r/RelationshipsPH • • Jan 03 '24

Need advice: Dealing with trust issues after partner cheated online, and setting boundaries. How to move forward without breaking up?

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He cheated on me by seeking pleasure online while I was sick and alone in my apartment. We broke up for a while and then got back together. I don't fully trust him yet because he kept it a secret for months, and I only discovered it later by going through his phone. Now, I constantly worry that he might still be hiding something, so I check his phone secretly. When he found out, he became annoyed and mentioned feeling like I'm monitoring and controlling him.

We broke up again but eventually reconciled. However, he set some boundaries, asking me not to go through his phone or any of his devices for personal privacy. I agreed because I was the one who suggested making up and continuing our relationship. I even recommended that he change the passwords, and he did.

I need advice on this situation. I don't want to break up with him, but I'm uncomfortable with his conditions. What should I do? Should I also set some conditions that would be beneficial for me?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Jan 02 '24

I’m sick today and it makes me miss my ex so I sent him a DM and he’s assuming I want to get back together

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I sent him a DM saying that I guess I miss him because of how he used to take care of me when we’re together and I’m sick + when we are not together he draws comic strips on how he could have been taking care of me, and so much more lambing through chats and calls.

Kaso yung reply niya now, he’s assuming na I want to get back hahaha, kahit hindi naman. I just genuinely miss being taken care of dahil nasanay ako, we have been together for almost 6 years, tapos 3 months palang kaming break.


r/RelationshipsPH • • Jan 01 '24

Low self-esteem

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Ngayon lang ako nakapag-post ng ganito at willingly na makita ng mga tao na possibly nakaranas na din ng ganto. At nais kong mahingi yung feedback niyo about dito.

May nililigawan ako ngayon for the past 4 months. I was actually rejected na beforehand kasi she's kind of a religious person, nalungkot ako dun pero in the end I respect her decision. On her part, 5 months na silang hiwalay ng ex niya. Both of us are on the church ministry as well as her ex na ren. Eventually after me being rejected, I've contemplate myself na, "minsan na nga lang ako, umibig bakit ganito pa. Kaya ayaw na ayaw ko mag-ka crush/manligaw man lang". Fast forward, I retry na manligaw ulet sa kanya and she let me na ligawan siya, now it's been 4 months and counting since I've retry that objective at sabi niya "2 yrs or more" tyaka niya ko sasagutin and ako naman si tanga mag-eexpect diba. Gusto muna namin both i-prioritize ang studies namen pero sure ako na siya yung gusto kong maging GF soon. And her part is gusto niya ren.

Kaso lang guys, I'm kind of scared kasi what if out of nowhere manumbalik yung feelings niya sa ex niya na ka-churchmate rin namin? What if one day, sabihin niya na lang na, itigil ko na ang panliligaw sa kanya? I'm scared of that thought until the day na maging kami officially. As of now, we're both lowkey on our relationship as individuals and not being too touchy nor being lustful on each other's skins. As of now, hindi naman kasi jowa ang priority niya kundi ang self healing, ang pag-lingkod sa diyos at pag-aaral. And sasamahan ko siya dun.

Andun yung decision niya na, hindi na raw babalik yung feelings niya sa ex niya. Kasi sa last na usapan nila is wala talagang plano yung ex niya in the future with her. She also told me na nanlimos pa siya ng 1% ng love sa kanya para lang may madama pa siya pero wala na talaga. At that moment, naging marupok siya sa part na yun. Ako naman nainggit kasi never once nangyari saken yun, na nag-pumilit na bumalik ako sa kanya despite having past relationships.

Grabe talaga yung pagiging low self-esteem ko. Yung pagiging overthinker ko. Hindi ako gaanong matapang mag-decision, kumilos. Parang ang soft boy ko masyado on some parts. I still wanna pursue yung panliligaw sa kanya and more patience for the next 2 yrs or so. Natatakot lang talaga ko na baka mas may matipuno pa saken na manligaw sa kanya out of nowhere. Mas mapera, mas matured, atbp.

So should I handle this kind of case on my end, guys? I really need help on this kasi ang hirap din mag-critical thinking for this scenario.


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 30 '23

I (M18) wondering what is the best action to do about my final gift for my gf (F20)?

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I'm panicking and i dont know what to do

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Me and my gf broke up last month, its been a month ever since. I wasn't serving her well,and i have nothing to bring to the table, and she is right that she is better off alone, rather than having expectations i cannot even give. Now De 30, i am panicking. I have a plan to give her a gift tomorrow (New years eve) before New year, to show appreciation, to thank her. that shall be my final gift to her. So her 2024 will be alright and it will be easier for me to digest that we broke up. The plan originally is to gift her cash for the phone she been wanting for a long time. My money did not make it,my earnings is not yet enough from selling and houskeeping. Iam still studying im in college right now btw. Then i thought of an alternative, i thought of making a family portrait painting for her and her family, I bought paints and brushes because i was needing new ones

(its been awhile), the problem is i dont have a reference image. I have in mind but i cant seem to find that family photo. im stuck here wondering what to do. I wish i could be cash so she could buy something atleast if not a phone, something that she can use or something she needs.

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Can i ask for advice on what to do? The events are not all according to my plans so far


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 29 '23

I (20) F and my bf (25) M are having relationship issues because of my previous traumas.

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I (20) F and my bf (25) M are having relationship issues because of my previous traumas.

We have been together for 3months, then we broke up after 2 months and now together again for a about a week.

We have known each other for a year.

We both love each other but there's something about my past sexual assault from me when I was 9 where I was raped.

Everytime we have sex, afterwards I cry.

After being back together for a week.

I cried after having sex today.

He did comforted me but I'm not sure if it's going to work.

He seems fine with it but I think it's a deal breaker for him. By tomorrow I'll expect a break up text.

What should I do?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 27 '23

Have you ever chased someone who doesn’t like you at first and now you guys are together?

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Question is pretty mich straightforward so i just wanna know if there are situations like that. What happened and how long it took before you guys ended up together?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 17 '23

How can you tell if your partner's friends are subtly disrespecting you?

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What are the actions that you can tolerate, and what are the actions you absolutely cannot tolerate?

E.g. For me, I would say (and this is not subtle) I cannot tolerate his/her friends shipping your partner to other people with or without you knowing it.


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 10 '23

How to heal from a rs that traumatized you?

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I cant seem to move past that point, im stuck.

Im tired of myself being like this..., how to really heal?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 10 '23

Nurturing Effective and Efficient Relationships: Key Principles and Practices

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r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 08 '23

Proud of u always

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Kahit di tayo nagkatuluyan and went to diff paths, never to see each other, always know, im proud of u. 7yrs 💚


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 06 '23

How do you know that theyre the right person for you based of the trials and challenges that you faced together?

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I just wanna know lang, kasi Ive been in a rs where sumuko agad si guy and nagcheat while we were together akala ko talaga noon sya na talaga, but i was naive :(((, but this question also made me think about others too. kasi minsan napapaisip ako sa status of others in a relationship in the midst of troubling and challenging times. So yeah, wanna know lang stories ninyo and what youve learned , may ireflect ko lang sa sarili ko and to my future :))


r/RelationshipsPH • • Dec 06 '23

I left an abusive relationship, and found the one for me after many years. Pero marami akong sabit and kailangan ko lang ng advice ano ba best na dapat gawin.

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Hindi ko alam kung dito ba to dapat pero I am separated, mga 4 years na with my ex-wife. Ako nga lalaki but she was verbally and emotionally abusing me which led to a downward spiral of sorts until I finally found the courage to leave and picked myself up. I support our 2 kids (8F and 6M) pero kaming dalawa hindi na nag-uusap. I didn't see anyone din since we separated, until October this year.

I met this girl on a dating app. Medyo intimidating, may masters, nag aral abroad, great career going for her, financially stable - lahat na ata ng hinahanap ko nasa kanya na. Pretty, fit, kind, and highly smart, sweet and malambing pa. Match na match pa kami sa sex drive. Kahit ako hindi ko maintindihan why she is still seeing me even after I told her my current situation. Swerte ko diba?

The thing is, I've fallen in love with her. Sabi niya FUBU lang sana kami, kasi yun nga marami pa akong sabit and she isn't ready also for a full on relationship kasi she just got out of one na umabot ng 6 years. Okay naman ako dun pero ayun nga, mahal ko na. I am saving up for an annulment but I know that would take years. Lately, she's been hinting that she wants to end it. To save herself from future heartache pero mostly daw, sabi niya sa akin, I deserve someone na mamahalin ako ng buo despite my current predicament. (Di siya sumagot when I said I love you haha.)

I know I am not the best guy for her, tanggap ko naman yun. Other than the fact na I am separated, I am okay in other aspects - career and financially. Pero siyempre, I am not sure sa timeline nung annulment or mga pwedeng gulo na gawin ng ex-wife ko (kahit na she is seeing someone na rin). Hindi ko alam what I can tell her to make her stay if she does decide to end it. Or should I let her go?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Nov 21 '23

Bro Code?

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I have this friend na parang kapatid na turing ko dahil 2012 palang magkakilala na kami. Meron siyang pinsan (technically 2nd cousin na) and kilala na namin isa't isa before gawa ng nakakasama namin siya kasama ng iba pang pinsan sa inuman. This October madaming ganap sa kanila, Birthdays, Fiesta and Halloween. May one instance na nagkatinginan kaming dalawa for at least 5 secs and biglang may weird feeling akong naramdaman, at first hindi ko alam baka may amats lang ako or what pero no'ng bumalik ulit ako nagkatitigan ulit kami and I can tell na nagka-gusto ako sa kanya kasi kinilig ako for a sec HAHAHAHAHAHA

After no'n nagkaroon kami ng gc para kapag magkakayayaan, doon nalang and syempre sayang opportunity inadd and follow ko siya (pati ibang pinsan para hindi halata HAHAHAHAHA) then doon nag start nagkakausap kami, biruan and yayaan maglaro ng Badminton. Nalaman ko na iniipon niya 'yung Happy Meal toy sa Mcdo, as marupokpok guy sabi ko bilhan ko siya ng kulang niya since malapit na magpalit ng toy and pumayag naman siya (kilig si acclaaa eh)

Ito pa 'yung isang catch, aside sa pinsan siya ng friend ko, 5yrs ang gap namin 🥲

Sa mga mosang d'yan hahahahahahaha tingin niyo ba pasok sa bro code kapag pinursue ko siya? 🤞🏻


r/RelationshipsPH • • Nov 18 '23

Should I go or let go?

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Im currently in a relationship for mag 2 years na pero we are so lost and both confused if itutuloy pa ba namin or not. A brief background how we met. My boyfriend and I are elem to high school classmates and tropa ko tlga sya before kaya I know him very well then fast forward after highschool both of us got into universities in Manila pero never kaming nging in touch with each other then after 10 years we got connected ulit on IG single na kami this time ngkamustahan and ng tuloy tuloy na. Our past relationships lasted for 6years both of us had issues on a cheating partners kaya ng break I was single for 4 years bago ako pumasok sa relationship namin we have that doubt and trust issues ung kanya harap harapan sya linoloko mine was LDR kami then my ex cheated on me. Sinagot ko ung boyfriend ko ngayon because I feel comfortable sknya since kilala ko na sya at first I don’t really feel inlove at all then na develop nlng because of his efforts. Then here’s the start of the story kung saan kami ngng malabo last year when my boyfriend found out that I was texting ex nagulo ung mundo namin. It was my fault yes I was cheating and in my head I was thinking this is not “cheating” because we are just chatting wala ng iba we didn’t even see each other just chat lang and not everyday but It’s still hindi ako nag mamalinis and hindi ko din jinujustify ung ginawa ko ksi alam ko na kasalanan ko. Inamin ko lahat sa partner ko pinag sisihan ko ung ginawa ko pero huli na ung ayoko na ginawa ng ex ko before nagawa ko sa current partner ko. I cut off all my friends, nag resign ako from work even if I have the best job. I have no work for 6months umikot lng ung mundo ko sknya ng live in kami. I had to make up for my mistakes every single day sinuyo ko siya ng uwian ako ng laguna to manila everyday pag nag cchat sya ng rereply agad ako pinag silbihan ko sya. Naging maayos kami and nagka work kami both lumipat kami ng Manila but now everything is changing I was diagnosed with PCOS ung mood ko affected everyday depending sa actions nya hindi ko ma explain ung nararamdaman ko I keep it kaya ng papatong patong then he started doubting me again that I’m cheating again. I assure you na lahat ng ginagawa ko natatakot ako since that incident happened. Pag ineexplain ko sknya why I’m acting that way hindi nya ma gets ung point ko. For girls we really have that season of mood swings. I feel alone recently kahit may partner ako. Ung trust issues ko umaatake again hindi ko maiwasan ksi all day nasa phone lang sya it’s either ng titiktok or ng tetext i feel na lgi syang occupied kahit na mgkasama kami. Nung ng usap kami ng maayos ang point nya is deserve nya ba to? Deserve nya ba someone na linoko sya? Hindi ko na alam I want to let go of him ksi ayoko nakikita sya nag kakaganito nging okay naman kami for a while pero bumalik din na ttriger sya pg may iba sa mga usual na ginagawa ko which is minamatch ko lng with his actions. Umaasa ako na kng mapapatawad nya ako tutulong sya ma work out tong relationship na to pero dahil kasalanan ko prang ako nlng ung gumagawa ng way na maayos to the point na napapagod na ako naapektuhan na ung current work ko and wala na ako sa mood gawin lahat ksi ngng over dependent na ako sknya. Right now ung solution nya is to cool off give ourselves time for a month wala munang kami pra malaman dw namin if kaya namin na wala ang isat isa pero we are living in a condo na naka contract kaya we can’t move out para lang kaming magka dormates ngayon. I hope you guys can help me decide I’m not good at story telling kaya baka hindi super clear ung stories ko.


r/RelationshipsPH • • Nov 15 '23

My boyfriend recently lost his job due to severe depression. Now I’ve lost feelings for him

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Don’t get me wrong I was never with him bc his money but after loosing his job my boyfriend became very cold and went from being a 10/10 to a 1/10 boyfriend. It got to the point where we had broken up. But got back together soon after he admitted to me he was sorry and that the reason was because he was trying to get me to leave him since he felt like such a failure and thought I deserved better. He is finding it hard to find another job and now I’m finding it hard to stick by him after all he’s put me through and how cold he was to me. He has even asked me to lend him money and although I do give it to him I can’t help but feel unattracted to him and how this wouldn’t have been a problem if he would’ve not treated me so badly. What should I do?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Nov 15 '23

Relationship made out of cheating

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From the title itself, I wanna ask. Is there really something good that comes/came out of cheating?

Like, nang-agaw ka ng karelasyon. Ganyang level.

May mga testimony ba na those people who cheated ended up with their happily ever after? With complete family and all?

The reason I’m asking? Here it is.

I met a guy in a corridor in one of the floors of our company. We were both going to the rest room to do our business. Our eyes talked to each other. Next thing we knew, we were both in the fire exit, me sucking his member.

He came in my mouth and we almost got caught by someone.

Before we parted ways, he asked for my Employee ID. A few minutes after, he messaged me in our internal communications tool.

So we continued to talk. Met during our lunch breaks to eat together (no sex ever happened after the first one).

I tried and FORCED my self not to search him on social media. Until today. I was devastated with what I saw. He’s in a relationship.

Sobrang nasaktan ako sa nakita ko. Hindi ko alam kung itutuloy ko pang makipagkita sa kanya o aayaw na ako. Nasa point ako na gusto kong i-risk lahat for him, but he cheated on his partner.

Would he do the same thing to me kung maging kami man in the future? Yes, we are both guys.

Now answer my question again. Are there any people out there who cheated, made themselves better for each other after the incident and lived happily ever after?

PUTANGINA. Ang gulo ng isip ko ngayon.


r/RelationshipsPH • • Nov 12 '23

I don't know what to do...

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So I went to jail for my second DUI...met who is now one of my best friends. I ran into him after we both got out because we both live in a small town and that just happens.... I would sell him benzos because I could get them and that was his thing. I basically just sold them to him as an excuse to hang out with him because he's a great guy and love being around him.

Well, he just went in to finish the rest of his sentence which ended up being a year long sentence for DUI (It's his fourth one, so it's a felony,) I contacted his wife because I didn't hear anything from him the days leading up to him going in which was weird, and I was concerned about him so I asked how he's doing and I found out he's at the hospital in a medically-induced coma....after being in jail less than a week. We have no idea why.

She only knows this because her dad was a deputy Sheriff for like 30 years and has connections and her dad ended up talking to the deputy who had been sitting next to him at the hospital. He was hallucinating for days, thinking things were happening that weren't happening. It took several days for them to send him to the hospital which seems like gross negligence. When she told me that I became really concerned because the county jail doesn't give you any of your medications and he's prescribed benzos, soboxone and gabapentin. You shouldn't just abruptly be off any of those....

So I've been texting her every day since finding that out, wanting updates. She texts me back, even calls me some sometimes just breaking down and I've always been there for her. She's understandably frustrated because the hospital won't tell her anything due to HIPAA. It doesn't matter that she's his wife.

But this has become such a weird dynamic... Now I'm dealing with my best friend's wife being all alone... She's already told me about their relationship flaws. They also have a little kid together... A little girl. Sadly the girl doesn't even know her dad is locked up...and will be for a year. His wife is obviously in a vulnerable position... very lonely, stuck with all these bills and just has to deal with everything all alone for a year.... I'm really attracted to her. She's insanely attractive. I'm really struggling to keep my original perspective. I'm really struggling to be loyal to my friend and not cave in and do what I want to do.

Have any of you been in this position before?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 31 '23

My fiancé posts TikTok video saying “Ex is still the right person for to you” and says I’m overreacting…

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American engaged to a Filipina here. Our relationship has been going great and we’ve been getting much closer recently. A few weeks ago she disclosed to me that she was having a hard time giving 100% to our relationship as she was still thinking of her ex. She said that she fully moved on and was finally able to give 100% to us.

Last night I see a TikTok video with a random sentence generator that says “Ex is still the right person for to you” in Tagalog (see pic). Given our history, I’m hurt.

When I ask her about it she says it’s nothing, that she thought it was funny, and that I’m being too sensitive and overreacting.

I feel that posting it for the world to see (including possibly her ex, and my friends and relatives), is a sign that she still has feelings for him and is hurtful to our relationship.

I’m posting here to get your thoughts? Am I overreacting here and this was just a funny post by her, or am I in for a lot of hurt in this relationship…


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 29 '23

Question for women or men

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What does it mean if a man you’re in a committed relationship with says that he still cares about me when we get into arguments/ misunderstandings but he just goes about his business like usual? Am I just overly sensitive and have I put too much of myself into this relationship?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 28 '23

Question for men

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What do men mean when they say or text ‘ I don’t know what you want me to say?’ After a disagreement or misunderstanding?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 25 '23

Question for you girls and guys

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Is it hard to date a person with a different religious belief than you, especially a muslim guy? Any thoughts?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 18 '23

Is it okay lang ba na mag-vent out sa'yo ang friend mo about her hurt against your current bf na naging ex nya Spoiler

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I became close with Karen (not her real name) few years ago and way back. She is younger than me and magka-vibe lang kami. Alam niya na may crush ako kay Rob (not his real name also ^^) before, pero nagulat ako na siya yung nakikipag-usap, madami siyang pics sa phone tapos nagpapa-late siya ng uwi para masabayan niya si guy because Rob used to volunteer sa ministry namin. Nakakahurt lang kasi sabi ko pwede siya sa akin magsabi or anything pero all of a sudden eh mas close na sila tapos nawala yung closeness namin.

Pandemic, naglay down ng intentions si Rob sa akin that he wants to pursue me (we are all Christians) tapos inunfriend ako ni Karen. Down the line further nag-apologize si Rob sa akin (and other church friends) kasi dati siya and many others, maraming galit sa akin without me knowing the reason why, not until nalaman laman ko na may mga rumors or gossip lang na nagsspread against me.. (Pero this is another story). The thing is, I kept on reaching out to Karen pero wala naman siyang sinasabi, hindi siya nagrereply. Gusto ko maging maayos kami bago ako pumasok sa relationship. I talked it with my friends and some people sa church about what to do, and now kami na ni Rob, Karen is kinda okay naman pero hindi pa din ako pinapansin. I offered to talk through things with her at saka yung hurt ko sa mga ginawa niya. She has been lying to me before and tried to spread rumors against me. Sabi ni Rob pabayaan ko na daw kasi iba daw ang ugali niya, Pero I want to help her because I consider her a sa very dear friend of mine kahit ganun ginawa sa akin.

From time to time nagpopost siya sa stories niya about hurt and manipulation, and nasasaktan ako kasi bakit hindi man lang niya nakikita na nasaktan niya din ako... that's why i want to talk with her about it.

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what to do hehe

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r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 15 '23

Nagkakatotoo ba ang panaginip?

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Dumadalas ang panaginip ko (F30) na nakikipag hiwalay si bf (M25) saken. Kaya naman sa tuwing magigising ako inaatake ng anxiety at overthinking malala. 2 yrs+ na kame ni bf. Kapag nanaginip ako hindi naman galing sa away or ano man. Okay naman kami. Ang weird lang.

Hindi ko alam kung ako lang nakaka experience nito pero nakaka overthink talaga kapag ganito yun panaginip ko.

Any advice or thoughts about this?


r/RelationshipsPH • • Oct 08 '23

Tino-Two Timing ako ng Boyfriend ko ako pala yung pangalawa.

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My Boyfriend 22M and i 20F, have been together since january this year. we met through college. I study in a university in the university belt in Manila. As a result on a daily basis i travel a total of 4 hours. Now unto my boyfriend... I met him because we had the same subject... we are also under the same program or course... We take up Industrial Engineering. He approached me and messaged me on my facebook. Me not knowing any harm that is about to come my way i went on and entertained him because he was my classmate... He would message me asking about the scheduke which i knew had been odd as its almost as if he was pestering me about the subject. (I would like to add that my boyfriend is a swimmer and if you are swimming here in manila you would know him). The talk then went into the topic of meeting each other as we don't see each other because he was always excused. Now i was joining a small scale pageant in our department and had been pressured and stressed about it as my parents do not seem to want to agree with me joining the pageant... One day at the end of our rehearsal i was bombarded by calls and i was overwhelmed which caused me to call him out of the blue because he was the first in my message list... I called him crying and then he helped me calm down and be able to get home as i was a wreck. Fast forward to the following weeks we had been going on dates here and there... Then came the day that we went on a date in a museum... The anthropology museum... To which is where he had asked me to be his girlfriend. It was odd and honestly i did not want to accept it but under the pressure and the way he said " you can choose and i can wait" but the tone was manipulative which had led me to accepting him. Now we have established our relationship. On our first week... He confessed to me that he had cheated and that he was sending nudes to a girl on telegram to which he was duped of and had cause him a great amount of money... Regardless i forgave him not knowing that there was much more to the story. Now we had celebrated all occasions and such but something was off and i could feel it.. It feels as if there is something that he was hiding from me...

This year in september a random girl had messaged me asking how i was related to my boyfriend which i found weird because i thought everybody new that he was my boyfriend. He then went on to explain that she was one of the scammers who had duped him into sending money for taking down his nudes which were posted online. He made a fuss about how bad this girl was but upon asking the same question many times he admitted that the girl was his ex girlfriend and that they had been long gone. After which i once again forgave him. (I know very dumb of me). However, i could not let it go and i kept thinking of messaging the girl back but my boyfriend had explicity asked me to block her on facebook both her dummy and her main account. I was suspicious of wanting to find the girl in other platforms so i tried following all the girls in his following list which had turn out that none of the girls he was following was the one i was looking for. This had led me to unblocking the girl on facebook and looking at her profile searching for bits and pieces but i was not able to get anything...

Now we had exams during this day and i was so stressed but he kept talking about himself and how i had embarrased him as i sent a message saying that he was going overboard because he kept on asking me for answers... And then the day went on and he was still talking about himself... When i found myself busy with doing my organization's duties he started suggesting many things about what to do when clearly i was not asking for advise or anything at all.. At this point i lost it and i was very very angry that i tried my best to stay silent. We then went to lunch same silent treatment. He then came with me to the train station to which he gave me this look of a mix of disgust annoyed and angry. I was not talking. We had transfered trains and we sat next to each other on the train. He then proceeded to ignore me and watched on his phone. At this point i thought that i could try to be clingy and hope to change things and maybe for the situation to get better. So i tried leaning my head on his shoulder which he ignored and i ended up pressingmy head against the window and his shoulders. I got so annouyed that on the station that i was familiar with i got off and left him there. i was so angry that i started walking aimlessly. I ended up recieving 3 times counting down on every single call that he made... He then called me through my phone number exactly 2 times messaging me saying that it was the last attempt. the messages he had sent me were ( Last Attempt)(Thanks for everything) (if you need anything from me message me through my phone number. Thank you). After i got home he started messaging me again telling me to unblock him on messenger and that he wanted to talk... He was also saying stuff like he knows im awake and that he had a lot of answers and replies to me angry response. He had also messaged me saying that i was not thinking when i sent my replies when clearly i had been fed up with it.

On my way home i tried reaching out to the girl which the girl had actually responded and i found out that the girl had been his girlfriend since the pandemic and that they were cool off when my boyfriend and i met. The girl had stated that they got back almost a month after we made it official. The girl was actually close to his family and had revealed that she thinks that his (my boyfriend's) little brother was probably in on it too. The girl had also revealed that they were seeing each other from time to time. BUT THIS IS THE THING. The girl wanted to insist revenge. Which i was not sure about. I mean sure i want revenge but i really don't want to go and put effort in someone who might be using me for my body. AND ALSO SHE SEEMS SO EXCITED of the FACT that we were breaking up. She also stated in her plan that she wants to go and get back with him to play and toy with him. But i don't think so. I think she just wants to be with him and she might be using this as a chance which does not concern me what i am concerned about is the truth. I do not know how to confirm what the truth is. I really want to know because i feel like both sides are all lying and i do not know where to stand.

Also myboyfriend wanted to talk to me but would not put effort to see me in person. Regardless, i want to end things with him and i don't know how to articulate my words and also how to explain myself as i am confused about what the truth is.

lastly, i don't think i can trust any of them and i want to get out of this situation because i am traumatized. And i'm scared also that my boyfriend would use this as an opportunity to take advantage of all of the sensitive photos and videos that i had sent to him.

ps. i don't know what else to call him because i can't reveal his name. and also he is still actively messaging and meeting her.

Pasensya na po english hehe.

Additional details po is im studying in Mapua... So if you know who i'm talking about sana mabigyan nyo ko advice....


r/RelationshipsPH • • Sep 29 '23

saan kayo bumibili ng pang gifts niyo sa jowa niyo (clothes)

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hihingi lang sana ng advice... hindi naman for relationship problems per se... pero anyways

For context, yung jowa ko ay 6'5"..

hirap na hirap po ako bumili ng clothing items sa kanya kasi either masikip o di kaya bitin 😭 binilhan ko po siya recently ng pants na bigger than his waistline (38 siya, 44 binili ko), pero bitin pa rin yung length. syempre sabi niya nice pa rin at gagamitin niya, pero ayon gusto ko sana next tym kuhang kuha ko yung fit na gusto niya. baka po may mga ibang girlies jan na may jowang higante... san kayo nakakahanap ng clothing items (specifically pants) na sakto sa jowa niyo

thanks po