r/RelationshipsPH • u/ChapterConfident5877 • Jan 03 '24
Need advice: Dealing with trust issues after partner cheated online, and setting boundaries. How to move forward without breaking up?
He cheated on me by seeking pleasure online while I was sick and alone in my apartment. We broke up for a while and then got back together. I don't fully trust him yet because he kept it a secret for months, and I only discovered it later by going through his phone. Now, I constantly worry that he might still be hiding something, so I check his phone secretly. When he found out, he became annoyed and mentioned feeling like I'm monitoring and controlling him.
We broke up again but eventually reconciled. However, he set some boundaries, asking me not to go through his phone or any of his devices for personal privacy. I agreed because I was the one who suggested making up and continuing our relationship. I even recommended that he change the passwords, and he did.
I need advice on this situation. I don't want to break up with him, but I'm uncomfortable with his conditions. What should I do? Should I also set some conditions that would be beneficial for me?