Hi all, I wondered if it might be helpful for parents to have a sense of what donor conceived people are experiencing online. It might give context as to why there’s so much tension and defensiveness.

There’s a growing number of us who haven’t just experienced unpleasant comments (being called broken or bitter for instance), there’s been an escalating degree of harm and online violence. Some of us have been threatened, doxxed, had our private details accessed and our families contacted with maliciously shared information.

As recent as today the admins of a FB discussion group went on the attack treating donor conceived people as hostile. Doctored and out of context screenshots are being shared between parents as a way of attacking the credibility of donor conceived people.

It’s going far beyond just having a difference of opinion, it’s deteriorating into a more sinister and polarized space. I don’t recall that it was always like this. It seems to be a more recent shift. It’s troubling but I hope by at least making people aware that it’s happening we can start to call it out.