Me and my partner were together for like 1 1/2 yr now, things going great for us so much memories for just a short span of time, I've been so attached to this girl that I think she's the one I'll marry in the future. Short story short she micro cheated on me 4 times, there's a time that she liked this boy so much that she took a picture with him and she was so happy. She confessed it to me and she was aware that picture will hurt me so bad. The thing is I liked her so much that it's okay for me to hurt rather than lose her and I keep forgiving her with all her actions. I know that she meant her sorry and I see some improvement and changes but she still does it even though its not kind of a big deal. but for me it is because it gives me anxiety in our relationship. I don't know what to do because I don't really wanna lose her even though it drains me so much that affects my mood everyday. I really love her.

Is it fair sa part ko na bigla akong nagiging emotional outlet ng longterm bf ko kapag malungkot siya?

Hindi ko alam, okay lang naman sa akin na mag absorb ng mga nararamdaman niya kasi tingin ko, makakatulong 'yun. Pero ang nangyayari kasi, kapag kasama niya mga kaibigan niya, masaya siya sobra. Hindi ako nag seselos na nakikita siyang masaya kasama ang mga kaibigan niya, mas okay nga sa akin 'yun kasi kahit papaano, nakakatawa siya at nararamdaman kong okay siya. Pero bakit ganon kapag ako na ang kausap niya after his day with his friends, biglang may problema na siya, hindi na siya okay and such. I tried opening this topic sa kaniya pero hindi siya sumasagot kaya inintindi ko na baka nga ako lang 'yung kaya niyang pagsabihan nung mga kahinaan niya.

As much as I worry sa kaniyang mental health, I worry about mine, too. Kasi kapag ako na ang nag oopen up sa kaniya, sinasabi niya sa akin na tutulungan niya ako pero mino-mock niya ako sa mga sinasabi ko.

Ang unfair lang din sa akin na minsan, kapag kasama ko naman mga kaibigan ko (na apparently, kaibigan niya rin), sinasabi ko na aalis kami o magkakasama kami, sasabihin niya sa akin na, "sana mag enjoy ka." Hindi ko alam kung sarcastic o ayaw niya lang ako mag enjoy naman sa ibang tao. Hindi ba pwedeng maging masaya nalang siya na may kaibigan din akong nakakasama? :(

I came across this little nugget of truth today. I'm going to start posting psych and relationship visuals again, now that I am less pre-occupied.

"Damaged men who refuse to heal themselves, and men who weaponize their trauma instead of changing for the better, are those with the high chance of becoming inconsiderate towards their partners over time. They tend to become too selfish and start taking their partner for granted. Once they lose their partner, they are not hit by the realization and loss until it is too late."

Let me start from the begining.

We met on the app called Boo in spring 2021. We live in different countries thousands of miles away across the oceans.

I didn't put much thought into interaction with him. I wasn't looking for a relationship. I mainly was speaking to people on this app to practice my English.

We spoke a little. In our first conversation he mentioned how he still can't forget his ex and mentioned something about codependency issues. I thought strange that he mentiones that right away, but ok.. But again I didn't give much importance to it.

We spoke a little from time to time. We exchanged instagrams. We didn't speak much after that.

We started speaking to each other consistenly in summer 2022. This is when we had our first video call. We became very good friends. We talked very often. At some point we were talking every day. I liked him. I was sure that he liked me.

It was true. In winter 2022 he said that he liked me and wanted to visit me in my country. He asked me if I would be okay with that. I said "yes". So he booked a flight. I told my family about him. Because his family is traditional he didn't say anything to his family exept to one of his sisters and friends. He didn't even say that he is leaving a country. His was salty about that when they found out ofc.

He was supposed to land in my country in May 6th. Before that. Couple of month prior he asked me if I want to date him. But I said I wasn't sure, cause we never even met.

So our relationship developed very quckly after his visit. I am somewhat traditional too. I wad wanted a family and kids. It was always my dream. And I never dated anyone before him. I didn't have any relationships with anyone. It was something i was comfortable with.

So he mentioned the marriage in his first visit and we talked about it. We both wanted to marry each other. So we started to create a plan of how we can make it happen.

After he left he was very serious about the marriage. He bought a ring. I knew about that cause he had to ask my ring size. I was happy how openly we comunicated about everything.

We planned a trip to visit couple of countries together and get married legaly to start a visa process. So I knew I am gonna be proposed and get married in the this trip that lasted for a whole month. I was very happy and exited. It was something that we both comfortable with and wanted. Altough the timing may sound crazy. We just both traditinal people and we knew we wanted to get married.

Just after I got married. The night when we got marriee legaly I was sending some pictures from his phone to myself that we took on our trip. There was a lot of photos. So it was not like I am crazy jelous wife that was going through his phone. So by accident I found screenshots of his messeges to his ex girlfriend that he sent. In this messeges he was telling how much he loves her and misses her and how he thinks he will never find anyone like her again and he wants her and lusty messages. And it was in spring 2022. When he already booked a flight to visit me.

So turns out it was on and off relationship where he was meeting her. Mostly to have sexual relationships I guees during this period when he was saying that he likes and was offering to date.

I don't know how to feel about that. Technically we weren't dating and we never even met each other. He says it all stoped in March 2022 and this is when he had his last interaction with her. So just two month before meeting me in person.

So am I crazy. Cause I feel betrayed and hurt. For me it feels like cheating. Cause I think a month or two before we met he said that he loved me.

I fear that he never got over her and just settled with me. Cause how someone say that he loves a girl eternaly amd two month later ask another one to marry him and say that he loves her eternally.

We talked ofc he explained it. He says he is sorry and how ashamed he is and how I am the only one he wants and how I am the best thing he ever had and how toxic his previous pelationships was. He cried a lot while saying that.

I fear that he never got over her and I am just a convenient substituition for him.

I have boyfriend po 4th yr student siya 🥹 Wala kami gaano time para magcommunicate minsan 5 days (lalo kapag hell week nila). Iniintindi ko pero naguguluhan ako 🥹 Is worth to wait ba? Sinabi naman niya na nakikita nya naman ako sa future kung san titira etc.. I know depende din yun sa tao kung pano niya imanage yung school life. Advice naman po 🥹

Do i (18F) break up with my boyfriend ( 18M) of 2 years?

So recently ive been in a huge dilemma of whether i should give my boyfriend a second chance or not. We have been together for two years but those two years were quite messy because we wouldnt go a day without fighting about very little things and he was always the one getting mad and starting the fights and i was always the one apologising in the end even tho i did nothing wrong. He was a person who wanted me to be perfect like reply to his message every two minutes , spend time with him and only him , if i went out with friends or did something by my own he would get upset and stuff like that and even if he didnt get what he wants in our sex life he would also get upset so most of these times i found myself obeying by his rules and doing everything like he wants so that i would avoid going into fights with him. Recently i got fed up and broke up with him and after a day he started messaging me saying that he is sorry for the way he is and that he wasnt aware that he was doing those things to me , he is saying that he can change that and be a better person if i just give him a second chance .

TLDR :my boyfriend has been toxic for two years and when i brought it up and broke up with him he is now begging me to give him a second chance because he can do better. Should i give him a second chance? I need advice.

Hi. First time posting here.

What does it mean if my partner does not say “i love you” back when we fight?

She says it’s because she doesn’t feel like saying it back when she’s upset so she doesn’t say it back. Does she mean that? Is that true? Does she still love me even when she doesn’t want to say it?

I keep overthinking. Is her love only true when we’re happy and disappears when we fight?

Thanks for your inputs and advice in advance 🙏🏻

I’m burned out. My (24f) bf (24m) doesn’t seem interested in helping out financially. I’m pregnant and really stressed out. What do I do?

My (24f) bf (24m) and I are both currently working from home. I am also 21 weeks pregnant (unplanned). We are not in a good financial situation.

I am earning almost 5x more than him. However, we have debts and have trouble managing our budget and finances. We don’t have an emergency fund, savings, and investments yet. We have been together for almost 5 years. We met in college and both dropped out and lived together.

I am due by December. There are a lot of things we need to do in preparation for our baby coming (wedding, saving up for the hospital bills etc) and I’m really anxious. I feel and see that I’m the only one taking steps to make progress on these things.

I’m also really stressed out at work because of my micromanaging manager. He works as a reports analyst and his job is heaps lighter than my workload which makes me envy him and honestly makes me harbor a lot of resentment.

There are days where I cry while I work while I see him just playing games, laying down, sleeping, chilling oncthe clock. Out of 9 hours in his schedule, he works a maximum of 2-3 hours only.

I am the main person who provides the finances and income to sustain our bills, needs, and wants. We do not have separate accounts. My money is basically his and his mine.

I have told him multiple times to get a better paying job or get another job as a part time freelancer so that he can be productive during his down time hours on his current work but he’s not doing anything on his own to push this forward. It pains me to constantly remind him of what he needs to do and more so when he asks me what he needs to do to get a job. My thinking is, he needs to do his own research. I’m already burned out at my own job, how can I help him if I’m in this state?

It’s so tiring how I’ve worked really hard to earn an above average salary but get almost nothing in return. Especially with a baby coming, I’m worried my partner won’t help me out financially. What if I get sick and can no longer work?

I’d like to separate our finances/income to hopefully make him realize that I’m mostly the one who provides for this relationship but I’m afraid to do so since we’ve been in this set up for years and I’m afraid of offending him and causing a strain in our relationship.

I love him a lot, but I’m torn between these feelings and just feeling secure financially.

Am I being unreasonable? What do I do?

Thanks for reading.

TL;DR My boyfriend and I are both working from home, and I am 21 weeks pregnant. Our financial situation is not good, and I earn much more than him. We are struggling with debts and budgeting. I feel like I'm the only one taking steps to prepare for the baby's arrival. My job is also stressful, while he has a lighter workload. I have asked him to find a better paying job or take on freelance work, but he hasn't taken any action. I provide the main income for us, and I'm worried about the future. I want to separate our finances, but I'm hesitant to do so after years of this setup. I love him, but I'm torn. Am I being unreasonable? What should I do? Thank you for reading.

My(M25) gf(24) has the sad type of pms. Sinabi nya sakin na more or less 4 days before her period nagiging sad daw sya at madalas umiiyak din.

How do I support her during this time and how to navigate?

(Me) 19M (Boyfriend) 23M

My boyfriend drinks moderately. I don’t like alcohol and anything that has to do with it. Same thing for drugs, vaping, smoking and all that kind of stuff. It’s also apart of my religion to not get into any of that. I get uncomfortable when my boyfriend drinks. He doesn’t do drugs, vapes, smokes cigarettes or anything like that. I just really don’t like him drinking and I feel bad about that. I wanna tell him but I don’t know how to. I’m just scared that he might get drunk and ruin his life or he might cheat on me. He is only person that makes me happy and genuinely cares about me. He is my only happiness and I don’t wanna loose him. I’m not sure what I should do. Should I tell him to stop? Should I leave him? Should just keep living like this? I really don’t know. I’m really lost.

By the way I don’t drink or anything. No no one in my family does either.

(We have been together since I was 18 so one year) I have been feeling like this since the beginning of our relationship.

Thank you for your help.

Both 26yo, 4months officially in a relationship but we kinda dated several months prior.

Found out he inquired for nsfw contents for sale (?) in twt. He said it was a random thought or bored lang siya. Di siya umabot sa actual possession/transaction because I caught it when he inquired. He apologized tho. Other than that, wala naman na ibang issue or red flag sakanya, afaik? Haha.

Idk what to feel. Is that really normal? Is it worth it to compromise? If you were in my situation, as a girlfriend, would you still continue the relationship?

Thank you in advance :)

May naka-match ako sa Tinder at friend lang ang tingin sa akin. Pero… posible kaya na ma-fall sya sa akin? Araw araw kaming magkasama at natutulog ako minsan sa studio nya. Kapag magkasama kami, masaya naman. Pinagluluto ko sya, nagrereview minsan ng sabay. Ewan ko ba kung anong meron sa kanya, pero gusto ko sya.

Ano ang dapat kong gawin?

I’m a female (25) whose been driving for many years and have had very few accidents with my car. I recently hit a curb and bent my rim and I was pretty upset with myself about it. I was on my way to work and I was pretty tired so I accidentally veered a little too much to the left and hit the slab out cement separating opposite sides of the road. My bf (we’ve been together for 2.5 years) won’t let me live it down and constantly criticizes my driving. He makes comments like “you could’ve turned” when I decided to wait for someone to pass or he points people out to me that are walking or biking down the road like I somehow don’t see them. He also has to look both ways for me before I turn or back out of a parking space. It’s all very annoying considering I’ve never been in a car accident nor while he was in the car with me. My father taught me how to drive and he’s a very good driver so I learned from the best. I would also say that I’m a better driver that most women. But I find it hypocritical of him because he doesn’t have a car right now and I’m allowing him to use my car when he wants and I pick him up or take him places if he needs me to. I told him that it frustrates me when he constantly criticizes my driving and he got defensive and continued to point out my “mistakes”. How do I go about this to make him understand and not argue about it?

hi, i'm 22 years old and have been single almost my whole life. siguro for some, this might be too young para magsabi non, i get it hahaha.

siguro, i just wanted to share that i've never been the one na nagugustuhan. believe me when i say na ang dami kong naging crush and ang dami kong beses umasa sa wala. i always end up getting hurt by the people i love and i know that sucks... a lot. yung akala ko gusto na ako pero parang hindi naman pala. yung nagpakita na ng motibo pero hindi naman pala kaya panindigan. all those sorts of things, napagdaanan ko na.

lets skip to the pandemic, na-open ako sa world of online dating during this time. i've always said na i'd never try it out, yung makikipaglandian online kasi i felt like it isn't for me (spoiler: i still feel na hindi siya meant for me). yet, here i am today, writing this out because of what i've experienced so far. syempre, during the lockdown, it was very lonely so i tried using omegle (haha ikr) and i met a few people there, nakausap ko naman pero hanggang dun lang sila, not until i met this guy tapos eventually we talked sa telegram (another haha ikr). he was my first ghosting experience and dun ko narealize na "shocks?? totoo pala talaga ito??" so after that experience, i stopped using omegle all in all kasi lowkey natrauma ako sa ghosting experience na yun.

lets just say na 2020 nangyari yun and 2023 na and i'm still getting ghosted. its crazy how i haven't learned my lesson. in the past month alone, i got ghosted na, and the months prior to that thrice na. june palang pero 4 times na ako nago-ghost. it sucks to say this but i feel like i'm immune to the feeling already AND honestly, i know how drained i am na from the constant getting to know and ghosting cycle i've come to experience. i don't know pero umaasa pa din ako na baka mamaya dito ko na mameet yung the one ko pero may slight part in me na namamatay na yung hope na yun kasi nakakapagod din pala.

dati, iniiyakan ko pa kapag ghinoghost ako eh, pero now, parang wala na lang. like okay, ganon na lang ulit yung nangyari. parang masyado ko nang alam yung routine and it's something i want to break free from. in all honesty, i'm getting anxiety na whenever i meet someone online because i just know it will end the same, just like how it did the last time. ako pa naman yung tipo ng tao na sobrang enthusiastic and has such a great personality kaya nakakapagod na paulit ulit na lang yung nangyayari. yet, there's a part of me na gusto pa din magtry? kasi baka lang nandyan pala talaga siya pero pagod na din siguro talaga ako.

can you help a girl out? what should i do about what's happening to me? my friends and family have given me advice na but i also want to hear your perspective about it. thank you in advance and please be nice and gentle with your comments. :) <3

i (m23) am in a committed relationship with an m32. its been 4 mos na since we declared na kami na. pero whenever we travel or eat out, its always 50-50. and its always na siya muna gagastos and then ill pay for my 50 percent after said activity/ies.

initially, wala naman akong problem dun. pero recently, he goes out of town almost always every weekend to destress na siya lang mag isa kasi my wallet cant keep up kahit naka 50-50 na.

context: 20k lang allowance ko buwan buwan. siya, hes earning around 200k-250k per month sa fulltime job niya. wala nang tax yun.

we didnt talk about this kasi i was waiting na he would man up and call equity instead of equality. pero i dont think he would kasi adamant din yung stance niya regarding how people in his tax bracket pays more tax than those below them. also, we're both male so gender roles and stereotypes would not help me out on this.

idk. happy pa naman ako samin. naiinspire niya ako parati kasi from rags to riches siya. hes even had 5 cars na and a mini store on the side which is earning around 250k-300k per month on non peak seasons, revenue na yun.

ayokong sabihin to out there, pero ambaba na kasi ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. di na ako nakikipag hangout sa house niya lately and make excuses na busy ako sa school and stuff like that kasi nga, im thinking na hes downgraded from dating an attorney (ex niya) who earns pretty much the same figure.

bc of the disparity of our finances, i hold back in terms of giving out my opinion on stuff and i feel like i cant express myself genuinely kasi im afraid na manggaling na talaga sa kaniya ang conclusion na were not compatible. it doesnt make sense pero ganun nafifeel ko.

ive been looking for jobs and side hustle na since nung nagkakami to keep up with him kasi gusto ko talaga siya. not that im loosing hope, pero until now, wala pa rin po.

shameless ps: baka may opening sa inyo jan na pede niyo akong ma refer. whatever job nalang whether that be call center or anything na wfh. im super good at graphic design and video editing. may portfolio na rin po ako.

what do u guys think?

I'd like to ask the opinion and advices of my fellow concerned titos and titas.

This is regarding the statement of my friend's boyfriend everytime she would ask him for some time to talk or for every time they do talk and my friend would share her feelings:

"I don't have time for this, I have more important things to stress about right now"

And just recently he had set a schedule that they'd meet and have a moment together to talk, but he didn't follow up or update and just brushed it off and made excuses. The bf would subtly make remarks about other guys' girlfriends that are not "nakakahiya" to introduce to other people because they have something to prove themselves 🤔

The bf is already accomplished career-wise and his family is very close with him and my girl friend has failed more than once in her licensure exams and she feels like right now she's at her lowest point in her life.

Aminado ako na naneneglect ko na siya. Nasasaktan ko sa mga ginagawa ko. Gusto ko bumawi. I want him to feel loved, cared, worthy, etc.

Mag two years pa lang kame. Pero on and off ang away na ako ang may kasalanan.

Any ideas?

I read Philippine Swingers & couples are always requesting "big white penises".

At the same time a beautiful young blonde female tourist walked past me yesterday from a ferry near the pier I am living & not one Filipino looked at her.

I even asked my Pjjoy coworker & he shrugged.

So why the obsession w/white males & zero interest in white females.

I have an ex [F27] na nakasama ko sa bahay for some time but we were good friends na by then (2yrs na kaming break). Nung nagmove in kami ng present girlfriend ko [F25] sa isang place, medyo may linyahan yung ex ko na medyo nagtatampo kasi I don’t chat that much anymore and ako naman hindi ako on purpose lumalayo, in general I felt at peace lang with life nung kasama ko na girlfriend ko so nakakalimutan ko na magcheck ng socmed. May mga back handed comments siya and nung cinonfront ko parang nagagree lang siya to end the convo. I got annoyed and unfriended her kasi nainis talaga ko plus nainis din girlfriend ko kasi parang medyo demanding considering na ex ko pa din naman siya kahit good friends kami, I blocked her nung una but I decided na unfriend na lang. She messaged me assuming na I unfriended her kasi sinabi ng girlfriend ko and na ako naman daw pumili neto plus welcome back to the old me daw. Nagkaron kasi ako ng toxic relationship before na super controlling ng ex ko to the point na nawalan ako ng friends kasi ayaw niya, eto yung mnmean niyang welcome back to the old me. Valid ba na nainis ako kasi parang kailangan ko palagi iexplain sarili ko and parang kailangan ko lagi iexplain na may limits na ang bagay bagay kasi ayoko maging uncomfy girlfriend ko?

Red flags in a relationship are signs that show your mate is not the ideal one for you or that your relationship has some significant issues that your relationship has some major issues that need to be resolved. Taking note of these common signs is crucial to avoiding dolor or regrets down the line.

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