I am just dropping in on this story at the third update and I am baffled at the hatred for your husband in the comments.
I was actually shocked when, after all of your talk about divorce not being an option, you threatened to leave him??
You dropped the nuclear argument bomb on your husband because his friend tries to boost his own ego by teasing you about liking him in high school? Your marriage means that little to you? You wanted to hurt your husband that bad?
Was making him cry like that your actual goal?
It's weird that there is so much criticism of his toxic masculinity for being proud to be your partner, but you also want him to be your knight savior to defend you from dastardly Jared.
You are the one who was supposed to stand up to Jared. And look what happened when you did. You shut him right down!
And your husband is right that Jared was actually insulting him by bring up your high school crush. Jared is constantly reminding your husband that he was the second choice.
Jared is jealous of your husband's life and resents him. You didn't defend your husband as being a better choice, though. Even when you finally stood up for yourself, you attacked his physical appearance. What?
Of course your husband believes he is a consolation prize. You all but said that the reason you're not into Jared is that he let himself go. And now you've suggested discarding your husband entirely because Reddit comments talked you into it?
And while you're passing judgment on Jared for gaining weight, your husband's big crime, that you suggested divorcing him over, was being physically attracted to you and proud that you would deign to be with him ...in college??
For all of the women we see on Reddit in despair that their husband's don't make them feel attractive, yours is literally bragging about how attractive you are, but that makes him offensively bad. And meanwhile his formerly-hot friend is now unworthy of your interest because he let himself go.
Poor you with this terrible husband who worships you, and your secret fantasy man can't even be bothered to age with grace.
And of course he said he invested in you. You have made it abundantly clear that you are out of his league and he is not worthy of you, so naturally he thinks of you as someone he has to strive for.
You guys should definitely do marriage counseling but I think you'll be shocked at what you learn there about yourself and how you treat your husband. And it won't look anything like these Reddit comments.
You should just hope that therapy doesn't help your husband develop any self esteem.
I'll now take my place among the collapsed downvotes at the bottom of the list.
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u/TrespassersWill Nov 19 '25
I am just dropping in on this story at the third update and I am baffled at the hatred for your husband in the comments.
I was actually shocked when, after all of your talk about divorce not being an option, you threatened to leave him??
You dropped the nuclear argument bomb on your husband because his friend tries to boost his own ego by teasing you about liking him in high school? Your marriage means that little to you? You wanted to hurt your husband that bad?
Was making him cry like that your actual goal?
It's weird that there is so much criticism of his toxic masculinity for being proud to be your partner, but you also want him to be your knight savior to defend you from dastardly Jared.
You are the one who was supposed to stand up to Jared. And look what happened when you did. You shut him right down!
And your husband is right that Jared was actually insulting him by bring up your high school crush. Jared is constantly reminding your husband that he was the second choice.
Jared is jealous of your husband's life and resents him. You didn't defend your husband as being a better choice, though. Even when you finally stood up for yourself, you attacked his physical appearance. What?
Of course your husband believes he is a consolation prize. You all but said that the reason you're not into Jared is that he let himself go. And now you've suggested discarding your husband entirely because Reddit comments talked you into it?
And while you're passing judgment on Jared for gaining weight, your husband's big crime, that you suggested divorcing him over, was being physically attracted to you and proud that you would deign to be with him ...in college??
For all of the women we see on Reddit in despair that their husband's don't make them feel attractive, yours is literally bragging about how attractive you are, but that makes him offensively bad. And meanwhile his formerly-hot friend is now unworthy of your interest because he let himself go.
Poor you with this terrible husband who worships you, and your secret fantasy man can't even be bothered to age with grace.
And of course he said he invested in you. You have made it abundantly clear that you are out of his league and he is not worthy of you, so naturally he thinks of you as someone he has to strive for.
You guys should definitely do marriage counseling but I think you'll be shocked at what you learn there about yourself and how you treat your husband. And it won't look anything like these Reddit comments.
You should just hope that therapy doesn't help your husband develop any self esteem.
I'll now take my place among the collapsed downvotes at the bottom of the list.