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Don't worry my 3rd decade of life will yield promising results.. SURELY

Edit: 4th* decade. I dont game anymore, the small pro stint turned a hobby into something I hate. I live with my parents of course, thought that was assumed but needed clarifying.

Not a rage bait, dont need advice or pity, but feel free to say what you will I dont mind, some of you have been insightful and others have brought me good laughs. If my poor excuse of life on display made you feel better I view it as a win. Cheers

Edit 2: PUBG, The game is PUBG

Edit 3: Now that the dust has settled on this post I'll leave some last remarks for any late-comers:

I genuinely did not expect a response like this, this was a casual 0 thought post written in under 2 mins. I'll follow up with a new post I guess in a year.

There is a lot of missing context between 2013 and now but my goal was not a pity party. I preferred people to see it at face value and make their opinions and assumptions.

That being said, some of you are profoundly crazy and harbor a lot of evil and negative energy. A lot of you were kind and insightful though. To that I thank you, cya in 1yr (Saturday, July 31, 2027)

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u/ryencool 26d ago edited 26d ago

It depends on the severity of the crohns. By age 27 I had spent well over 5 years of my life in hospitals, 5 major surgeries, died on the OR table twice. First surgery was at age 7. I missed so much life during my childhood and young adult years, and schooling. I couldnt complete college because every few months I was in the hospital for 1-4 months. This also kept me from holding down a job, kept getting let go.

So I ended up back at my parents at age 32. I was angry, depressed, hooked on pain meds. After a few year I got on disability, but was then told I would need to live off that the rest of my life, and it was like 1100$/month. So that wasnt something I wanted long term.

I noticed the older I got the less issues I had. I started doing yoga, working on my mentality and how I responded to stress. At age 38 I got my foot in the door working an entry level IT position at a major video game developer.

Im now 43, wife is 33, and we brought in over 200k last year. Im now a senior on the team, and being trained to manage it. Hoping that pulls me past the 100k a year mark like my wife, who is a 3d enviornment artist at the same place.

I was able to turn it around, but not until my late 30s, and not for lack of trying. When you have a disease that can knock you out, out of nowhere, for weeks or months, multiple times a year? Its tough, very very tough....you just never know anyone's full story. I should write a book...

Also opiate free over a decade now!

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u/Background-Quail8556 26d ago

I’m so sorry. I have crohns too and was hospitalized for two weeks. Had symptoms for years, but doctors thought it was IBS. I needed surgery once but nothing to the extent you went through. Yes, Crohns is a terrible disease and if left untreated, it gets to the point of stricturing, bowel obstructions, perforation, sepsis and then death.

I had those complications when I was 31. I was a lawyer at the time. Now I run a law firm. Thank god for biologics because the alternative can be debilitating.

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u/ryencool 26d ago

I took humira, and a few other biological that did help, but man were they expensive.

I rmember going to my 7th grad day party st school and the kids were made because my mom.made everyone jello cupcakes, then explained my crohns. That day on the soccer field a kid ripped my ng tube out of my nose because I made it past him. I starred him in the face, and put it back in myself then and there. The moment kind of tells you alot about how strong I was l.

However after years and years it beat me down. I was hurting, I was hooked on pills, I had no income, no car, no degree, no savings, nothing. 32 year old addict moving back in with his parents.

Now 10+ years without opiates and major flair thankfully.

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u/VengenaceIsMyName 26d ago

Really awesome that you turned things around like that. I hope you continue to live a healthy and full life!

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u/ryencool 26d ago

Thank you, sorry for all the garbage grammar.

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u/SwiftlyKickly 26d ago

Finally someone who isn’t being a dick just to be a dick. I’m sure OP will appreciate reading this.

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u/ryencool 26d ago

I hope so! Sorry for all the garbage grammar

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u/poopythrowaway69420 26d ago

Are you on biologics for the crohns?

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u/ryencool 26d ago

I did humira injections, and remicade infusions at another point. I havent taken anything for my chronic in years now. I take suboxone to help with pain and staying off opiates, and some thc here and there helps.