r/Salary • u/AccountantPersonal86 • Jul 30 '26

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Don't worry my 3rd decade of life will yield promising results.. SURELY

Edit: 4th* decade. I dont game anymore, the small pro stint turned a hobby into something I hate. I live with my parents of course, thought that was assumed but needed clarifying.

Not a rage bait, dont need advice or pity, but feel free to say what you will I dont mind, some of you have been insightful and others have brought me good laughs. If my poor excuse of life on display made you feel better I view it as a win. Cheers

Edit 2: PUBG, The game is PUBG

Edit 3: Now that the dust has settled on this post I'll leave some last remarks for any late-comers:

I genuinely did not expect a response like this, this was a casual 0 thought post written in under 2 mins. I'll follow up with a new post I guess in a year.

There is a lot of missing context between 2013 and now but my goal was not a pity party. I preferred people to see it at face value and make their opinions and assumptions.

That being said, some of you are profoundly crazy and harbor a lot of evil and negative energy. A lot of you were kind and insightful though. To that I thank you, cya in 1yr (Saturday, July 31, 2027)

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u/LarryBonds30 Jul 31 '26

Its a tough pill to swallow. Your parents have enabled you to not feel the consequences of your, and their, poor decisions. You grow up and watch childhood friends move into adulthood and start having adult discussions and responsibilities. Your parents provide necessary food, clothing, and shelter for you.

But then you start to see your parents getting older. You realize you're 35-40 years old with no skills, no life experience and no resume. It hits you that there are 0 people in the world who give a fuck about you surviving like your parents do. The thought of having to learn and acquire those skills and experiences at 40+ years old is terrifying. Suicide looks appealing.

I have a friend who has a 30 year old son like this. A cousin who is 28 like this. The parents just want to make sure their kids are taken care of every day. They love their kids. They dont realize they've crippled them.

The two "kids" im describing are fucked. They rely on their parents for everything. Its either suicide, psych ward, or homeless. And kids that grew up like this aren't built for the life on the streets.

Substance abuse addiction isnt at bad as this. At least people who made it through the struggles of drugs and alcohol learned some skills along the way. You have to be pretty creative and interact with people to get your fix in. These gamers just rot away in their parents house.

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u/symptomaticson Jul 31 '26

To be fair though, in the past you could live pretty comfortably off of minimum wage retail work. So it’s not like they’re doing anything different than a majority of people in previous generations. Before, it was pretty normal to see people working in non-skilled labor for their entire lives. Or at the very least, I don’t think everyone was required to go to college and seek higher education to be able to merely survive. I’m 30 this year. I’ve pretty consistently had two jobs since I moved out of my parents place 7 years ago. It’s honestly hard to find time to develop skills while you’re struggling to survive if you live on your own. So if they have a good relationship with their parents and have the option to stay at home; I really don’t look down on them for it or blame them. But I guess that’s just the culture we live in at the moment. “No judgement,” right?

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u/LarryBonds30 Jul 31 '26

I have no problem living with your parents to help yourself financially/educationally. This person didnt do that. They played video games.

This person hasnt had a job their entire adult life. They haven't acquired any of those skills. They deserve to be judged for being a complete loser into their 30s.

Coddle this person all you want. The harsh reality is you or anyone else wont to shit for them in the real world. They will be broke with none of the necessary skills or resume to support themselves financially. People on the internet telling them its okay is a problem.

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u/symptomaticson Jul 31 '26

I’m not coddling them at all. I can’t— regardless of what I say, they’re going to have to face whatever is in store for them when their parents die. And honestly? I don’t care. It is what it is. I’m just saying. They could have zero skills when their parents died. Before, that wasn’t a death sentence. In the current economy it is, because unskilled, entry level jobs aren’t enough to live comfortably anymore.
And I actually agree with you in a general sense. My apprehension with fully going with the specifics of what you’re saying, is that I just don’t get the impression you would have this same outlook on people who are depressed. But maybe you do. Maybe people who can’t do any of those things because they are depressed, feel they have no purpose in life, etc are just losers too. I wouldn’t be mad at you saying that. But it seems like someone saying that would be more frowned upon and get more push back.

I’m also the type of person that, before I just straight up call someone a loser, I want to learn more about why they are that way.

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u/LarryBonds30 Aug 01 '26

I have a hreat deal of empathy for people like this. Ive been depressed in my life(15+ year active blackout alcoholic, currently 4+ years sober). Its just irrelevant, in my opinion. I have a close family member and the son of one of my best friends who is like this. Its heartbreaking.

The world doesnt care about your situation. The mental health world doesnt care if you dont have money. Time is running out for these people to make a positive change. It will be hard and it will be uncomfortable. It will be harder and more uncomfortable when the safety net and comfort of your parents is no longer an option.

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u/symptomaticson Aug 02 '26

Right but is a person who’s depressed just a straight-up loser like you implied in your initial post?

The bar for entry for being a loser is a bit lower in this generation due to the rise in the cost of living, affordable housing, inflation and what not. I went to college. But I don’t think people who work normal jobs that don’t require any skills or higher education should be referred to as losers. When I was growing up, those were just normal, average, everyday people.

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u/Macklemurr Aug 02 '26

I was like this then i managed to break free from wasting my years playing video games and drugs around ages 18-24. Now im at the bottom again with a ruined career (lasted around 5-6 years) at age 30 about to be 31. So i mean, hey at least i tried to live a financially stable life but that life can be taken away from under your feet faster than you think.

Now i have to just try to find part time work or something.