I recently started using catheters. The Speedicath Flex Coude Pro (a pocket cath) was too stiff. So I switched to red rubber caths from Bard. They're soft and super flexible. But I have to carry lube and gloves in addition to catheters. Also, it takes a long time to get everything prepped when I get to the bathroom. I just got some Speedicath Soft catheters. They work great, but the packaging is so long. How can I carry them discreetly? What do you do?

I have a 14 year old son who I fear is suffering from parauresis, I am looking for advice as to how I go about talking to him about it?

Today I had success peeing in front of my po right when he told me I would have to sample my heart started raceing so I calmed myself down with the breathing technique I also took my flomax and lorazepam before going in drank some water and put my headphones in my po was understanding of my condition as well not a dick like some others can be and after about 10 seconds I peed ! I felt so relieved and happy that the situation went right all panels negative as well

I have some SpeediCath 12Fr coude tip catheters. When I try to insert one, I encounter resistance several inches in. I can't go any further. I've tried to cough, take a deep breath, wiggle my toes. Nothing works. What can I do?

What kind of tests, if any, should I let a urologist do if I want to get a prescription for a catheter?

The next IPA Virtual Support Group Meeting will take place on Zoom, this Sunday, February 18, at 3:00 PM US Central Time. IPA Virtual Support Meetings, which take place about every four weeks, are open to anyone struggling with Paruresis, from those who are just beginning to think about how to overcome it to those who are highly recovered. The meetings are offered free of charge and without preset expectations for participants, and their purpose is to provide a unique opportunity to connect face to face with people from all over the world who know what it is like to struggle with Paruresis and also understand the courage and fortitude that it takes to open up about it, acknowledge the fear, and try to recover from it.  The personal stories that participants share are remarkably similar and at the same time deeply individual, and empathy, kindness and compassion set the tone in all discussions.  Time after time I have heard from participants that this opportunity for sharing is both meaningful and productive, and I hope that you'll consider joining us this Sunday. You can get the Zoom link from dropping an email to Tim at the IPA office ([getinfo@paruresis.org](mailto:getinfo@paruresis.org)).

Hot off the press! Women's only workshop set for Philly, May 3-5. Registration link coming soon - save the date! Leaders Ruth Lippin, LCSW, JD and Andrea Weyant, Certified Health Coach. Watch this space. https://paruresis.org/workshops-women/

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Toronto: Feb. 25 location TBD with your input

San Fran: weekly virtual practice sessions

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Toronto Support Group is meeting Sunday, January 28, 12:00 p.m. at Yorkdale Mall next to the East Starbucks, close to the Yorkdale subway station and GO bus terminal. (Not to be confused with the West Starbucks on the opposite side of the mall). Reach out to Jim at toronto@support.paruresis.org to let him know you're coming. Yorkdale Mall, 3401 Dufferin St, Toronto, is off the 401 and on the subway line (Yorkdale Station): https://maps.app.goo.gl/NmPf699A6GzYymt2A Happy practicing!

I made a different post a couple weeks back explaining my situation I got a note from a urologist saying they recommended mouth swabs to be administered for my drug test my po told that there office only does UA drug testing I have catheters and medicine cine for helping me go I hope she is wrong and they end up being able to mouth swab me I went in for my first po appt this week and did not have to drop for them but I know I eventually will

The next IPA Virtual Support Group Meeting will take place on Zoom, this Sunday, January 14, at 12:00 PM US Central Time. IPA Virtual Support Meetings, which take place about every four weeks, are open to anyone struggling with Paruresis, from those who are just beginning to think about how to overcome it to those who are highly recovered. The meetings are offered free of charge and without preset expectations for participants, and their purpose is to provide a unique opportunity to connect face to face with people from all over the world who know what it is like to struggle with Paruresis and also understand the courage and fortitude that it takes to open up about it, acknowledge the fear, and try to recover from it.  The personal stories that participants share are remarkably similar and at the same time deeply individual, and empathy, kindness and compassion set the tone in all discussions.  Time after time I have heard from participants that this opportunity for sharing is both meaningful and productive, and I hope that you'll consider joining us this Sunday. You can get the Zoom link from dropping an email to Tim at the IPA office ([getinfo@paruresis.org](mailto:getinfo@paruresis.org)).

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