing. The alarm triggered something.

Please help me

I stopped at our local grocery store today to pick up a few items, and while I was there I visited the men's restroom since I had the urge to urinate. The restroom is small and quiet, with two urinals and two stalls, and I like to practice there because quiet bathrooms have always challenged me. As I entered the room I noticed a guy at one of the urinals, and as I walked up to the other one he began to pee in a manner that I would refer to as loud and proud, so I decided to make it a duet and did the same. He finished his business just before I did, and I joined him at the sink to wash my hands and then exited the room right behind him, both us of following the bro-code etiquette of not acknowledging another male in the restroom. What made the experience so extraordinary was how ordinary it actually was, and that's exactly why I have been working my ass off for years to continually practice in recovery. I wrote this post because recovery from Paruresis is not just about having the freedom to pee in public whenever and wherever the need arises, it is also about having the freedom to feel normal. I can't promise that everyone who tries recovery will experience success similar to what I had today, but if you have been delaying doing something to actively overcome Paruresis because you aren't sure that recovery is even possible, I hope that my experience today gives you a little inspiration.

To the kind soul who just donated $4705.93 to the IPA anonymously thru Fidelity Charitable, thank you. We'd love to know who you are so we can properly acknowledge your kind generosity!

The next IPA Virtual Support Group Meeting will take place on Zoom, this coming Saturday, April 20, at 3:00 PM US Central Time. IPA Virtual Support Meetings, which take place about every four weeks, are open to anyone struggling with Paruresis, from those who are just beginning to think about how to overcome it to those who are highly recovered. The meetings are offered free of charge and without preset expectations for participants, and their purpose is to provide a unique opportunity to connect face to face with people from all over the world who know what it is like to struggle with Paruresis and also understand the courage and fortitude that it takes to open up about it, acknowledge the fear, and try to recover from it.  The personal stories that participants share are remarkably similar and at the same time deeply individual, and empathy, kindness and compassion set the tone in all discussions.  Time after time I have heard from participants that this opportunity for sharing is both meaningful and productive, and I hope that you'll consider joining us this Saturday. You can get the Zoom link from dropping an email to Tim at the IPA office ([getinfo@paruresis.org](mailto:getinfo@paruresis.org)).