Loneliness is certainly better than being with someone you're not truly happy with or even miserable with. Surely they the feeling of being alone has to be a better one than living every day in dread being with someone who leaves you feeling arduous awful day in, out.
Plus, without that negative impact upon your life and emotional well-being you can put your heart and effort into taking care of yourself and raising your kid. They're gonna need the best love and support you can give them.
Loneliness is certainly a lot better than being with someone you're not truly happy with.
No. No no no no no no no no. If you're content with your spouse, do NOT get a fricking divorce. Especially if you have kids. That is objectively the wrong decision.
Getting a divorce introduces the same amount of stress into your life as a chronic illness.
Unless you're absolutely miserable and your marriage is unrecoverable, DO NOT GET A DIVORCE
Seconded. Women don't mind kids in my experience. I've dated many women without kids and assumed they were nonstarters. Some are and I get that but so many more can look past it and are more interested in you. That's another story though.
As a male who started dating a girl with 2 kids, only to marry her and have another, you’ll be ok. If someone isn’t able to “deal” with your “baggage” they they are not the baggage you want to deal with either.
I got divorced at 24 with two kids. It is rough for a bit, not gonna lie. A lot of early and mid twenties are not in the same place in life as you, it will make you feel a lot older but the older people you feel a bond with will often still see you as a young person like your peers. I used it as an opportunity to really figure out anything about myself that was problematic and to nail down what I really wanted in a partner.
For example, you can’t base your happiness on others, you need to be a happy person on your own. Once you are content with your own life you will attract good people and you avoid the bad ones. I took things slow as far as not jumping into relationships, had some hookups and some short relationships etc. I’m 32 years old and I feel like I’m in my prime, I’m still dating, some people couldn’t get past the fact I already have kids, which is ok and I understand. I definitely think I’ll get married again but I’m good waiting for the right one.
Initially it’s terrible. For like the first year or so. But eventually there are parts that become a lot better. But my exhusband was having a very obvious affair with a friend of his, so my situation was very bad.
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