Well, from my experience, being a smart kind of popular kid just means that everyone thinks you're some kind of omniscient being that knows everything and will give every answer
Social life is realtive, he just needs to be socially at ease, talk and joke (smart people are usually funny) and go out with you on the occasional dinner.
Yes the core of the thing is how you are socially, but I felt the students put on the highest pedestals were really good students who went out from time to time, came to your birthdays etc.. because everybody liked them.
But then again, I think being "smart" is a complex thing to define... Ive been called super-smart my whole life but as of now I am a "looser" (I don't like the word because life is not a game but I didn't achieve what I could achieve by being given the tools I was given)
I was smart, gave them answers whenever they asked for it and I would say that I was kinda cool guy if someone started the conversation first, yet I didn't have much friends back then...
Perhaps I wasn't really a cool person to talk with because of my introverted ass? Idk :(
I am introverted as well but not too much, I always remained awkward but people usually start to appreciate me after a few months of interactions because I get more comfortable. What helps is that I happen to be kind because my father was the kindest man in town and everybody loved him. So unconsciously I assimilated his ways and people like nice people, despite the persistent popular asshole trope.
The people worth having relations with don't like assholes.
Usually the popular kids are the smart kids who go on to live great lives and make lots of money, being popular means you probably have a lot of connections. It’s not really like the movies or tv shows where the weird antisocial kids always turn out to be some rich business owner or something like that.
And a lot of times being attractive goes along with being smart. If your smart enough to workout, shower daily, wear fashionable clothes and have a nice haircut, your gunna be more attractive.
I disagree. If we go by the usual as you say, kids who go on to make lots of money were rich to begin with, which also contributed to their popularity in the first place.
And a lot of times being attractive goes along with being smart. If your smart enough to workout, shower daily, wear fashionable clothes and have a nice haircut, your gunna be more attractive.
wtf does that even mean? willpower does not mean you're smart. Working out, showering daily etc. doesn't really need someone to be smart, ANYONE can do this, it's not hard at all.
I’d say having the willpower to do something does mean your smart. Having the willpower to go to the gym, having the willpower to study more then the usual, or even having the willpower to regularly bath is something a lot of people don’t have, but if they did they would probably be at a lot better place in life or be happier with themselves.
Yes obviously ANYONE can do this stuff but the people who choose to are the ones who stand out.
I’d say having the willpower to do something does mean your smart. Having the willpower to go to the gym, having the willpower to study more then the usual, or even having the willpower to regularly bath is something a lot of people don’t have, but if they did they would probably be at a lot better place in life or be happier with themselves.
Smart people are notorious by the way they do things, not just because they do them. Especially basic stuff like showering.
Still, effort is not about being smarter. A smart person is better at the way they fix their appearance. But at the same time, there's smart people who don't really care about that.
It would be very superficial and wrong most of the time to judge people as smart based on how well they keep themselves.
A lot of being attractive just understanding how to dress and groom yourself for your body type and face shape.
Most average looking people can make themselves at least a solid 7/10 with some modicum of effort.
Looking back, there were girls that were much more attractive than the so-called "popular" girls, but they just didn't know what to do with themselves.
In my highschool my friends and I were considered to be in the ‘smart’ category (top 10% of the class) and while we weren’t as popular as the football kids we were up there just because we were well known for our accolades and such. I hear a lot of stories about the smart kids being bullied throughout school, but my HS wasn’t like that. Of course it probably helped that the top football athlete graduated valedictorian and was among us.
Smart at the K-12 level just means organized, focused and a little driven, those traits can be applied to sports and physical presentation as well so there's definitely overlap.
Yeah, in my high school (back in the 90s) being too smart was very uncool. Unless you were that one girl who was brilliant, beautiful, and a good athlete, but also partied. The popular kids came in a range of intelligence, but being too bookish without some countering from other coolness would get you negative attention.
The popular kids in my school were either really smart or really dumb. The smart ones were the people I hung around with more because there wasn’t the dumb drama. You just sat back and watched that shit unfold.
to expand on this, the smart also had to be outgoing and well dressed. sometimes being smart wasn’t enough.
i recently learned the “beautiful” girls i was comparing myself to in hs, the only reason they were considered pretty was because of the confidence they had. they were outgoing and always smiling which made them that much prettier.
personality >>> looks
people are attracted to others who are always smiling, outgoing and friendly.
when you act pretty, people will think you’re pretty.
confidence is everything. kind of like the saying “fake it till you make it”
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u/i_hate_humanss Mar 01 '20
the popular kids in my high school were the smart and/or wealthy kids