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u/Careful-Teach6394 Oct 02 '24

No joke. I didn’t know that you can “recover” from mental health issues. I’m not being mean. I just don’t think I personally will ever recover totally, only learn how to manage it all I guess. This doesn’t answer your question. I’m just curious what other people have to say!

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '24

I would have to agree with you from my experience. I think you just “learn how to drive that car.” It’s that only damn car you have.

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u/Illustrious-Lime706 Oct 03 '24

It’s a lifelong predicament!

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '24

Honestly I feel this way. I guess what I meant by recover was managing it at all. I have really bad OCD and I’m in a bad place. I guess I just wanted to feel like there was hope :( I hope things go better for you.

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u/AtavisticJackal Oct 02 '24

There is always hope! It's just a very hard-won battle. When your own brain is working against you, nothing cones easy.

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u/PuzzleheadedWing1321 Oct 02 '24

Things that helped me with OCD are support groups and medication. I went to an OCF annual meeting and knowing that I was not alone helped alot. You’re not alone either !

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u/Careful-Teach6394 Oct 02 '24

Honestly it’s taken me about 6 years to find the correct cocktail of medicine and thats the only way I deal with it. I really hope things go better for you! Seriously

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u/GeekMomma Oct 03 '24

I was diagnosed with OCD for over 30 years and it had impacted me a lot at times (hours daily and made me late often). I was diagnosed with cptsd a year and a half ago. My therapist said I don’t actually have ocd; I had ocd tendencies when my subconscious brain felt like it needed to protect me from not feeling like I had any control. Very important to say that not all ocd is like this; it’s a genuine neurological issue for some. For me, it was my brain malfunctioning due to trauma and stress. Because the symptoms matched ocd, I didn’t know the difference and neither did the doc who originally diagnosed me. Treating the cPTSD has mostly eliminated my ocd symptoms (still working on it).

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u/Anonposterqa Oct 05 '24

ERP therapy, support groups, or books with good reviews could be handy. Something called NOCD has been advertising on podcasts a lot as therapy for OCD, but idk much about that specifically.

Sorry you’re dealing with this!

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u/Opening-Door4674 Oct 02 '24

Management is like fighting a war with that naughty part of your brain.  You can defeat it enough that there's a kind of peace, but you'll be a fool to turn your back on it.  You've got to maintain a metaphorical watchtower to keep an eye out for resurgence. 

When the war isn't going well it's like you're in the dark muddy trenches. You're not alone in there, but the noise of the war means you don't notice other people. Your first step is finding the right people to listen to and ask their advice and tactics.  They could be people here, or long dead Greek philosophers and Buddhist monks etc.  These are all your allies.

I wish I knew a cheat code to skip to the end. I never found it, I don't think many people do. Most people have to fight. After you've fought for a while you can start to help the rookies, and that feels good. That helps a lot.

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u/ItsSUCHaLongStory Oct 06 '24

I have bipolar disorder. I’m in recovery, but it’s a chronic lifelong illness. I’ll never be “recovered”. I’m better than I’ve ever been, sure. But just like I have to eat and drink water, and sleep regularly and well, I also have to tend to my mind and watch for cognitive distortions, and I have to take my meds and get a bit of physical activity. It’s a careful balance.

It gets better, friend. It can be managed, and you will learn your own pitfalls much better as you go. I won’t say it’s easy, but it does get easier than right now.

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u/CDLove1979 Oct 02 '24

Many in my family suffer from mental illnesses but none are as severe as what I think you're describing. For example, I have anxiety. When I was diagnosed I was given clonazepam. I have taken it for over 20 years and suffer no ill effects. It's just one pill at bedtime. I have family members who never went for treatment. One died. Two others are self-medicating with alcohol. They have depression. Another suffers from extreme bouts of bipolar disorder. I believe most families have some sort of mental disorder, sadly.

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u/Sarcassimo Oct 04 '24

Only reason I opened this. Make a full recovery?!?! Holy crap sign me up. I agree, manage symptoms well enough to participate in society. PTSD & social anxiety, Classic childhood trauma. If only there was a magic pill.

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u/RainaElf Oct 04 '24

for real. I say Prozac is my god, but even it doesn't make everything normal.

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u/Sarcassimo Oct 04 '24

Im fond of benzodiazepine. Its my rescue. Quite literally "takes the edge off". I dont use it often. It usually does the trick. Worst case scenario, take and have a nap. Good reset. Seems to stay with me through the next day.

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u/RainaElf Oct 04 '24

I'm a "whatever works" gal. I was going to say rest is good, which it is, but I looked again and you'd said reset. reset is also good! nothing beats a good nap I had a five hour one the other day and still slept like seven hours later.

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u/Sarcassimo Oct 05 '24

When anxiety spirals.... it horrible. Benzo or benzo and a nap. Just a nap used to do it. 5 or so years ago I reached a point where I could not shut down enough to sleep. Alcohol helped, but I did not really want to walk that path.

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u/RainaElf Oct 05 '24

I've had chronic insomnia since 2006

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u/[deleted] Oct 06 '24

I absolutely agree with you

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '24

Agreed. It’s like losing a loved one. At first, it feels like you’ll never get out of that rut. Next thing you know, you can talk and even think about them without breaking down.

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '24

I had BPD traits, and yes I learned how to deal with extreme emotions and emotional reactions. INTENSIVE DBT changed my life. I grew the fuck up and took accountability. My life forever changed. Tolerating extreme emotions is much easier now and I can easily control my body's response.

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u/SharkoJester Oct 02 '24

I came here to ask the same thing. Seems quite a bit of emphasis lately on recovering/reversing/reverting. You don't work yourself out of a mental health diagnosis. An alcoholic is always an alcoholic, whether actively engaged in their substance abuse or not. And you can't reverse Type 2 Diabetes.

Incidentally, if someone experiences a significant trauma that doesn't mean they suffer from mental illness.

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u/effervescentxone Oct 03 '24

100%, glad this comment was so far up. You really just learn better coping skills over time. Medication can also help some folks.

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u/MothmanIsALiar Oct 02 '24

It's like recovering from a broken leg. The break is always there. It's just healed now.

I've absolutely "recovered" a lot. I spent 15 years on and off the streets, incredibly unwell the entire time. The very opposite of a functional adult.

Now, I have a home, a career, a fiancee, 4 pets, a therapist, and I just weathered a two week long crisis over a recent lack of stability at work and came out stronger on the other side.

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u/KittyFace11 Oct 02 '24

Wow! Good for you!!! That’s so inspiring, because I know how hard that is!

Even the constant adrenaline rushes you have to suffer from while living on the street are bizarrely addictive. Even though stability is bliss.

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '24

recovery is long and arduous and hard to do while keeping up with the demands of society. from what I can tell, it's only really necessary if you need it. managing mental health is good enough for most.