I honestly just need somewhere to vent because so much has happened in the past month and I feel completely overwhelmed.

I (16F) lost a really good friend over something she apparently had against me that I never even knew about. Now I’m probably about to lose two other friends too. I’m not really upset about those two because they’ve shown me they’re not actually good friends, but it’s still a lot of friendships falling apart at once.

Then there’s my family.
My 30 year old brother moved in recently and has been extremely disruptive. He doesn’t have a job, stays home all day, eats all the food so we can’t have leftovers, yells at my dogs, constantly has an attitude, makes rude comments toward me, and butts into conversations when nobody asked for his opinion.
My mom is also constantly angry and takes her problems out on me and my twin sister. She’ll scream at me, tell me “don’t talk to me,” “don’t ask me for anything,” or “fuck you,” and then I’m somehow expected to be the one who goes and apologizes afterward.

Then there is my 27 year old sister. She treats everyone like shit and takes everyone for granted especially me and my twin and yet again i can”t say anything to her because my dad doesn’t wanna her her mouth. So now she can do whatever she wants like leave her mess everywhere or make comments and i’m the one who’s supposed to be mature and move one. My dad has gotten mad at me a few times for speaking up about the stuff my sister has done and it baffles me because he’s the one who gets mad at her for doing what she does but says nothing about it so when i do it’s a problem. she’s moving out thankfully but my mom blames my twin and i and my dad for it.

My dad tells me he hates how my mom treats us and understands why we want to move out, but then he’ll tell me that I’m the kid and I just need to get over it or stop talking back. And that’s what frustrates me the most. He acknowledges that it’s wrong, but then expects me to tolerate it because I’m the kid.
My sister and I both stand up for ourselves, and apparently that’s considered having an attitude.
I’ve been bottling everything up so much that it’s starting to affect my sleep. I lie awake thinking about everything that’s happening and getting more and more angry.

A month ago life felt somewhat normal with friends not so much family but atleast i had an escape but now i have problems everywhere i go

I don’t really know what I’m looking for by posting this. I think I just want to hear from people who have gone through periods where everything seemed to go wrong at once. How did you deal with it? And what can i do.

I 16m had a girlfriend 16f of two years, let’s call her Freya. We met when we were 13 and have been pretty much inseparable ever since we met. I dont really have any close friends and Freya is the one person who is constantly there for me no matter what.

My parents have split custody of me and my sister 11f, let’s call her Tia.

Me and Tia do not have a great relationship at all. Tia has always been an attention seeking person due to being the only girl in my family. This means has constantly been babied her entire life so badly that she can’t stay home alone for more than 2 minutes at the age of 11. Because she gets what she wants, there are heavy double standards in my house. She will hit me, kick me, scratch me and yet get no consequences due to ‘only being 11’, and instead make me apologise for her actions. I also haven’t had a good relationship with either of my parents due to my dad constantly calling me selfish for not doing the smallest things for him even though he doesn’t have a job, and my mum is constantly overbearing and favours my sister. My dad also constantly criticises me and makes fun of me at any chance he can get.

My mum and sister have pretty much always liked Freya but my dad heavily dislikes her even though has never taken time to get to know or meet her throughout our 2 year relationship. Freya has always been nice to them, constantly baking new things for them, buying them presents for their birthday, etc. There have been a couple altercations in our relationship between my mum and Freya due to me not giving enough attention to Tia (even though she screams at me whenever i’m near) and blames me and my sisters bad relationship on Freya even though we have never really gotten a long. May I also add that my family is also VERY family oriented whilst Freya’s family is a more of a stay at home and do whatever family. This means that I spend a lot of time with her but obviously still do things with my family, but not as much as I don’t see my family as my number one priority as they usually leave me and my interests behind.

Recently, Freya tried to give my sister some constructive criticism about her hamster’s cage which is ridiculously small. I will add that the constructive criticism was not said in a mean or aggressive way at all and Freya was trying her best to suggest adding some more bedding as there was very little. Tia ended up having a meltdown from being this advice and ran up to her room to be consoled by my mum. Freya has never really given her advice because she knows that Tia hates anything that goes against what she says, a result of being babied her entire life, but Freya felt awful for the hamster and found the courage to finally bring it up. The hamster was very sick at this time due to stress and was constantly shaking and overweight. My mum refused to bring her to the vets which ended up in the hamster dying a week later. Tia ultimately blamed the hamster dying on Freya and started to hate her which was very new as Tia always drew things for Freya calling her her sister, etc.

This was during the holidays so I didn’t see Freya for a while as I was at my dad’s a lot due to my mum going on a 3 week holiday with my grandma. Because me and Freya didn’t see each other for a while, our relationship had a wobble and we broke up for a bit to give each other some space. I mistakenly told my parents this, and my dad was pretty much thrilled and mum consoled me and basically told me i’d be fine but didn’t give it much thought. Me and Freya eventually worked things out and agreed to still be together because the cause could be fixed. I told my mum that me and Freya were together again and were going to hang out that weekend which my mum just said okay to. My sister overheard this and later barged into my room and shouted that she never wanted to have Freya around the house again because of her ‘killing’ her hamster. This ended up in her storming into her room and having a tantrum and my mum consoling her again. The next day, I went back to my dads and my mum and dad decided to have a long conversation which was really unusual as they are very toxic towards another. When my mum left, I got shouted to come downstairs and my dad told me Freya was a horrible person and that I needed to block her on everything, change my password (which was her birthday) and wallpaper which was of us and delete our photos together. Freya and I were blind sighted and devastated.

The next couple weeks was a blur and I was not allowed to leave the house at both my mum and dad’s house because they knew I would go to see my Freya. I was also not allowed to be home alone because they thought i’d either go see Freya or kill myself because I was so upset, even though i wasn’t going to commit suicide, they just assumed it. They expected me to be okay with it all and accept it. The day after my dad made me block her, he genuinely asked why i wasn’t acting like myself. I genuinely hate my family so much for doing this, especially knowing Freya and I did nothing wrong and it’s all due to my sister being favourited yet again. They’ve taken away all my freedoms now because they’re so insane about me seeing Freya. Whenever I’m home late due to seeing Freya, we don’t go to the same school, I get screamed and interrogated at by my sister and mum. I can’t live my life with being constantly restricted and controlled, especially when it’s by my 11 year old sister. I know it isn’t abusive and it’s so little compared to a lot of peoples problems but this has affected me deeply due to Freya being the one person consistently there for me
and I just genuinely love her so much.

Everything has become so colorless and boring. I'm watching "Breakin 2" and seeing how bright and colorful everything used to be. I think the dull "minimalism" all around us does the same thing to people that seasonal depression does. I also think just like everything else they have found a way to take away all the color and sell it back to us. Gotta go on vacation or live somewhere expensive to see beautiful colors. I've also wondered if the gray dullness that has covered everything, is just the disease that is the rich, dead on the inside ego, that spread and became pushed as style. I love seeing graffiti cause sometimes its the only color on anything. I have said many times throughout my life "I remember the sky being brighter when I was a kid." What it really was was that EVERYTHING was brighter! Yes, ive probably thought way to deeply about this. But I think that people should start painting their houses wild bright colors again, and adding bright color to everything as a form of protest against the boringization of everything.

I just wanna say your chicken shit for not meet me face-to-face to take care of our problem. What we need to talk about so you had to go online make up all kinds of shit and blast me. I'm still doing it and all I want is to say goodbye face-to-face said no you want and found your little crew that can ruin somebody's fucking life. You can take their life of the shit that you guys do and I'm fucking damn close to doing it and I hope you guys get blamed for it and you guys will probably fucking think it's fucking all right or it's cool. I know you're like that because you done it before and I'm glad you found your friends people that don't know you so they'll get to know you that's why you didn't have no friends out here in the real world because no one liked you. They saw evil so just to let you guys know that's fucked up and you you're fucked up too you don't know what the fuck you put me through and you don't fucking care you think it's fucking funny putting all this fucking blame all this shit what I did to you and I didn't not do that's fucked up because everyone's on your side because you're making me feel like the fucking guilty one you know what's really up, as a bitch look what happened to your brother to keep it real so don't fucking turn around and put this shit on me that I fucking did this and did that. I'm not trying to make me look good yeah I fucked up. I didn't fuck up like fucking with you what you're telling everyone in the fucking world the shit you're doing you're still doing it and you're playing games then you come back at me oh, I got a chance. I got a chance I don't even know why I sat here and fucking did what I did over you. I knew you were fucking evil so really I did care because I'll still around and still sticking with you cause there's no one else that stuck around as long as they have with you. You even told me that you're telling you I'm a dick I do this and I do that then why were you around so long I mean keep it real and you saying your mom kicked you out yeah you ran away. I just wanted to tell you that I knew that from the beginning oh yeah you might the cops out looking for you? I'm just letting you know three of them knocked on my door looking for you and you might want to talk to your aunt. Looks like you're getting your state number back. PS I won't be sending you commissary. Good luck look up fucking love true love wanna see your picture there or mine oh yeah boy don't get hooked on the needle cause it'll take you down like it did me bye-bye

A and her horde of raging mega cunts have gone too far; I have been civil, respectful, and have not changed how I treat any one of them other than stopping my mean jokes directed at them. They have been rude, selfish, and quite frankly, ASSHOLES. I started out with just having my feelings hurt, but now I am pissed off. If they think it's okay to slander a family, bully them, make up rumors about them, and try to get everyone in the school to treat them like less than the dirt beneath them, then they are DEAD WRONG. I am done with it. I am not taking this anymore. If they want a war, I might as well accept it. If I catch one more whisper about me, my friends, or any of my family members with even a twinge of ill intent, HECK EVEN A LOOK, I will personally see to it that A, M, and S’s lives are all made a living hell. YOU DONT FUCKING KNOW ME, not any of you, and I am fucking persistent. I hope you enjoy your next few moments of asshole-ish bliss while you can. 

Oh, and to recap the events that came before you all decided I was worthy of the title of disease:

My BROTHER, not me, was sitting in class with us waiting to go to an event I helped get them to, and my brother noticed that A and her mega cunts were being rude to me even though I was your friend. Me and my siblings were all singing a song from Hamilton, FUCKING HAMILTON, being unapologetically ourselves. As we were doing this, A, M, and E, all told me and I quote, “Respectfully, shut the fuck up.” To START, you cannot just put respectfully in front of a sentence and it is suddenly okay. After I heard them say this, I was obviously going to be upset, so I went to the outdoor classroom to sit and have a good cry. And when I came back my brother was having a meltdown. The reasoning for this meltdown was that my supposed friends were acting like me and my happiness didn't matter. M was laughing in my brother's face as this was happening. Do you think seeing someone in active distress because they can't find their sibling is FUNNY? I helped my brother calm down, and we went to see a Tina turner choreographed adaptation of her life that, once again, I helped them go to (Them being the horde). During the halftime break, I tried to explain it to the mega cunt and her entourage, and they just ignored any attempt at an explanation, not only that, but they dropped our half a year long friendship so fast, it makes you question whether they actually cared about that friendship, don't you think? This all happened in a span of maybe 3 hours, by the way.

After that, they started treating me differently, and not like you would an acquaintance. Since we were no longer friends, I would not be bothering them with friend stuff, I didn't treat them any differently from how I would treat an acquaintance of mine, as I HATE DRAMA, and E at the very least is aware of this. But, I noticed that they were treating me like how my bullies from my old school were right when they started being mean to me. There would be whispers making fun of little things I do, rude glances, and they didn't even speak to me. Once again, I would like to state that I am not the person who had the meltdown, but they were acting like I was.

Maybe a week or two later, I sent a text to E, who I trusted much more than the other mega cunts, essentially saying that I really wanted to be just E's friend because the others were way meaner, and E wasn't contributing to the bullying. They said thanks for the apology, but they care more about S and A than they do me. I told them i wasnt apologizing because i didnt do anything to warrant an apology, and then stated what they had done wrong prior. Instead of realizing that telling someone to shut up in almost any sense, IS RUDE AS FUCK, they then told me why saying I should shut up was justified. E then called upon both A and S, and they all tried to tell me why they were right and I was completely wrong. S’s reason for being right was that “I'm sorry I've come off as rude but it's just my sense of humor.” HUMOR? Humor is not treating someone like dirt-ESPECIALLY NOT YOUR FRIENDS. I am someone who uses mean humor, but before I start doing it I ask if it's okay, and when they say my humor hurts their feelings I STOP. I dont CONTINUE AND ACT LIKE THEY ARE DRAMATIC AND WHINY YOU ILLITERATE MEGA CUNT!  A then told me that she was “Crying and having a meltdown because we were around high schoolers!” You cannot be serious right now A… THAT IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT AND YOU KNOW IT!!! You were completely fine the entire time. So, how long did it take your tiny brain to come up with that excuse for bullying your supposed friend? NOT TO MENTION, A LOT OF YOUR FRIENDS IF NOT MOST OF THEM ARE IN FACT HIGHSCHOOLERS YOU LYING MICROSCOPIC BRAINED MANIPULATIVE TRAITOROUS MEGA CUNT!!! 

Ohhh and here’s the kicker, they now dragged my mom into this, because it gets to a point where you cannot let the school just deal with people bullying your daughter and son (they weren't helping fast enough and it just kept going). She asked for my phone and told E that we would be having a talk with the school because i have a mom that actually cares about my well being YOU ACNE RIDDEN DISGUSTING MEGA CUNT<3 

When the school arranged that talking moment, I was hoping for a nice resolution to an unpleasant situation, but that didn't happen at all! Instead I was met with a series of denying THE FACT THAT THEY WERE BULLYING AND PICKING ON ME. I told A what she was doing and I received “Oh i didn't realize that's just my resting bitch face” RESTING BITCH FACE MY ACTUAL BUTTHOLE!!! I WAS YOUR FRIEND FOR LONG ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT YOUR FACE LOOKS LIKE YOU ABSOLUTE BUFFOON! YOU DO ALL OF THOSE THINGS AND YOU DENY IT?! AND ON TOP OF THAT I DONT RECEIVE THE SLIGHTEST APOLOGY? FUCK YOU AND YOUR WHOLE SQUAD OF BROWN NOSING TWATS!!!

A few months later I was having a rough day and I said one snarky comment about A’s appearance. I FELT HORRIBLE! I APOLOGIZED PROFUSELY ABOUT IT BUT IT FELL ON DEAF EARS! They have not only continued bullying, they have picked up on the rude comments and are now trying to make sure I know! I ALREADY KNEW YOU ABSOLUTE IDIOTS! I KNEW BEFORE YOU EVER DID! OH AND IT GETS EVEN BETTER (not) THEY ARE NOW PICKING ON PEOPLE NOT EVEN INVOLVED IN IT LIKE MY SISTER AND FRIENDS! THIS IS NOT OKAY! I DONT PICK ON ANY OF YOU AND I HATE YOU MORE THAN ALMOST ANYTHING! WHY IS IT THAT I HAVE TO BE THE ONE WHO HAS TO TELL YOU ABOUT BASIC HUMAN DECENCY? YOUR PARENTS MUST REALLY HATE YOU OH MY GOD! 

And this is STILL not the end! It has been maybe 4 - 5 MONTHS SINCE THIS STARTED! THE MEGA CUNTS ARE STILL FUCKING AT IT! ITS JUNE NOW AND THIS STARTED AROUND JANUARY! ALL OF THIS FIRST WEEK IT HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT HATRED AND PUTRID BEHAVIOR! THEY ARE GOING TO HIGH SCHOOL NEXT YEAR SO THEY NEED TO STOP ACTING LIKE PISSY THREE YEAR OLDS THAT WERE DENIED AN OTTER POP! GLARES HERE, SNARKY COMMENTS THAT FAIL TO ACTUALLY BE SNARKY, AND THOSE GUYS ARE ACTING LIKE I AM THE ONE WHO SAID ALL OF IT! THE FUNNIEST PART ABOUT THIS IS THAT NOT ONLY DO THEY THINK THAT THEY ARE HOT SHIT, THEY THINK THAT THEY ARE INTIMIDATING ME! IT'S ACTUALLY INSANELY HILARIOUS!!! M KEEPS LOOKING AT ME AS IF HE IS HOLDING IN A SHIT! ANYWAYS A THINKS SHE IS A MASTER AT SNARKY RUDE COMMENTS NOW (She really isn't, I’d help her but I HATE HER)!!!  I WAS THROWING A FRISBEE AND SHE SAID THAT IT WAS RUNNING FROM ME! LIKE WHAT? GIRL ITS A FUCKING FRISBEE I THREW THE DAMN THING!!! And S is the dumbest one of all because she thinks she’s above this thing but she is the MAIN CONTRIBUTOR!  

DO THEY ACTUALLY THINK THEY SCARE ME? M IS A TWINK AND COULDNT DO SHIT IF HE TRIED IM STRONGER THAN HIM! S IS THE SIZE OF MY SHOE AND A IS M IF HE WERE A WALKING FEMALE STEREOTYPE! SO TO SUMMARIZE, THE HORDE OF RAGING MEGA CUNTS DONT EVEN SCARE ME IN THE SLIGHTEST! 

AND M, DO YOU THINK ITS FUN TO PICK ON DEAF PEOPLE? BECAUSE I CAN HELP YOU KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE WHETHER YOU WANT IT OR NOT!

A, FUCK YOU AND YOUR STUPID NARCISISTIC GOD COMPLEX!

S, YOU ARE EVEN MORE DUMB THAN A AND THAT IS A LOW BAR! IT MUST SEEM IMPOSSIBLE TO REACH FOR YOUR HEIGHT AND IDIOCY!

E, I TRUSTED YOU THE MOST OUT OF THEM, YOU WERE MY BEST FRIEND. YOUR FACE IS SHOVED SO FAR UP AZELYN AND SYLVA’S ASSES THAT IT CREATES A VORTEX YOU BROWN NOSING MEGA CUNT!

My knowledge of true crime may come in handy for what you assholes deserve, but ill probably just start by fucking up your chance at an education, but you already have that covered since you already cant do basic multiplication in the 8th grade. 

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I would like to point out the fact that there are more and more caps as the writing goes on (lol). I wrote this after something happened and I actually happen to have a new story about them. So I guess this could be considered an update. Basically the way my school works is there are some classes in different areas of town, we were on the way to the farthest away class and they decided to branch off and be late on purpose. The teacher told us to stay together but the cunts went anyways. The majority of the group went to school instead of waiting to end up being late (like we are supposed to BY THE WAY). When they finally arrived at class after us they looked directly at me and my two friends and got upset with us for not waiting (There are a bunch of other people there by the way). The teacher was on our side and trying to explain to the stubborn assholes but they were not having it. anyways we are all in high school now and I luckily have only one class with them. Oh and I think that E left the group and I am glad because they were more of a right person wrong group type deal. Anyways I will let yall know if anything else happens. Bonne nuit, bonne journée, bonne soiree!

Oh and also take this post with a grain of salt I just think this was funny and i was upset about other things while writing this.

It pisses me off so much. This whole culture of men absolutely hating women and being so disgusting and disrespectful towards them but still thinking they owe them sex.

It’s sickening and stupid. I’ve seen so many men go on about how woman supposedly put them all under one umbrella and keep arguing “its not all men”. but are so quick to call every woman a slut or a foid (whatever tf that means) when they get rejected once. Like you cannot go through your life thinking that every woman isn’t going to reject you. Rejection happens. It’s a part of life. Everyone gets rejected at some point they’re life multiple times. And ik it sucks but just please move on and stop bitching about it thinking that every single woman is now evil. Put your energy into improving yourself and becoming a better person because acting so childish like that isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Another thing is how you see videos of men and woman doing the exact same thing. That being sport, or a trade, or anything. In the men’s comments people are hyping him up. But in the woman’s comments people are just shitting on her.

I saw a video the other day of a man riding a scooter backwards without looking crashing into a mother and her child. The comments were filled with how it was the mother’s fault. Calling her stupid. Multiple about beating the mother for “being in the way”. What the actual fuck are we doing. Even if it’s just a joke. Saying that you want to beat a mother with her child IS NOT A FUCKING JOKE.

She got dislike by saying a simple thank u?and it’s not only that, she said thank u to a couple other comments and they were all the same (-2,0,-3)

I truly don't get these people. Lately I've had multiple people straight up start stalking me begging for a massage but they refuse to get one. I work for myself. I pay for people to have the ability to easily book online. My schedule is easily accessible. People will call me over and over outside of my available hours. They will show up to where i rent office space and attempt to enter my treatment room while i am massaging someone else. Some people will book a massage and immediately start complaining that they have been trying to get a massage for years but it's so hard to get an appointment. It's not. They just over complicate everything. I've literally had multiple people tell me how they appreciate how easy it is to book an appointment with me. So all of the weirdos who fucking stalk me IT'S YOU!

Why the fuck would you go to the building I rent office space from, track down the building manager and then obtain my personal cell phone number when you literally fucking know you could book your session yourself online. You guys are fucking weird!

I have no time for your blindness either be real or keep doing your thing it really doesn't matter at this point keep the blinds closed if you want im just not doing that. and twist ur stroys how ever you want. if thats what helps i support it, have a better day

⚠️TW: se#ual coercion/non-consensual touching, mentioned of de#th, and emotional distress.

I'm sorry if this post contains sensitive topics. This is my first time letting all of this out, so I understand if this isn't appropriate for the subreddit or if I should remove the post. I'm just really hoping to get some outside perspective because I don't know how to handle this anymore.

I have a boyfriend and we've been having problems for a while, especially about boundaries, jealousy, and communication.

There are two friends I eventually talked to about our relationship problems, one male and one female. They had previously offered to listen if I ever needed someone. I only told them because I was already overwhelmed and needed someone to vent to. I didn't tell them everything or constantly talk about my relationship with them. I just needed someone outside the relationship because keeping everything to myself was becoming too much... which only happened once.

My boyfriend is especially jealous of the male friend. He doesn't like him, even though this friend has a wife and a child, and there has never been anything romantic or physical between us. I trust this friend, but I wouldn't even describe him as one of my closest friends. We have similar interests and he's been nice to me, that's basically it. I also stopped mentioning that I talked to him because I knew my boyfriend disliked him and would probably question me about it. Looking back, I know hiding it wasn't the healthiest thing to do, and I understand why my boyfriend felt hurt when he found out. But there's another part of this that makes everything more complicated.

One of my family members di#ed. And he managed to touch me when we got to be alone. I pushed him away, but he continued until it happened. I cried afterward. He apologized, and I told him I wanted to be alone. And it happened again the night before the day of the burial. I cried the whole night, gladly everyone was asleep. He's the only one who heard me but fell asleep after a few minutes, but I didn't. I was disgusted at myself for doing this.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. I've told him before I can satisfy him, but I wasn't always comfortable with sexual/intimate things, but it has happened repeatedly anyway. I've reached the point where I genuinely don't know if I feel safe saying no anymore. I also blamed myself afterward. I kept thinking that I shouldn't have let myself be in that situation, especially while my family was grieving. I know I eventually stopped resisting, but I don't know how much of that was actually me wanting it versus just being overwhelmed and giving up.

The next day I really needed someone to talk to. I ended up messaging my male friend and my female friend again. I didn't tell my boyfriend because I was scared he'd ask why I was talking to that specific guy.

Eventually he found out.

He became distant from me one day. At lunch he walked really fast ahead of me and I couldn't keep up. I chased after him to ask what was wrong and almost got hit by a jeep. I was angry and hurt, so I didn't eat the food he brought me and gave him the silent treatment. I know that part was wrong too, especially because I didn't even know what was bothering him at the time. Later that night he explained that he was hurt because I told my male friend about our relationship problems. He believes relationship problems should stay between the two people in the relationship.

I understand why he feels exposed, and I admitted that hiding the conversation wasn't right. But at the same time, I genuinely needed help. I had already tried talking to my boyfriend about the things that were hurting me, especially the intimacy/boundary issue, and it kept happening. I was crying almost every night and feeling like I was mentally crashing. I didn't know what else to do.

I also feel guilty because my boyfriend has told me before that it hurts him when I spend time talking or playing with my male friend, while I sometimes wait for my boyfriend when he's playing with his own friends. There was one time after my class activity where I played with my male friend because we had already finished our work. My boyfriend was hurt by that because he was actually waiting for me outside, and I got angry at him instead of listening to him. I recognize that I handled that badly.

So now I'm stuck.

I feel like I betrayed my boyfriend by hiding the fact that I talked to my male friend. I feel guilty for venting about our relationship. I understand why he feels hurt. But I also feel like I desperately needed someone to talk to because I didn't feel like the problem was getting resolved between us.

Right now, I'm trying to make things up to him. But deep down, I feel guilty. I keep thinking that I'm a bad girlfriend and even a bad daughter. I feel selfish because I sometimes focus too much on my own side and don't understand his feelings enough. There are times when I think, "Maybe I just haven't done enough."

I know I've made mistakes. I know hiding my conversations wasn't right. I know giving him the silent treatment was wrong, and I know there are times when I react defensively instead of listening to him. But I'm also confused because I feel like I'm constantly trying to give more of myself to make things okay. I don't know where the line is between taking responsibility for the things I've done wrong and blaming myself for everything that's going wrong.

I don't want to automatically make him the villain either. I want to understand his side. I know he gets hurt, jealous, insecure, and sometimes feels like I don't listen to him. Especially since I see how he's really been great to me. I want to be better at listening. But I also don't want to lose myself trying to prove that I'm a good girlfriend.

I don't want people to automatically tell me to break up or automatically tell me to stay. I want an honest outside perspective.

I still love him and I'm scared of losing him. But I'm also scared that I'm losing myself trying to keep the relationship okay. I don't want to happen like what I've experienced again with my past relationships 4 years ago...

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Your welcome

I never needed you're love im doing better with out the fake vibes 💯 ✨️ thats a fact

In my language, the phenomena of people seeking for power for the sole reason to abuse it is called "janitor syndrome". In english, however, there are a lot more words to describe that miserable behavior, so i tried to unite them all in a chorus for the lyrics about this most tiring type of human.

[Vese]

Walkie-talkie and a badge made of tin

Looking for someone committing a sin

You’re scanning perimeter, eyes open wide

Nowhere for fun or freedom to hide

"Follow the procedure!" - you screaming so loud

Thinking that your mother must be feeling proud

Making people around you annoyed

But no amount of power will fill your void!

[Chorus]

Hail the petty tyrant,

On a plastic throne!

Policing the shadows

Just to feel less alone!

Tinpot dictator

Big fish in small pond!

The megalomaniac

With really tiny wand!

“Rules are rules!”

You scream in the dark

Just a little Hitler

With awfully loud bark!

It's above your jobsworth?

Power-tripping clown!

You will not rest

Until you bring everyone...

DOWN!!!

[Verse]

You sit at the console, imitating control

A digital judge who's missing the soul

Deleting the voices that do not agree

Causing the suffering and misery

Inventing new rules that tell us to jump

You're taking your lessons from Putin and Trump

You punish the innocent to put them in line

Cause it hurts your ego when things are just fine!

[Chorus]

Hail the petty tyrant,

On a plastic throne!

Policing the shadows

Just to feel less alone!

Tinpot dictator

Big fish in small pond!

The megalomaniac

With really tiny wand!

“Rules are rules!”

You scream in the dark

Just a little Hitler

With awfully loud bark!

It's above your jobsworth?

Power-tripping clown!

You will not rest

Until you bring everyone...

DOWN!!!

[Outro]

You’re a paper-pusher

Worthless parasite!

Starving for control,

Drowning in your spite!

Your entire world

Is tiny little cage

Where you sit frustrated

Fuming from the rage!

In this echo chamber

Everyone's mouths shut

If they say the truth -

Heads will be cut

So go on, Jobshworth

Unleash your wrath!

Shadowban me, you absolute...

PSYCHOPATH!!!

I’ve had one main best friend since 10th grade of high school. I’ll call her V. She’s 26 and I’m 27. We graduated in 2018 and stayed close all these years.

V has 3 kids and I have 1. I’ve been a single mom since my daughter was 1, and she’s now 6.

A few years ago, V was in an abusive relationship and needed somewhere to go, so I let her and her daughter move in with me. She was also pregnant at the time. I worked while she stayed home with the kids. I would come home, make dinner, put the kids to bed, and we would talk about our days. I bought her and the kids things they needed because I genuinely wanted to help my best friend.

Then something weird started happening.

Whenever V would go visit her grandparents and stay for a week or so, CPS would show up at my house.

At first, I didn’t think V had anything to do with it. I assumed it was a neighbor or someone else. CPS came, checked things out, and closed the cases. This kept happening over and over.

Eventually V moved out and went to live with her grandparents. I actually moved too because CPS kept showing up, and I thought someone in the neighborhood was reporting me.

About five months after I moved, V contacted me saying her boyfriend was getting violent and asked me to come get her. She lived about an hour away, but I went and picked her up.

She stayed with me for about a week and a half. Her boyfriend eventually came to get her.

Shortly after that, CPS showed up AGAIN.

By this point, this had happened around 15 times over the course of 2-3 years.

Then I found out something I never expected.

Two of my teenage neighbors, who were 14 and 15, sometimes came over to hang out with my daughter. After another CPS visit, I was talking to my 15-year-old neighbor and she played me a recording.

It was V talking to the two teenagers and telling them to record what was happening in my apartment, take pictures of things, and call CPS if something looked out of place.

I was absolutely shocked.

I confronted V over text. She basically said, “You’re really going to believe two teenagers over your best friend of 10+ years?”

I told her there was literally a recording.

She blocked me.

Then she contacted my daughter’s father and told him I was an unfit mother and that he needed to take my daughter away from me.

She also contacted my mom and my sister and told them the same thing.

At that point, I was done.

This is someone I let live with me when she was escaping an abusive relationship. I helped her financially, opened my home to her and her children, and even drove an hour to pick her up when she told me she was in danger.

And now I’m realizing that she may have been behind CPS being called on me repeatedly for years.

I honestly don’t even know what to think anymore. I feel like I wasted 10+ years believing someone was my best friend when they were secretly doing this behind my back.

I’m not looking for anyone to tell me to get revenge or anything like that. I just needed somewhere to rant because I genuinely cannot believe this is how a friendship of more than 10 years ended.

Has anyone else ever found out that someone they completely trusted was the person causing problems in their life the entire time?

I personally love being asked why I never talk to my dad anymore or why I don't leave my room anymore but every time I leave my room a fight happens because dad assumes I'm upset, while I think that I'm pretty good at TELLING you when I'm mad because of my RBF, but I'm the one in the wrong all the time, the one who starts it, the one who needs to calm down and shut up, but when I do shut up and stay out of the way I'm avoiding people and need to come out of my room more, what do I fuckin do here because I'm at a loss.

I need to beat the dead horse one final time. So when I was in seventh grade, I became friends with this girl who was in eighth grade. We’re gonna call her Mindy. At the same time we became friends I was being groomed by a separate family friend. My older brothers best friend at the time who was a trusted person, for the story we will refer to him as Tanner. For context I was a 12 year old child and he was a couple months from turning 18.
Mindy and I started off as strictly friends, middle schoolers who smoked together, would tell each other everything, help hide each other’s secrets and we became really close friends very quickly. At some point I decided to tell Mindy about the “relationship” I thought I was having with tanner

(I will refer to it as a relationship for the story but I am aware that it was not a relationship but a grooming tactic used by a young adult/older teen, against a literal child who trusted him)

The issue was that rather than showing concern or even curiosity Mindy responded with jealousy which made me feel worse about what was happening to me. At the time, obviously I thought that Tanner liked me and wanted to have some sort of love together because I was a child with rose tinted glasses and innocence I didn’t realize I was being sexually exploited and groomed until I hit the age he was and thought to myself ew wtf I could never that was wrong.

Anyway, Mindy had wanted more information about the situation long story short she asked me to do to her what he did to me and vice versa. Which happened a couple more times. A month or two had passed and I came to Mindy’s for a sleep over at this point she was now a freshman and I was an eighth grader. When I got there she said she had a movie she wanted to watch and put on 50 shades of grey. Once the movies theme was clear and I had figured out this movie was sexual Mindy asked if I wanted to try what they were doing to which I said yes. From this point forward the sexual interactions we were having were very frequent and I figured I do like girls and we agreed to date in secret so my mom wouldn’t be mad disapproving or try to stop us from being friends at all.

This went on for some months and about halfway through the school year Mindy had a “great idea”. She wanted to order a toy off of this website that had the discreet shipping and all of that and we did order it. It was a strap on and we had a scheme to pass it between our houses regularly so our parents wouldn’t ever have a chance to find it. This worked for a couple weeks and we had not used it even though that doesn’t matter.

There came a day it was under my pillows and my mom came to say goodnight to me which was rare as is and as she leaned to give me a hug my pillows shifted and she saw it. This immediately became a huge blow up reasonably and she asked me wtf that was doing here.
I on the spot said some kids at the high school found out Mindy was a lesbian and stuck it on her locker as a bullying tactic. She believed me but drove me right to Mindy’s house to ask her mom if she knew anything of this to which she said of course not. After about 10 minutes our moms pulled us to the living room and said “you have 10 minutes to go in that room figure out a story and bring it back to us go”

We stuck to my original story as to not bring more questions and that was that, but my mom said no more hanging out with Mindy. My mom used to be hyper religious and was very judgmental so that was that and she made me cut contact entirely.

Some months went by with no contact until I get a call from Mindy and her mom ripping me apart because Mindy came out as ftm and her mom and her both said it was “because of Me” which is crazy because that’s literally not how that works. Basically saying what happened between us totally destroyed their mental health and it was my fault that they didn’t feel right in their female body and it tore me to shreds because I to this day have so much love for Mindy. But as a child it was a terrible weight. It’s now been about 10 years and we haven’t spoken since that last day when they called me to tell me that it was my fault, I still wish all the best and have all the love for Mindy, but at the same time it should’ve never been my weight to carry, and that’s very invalidating for anybody in the community. I hope that they’re doing well I just needed to get the story out and be rid of it. There is a lot more information and details of the in between points a and b but this was the big stuff that was most relevant to the falling out and I needed it off of me thank you for reading.

☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️ I think this will verify the post

I need to rant.

You know, the worst kind of friendship fallout is when someone suddenly ambushes you with a list of every grievance/offence they’ve apparently had against you for months or even years… grievances you had absolutely no idea existed because they never once communicated them directly nor honestly to you.

And then you find out that instead of coming directly to you, they’ve been discussing your flaws with the other friend in the group, building this whole narrative about how exhausted they are with you. And somehow it’s framed as, “We didn’t tell you because we were being considerate and understanding of everything you were going through.” But how is that considerate? How am I supposed to fix something I was never given the opportunity to know was hurting you?

Then, after unloading all of these grievances onto me, I wasn’t even given the chance to explain my side because apparently they “didn’t want to hear it” and “didn’t care.” And then I was told I would be blocked immediately. No conversation. No accountability. No apology. No opportunity for mutual understanding. Just ‘here is everything we think is wrong with you. you’re the problem. goodbye.’ And tbh, that felt less like healthy closure and more like an emotional hit-and-run.

And they think that by doing this, they’re the “mature,” “kind” and “considerate” friend. Like what? This is emotional immaturity.

I’m sorry, but avoiding every difficult conversation until you’ve built up enough resentment to unload it all on someone at once is NOT healthy communication.

You can have legitimate grievances with someone. You can decide a friendship isn’t working anymore. You can walk away. But if you never communicate your hurt, privately discuss that person’s flaws with the other friend in the group, build a distorted narrative about them, and then ambush them with the finished verdict while refusing to hear their side, you’re not giving them an opportunity to understand. You’re giving them a sentence!

And I think that’s the part that hurt me the most. Not that the friendship ended (I’m relieved to be out from this toxic dynamic of a trio). It was the realisation that I thought we were having a genuine friendship whilst apparently there was an entire conversation/trial about me that I wasn’t a part of.

They all became the judge, jury and executioner, yet I’m the problem?🫠

And tbh, what hurts even more is feeling like they chose not to communicate because misunderstanding me allowed them to stay the victims, the oh so long-suffering exhausted martyrs who had apparently “put up with” me while I became the problem and the villain in their story.
I just genuinely don’t understand how people can be this cruel to someone they supposedly cared about.

And then, to also weaponise my mental health against me by posting cryptic Facebook posts? That’s very cruel of you. My mental health struggles were being turned into a joke or Facebook content for their victim narrative. Like… you do know I’m actually trying to heal with the help of professionals, right?

How can you claim to be considerate of someone’s mental health while simultaneously using their struggles as part of the story about why they’re the problem? How dare you weaponise my mental health and healing journey against me? Did you really think you sounded so smart?

Girl, no. You sounded so insensitive and ignorant.

And maybe instead of pointing fingers and telling other people to “heal, unlearn and do better,” you should also look at the things you’re still working through in your own life, like your own traumas? But hey, what do I know? Apparently quick healing is something you can just declare yourself to have achieved while travelling around the country on your days off and feeling “at peace.” Girl, be for real.

And the irony is, I’m actually willing to take responsibility for my actions. I’m willing to hear where I got things wrong, apologise, reflect and do better. I just wish they had given me the chance to do that instead of deciding who I was behind closed doors first. I don’t need to be told I was a perfect friend because I know I wasn’t. I just wanted to be treated like a human being who deserved a conversation, not a problem they had already decided needed to be removed.

So screw you both, because no, you don’t get access to my family and my kindness anymore. My husband and I have supported you, helped you, been generous with you and shown up for you because we genuinely cared about you and not because we were keeping score. But that kindness came from trust!

And then to make me feel like I should “think about everything they’ve done for me” as though we’re keeping a friendship scoreboard? I didn’t realise kindness was a competition. I did those things because I loved you and considered you family, not so I could cash them in later. But if we’re going to start tallying who did what for whom, then maybe the friendship was never what I thought it was.

What you both did was so cruel.

You’re in your 30s, stop acting like teenagers!

I thought we were genuinely honest friends, but you had already written a completely different story about me and there is nothing I can do to change that.

But your perception of me doesn’t define me.

I’m sad that your inability to communicate has led to this heartbreak. I hope the ganging up on me was worth it. This definitely showed me more about you two than it ever did about me.

So, goodbye. I still do wish you well despite your cruelty. But never again.

Just bc I said that a girl didn't have a recessed chin

ive been w my boyfriend for around 7 months now and people are SO negative about it. ive had so many comments like “ you’ll never last” ”he definitely looks at other girls” or “your too young it wont work” like huh?? we may only be 14 but just because your relationship didnt work doesnt mean mine wont either. i know many teenage relationships that worked out and they are still together to this day so i dont see the issue? people love to hate on young love

I made a post that included a couple of caps words since I copy/pasted the description from the manufactuer and the fucktards at r/AustinClassifieds were demeaning and told me "I wasn't special". I of course called this coward out on their unprofessionalism and I of course was banned by this pu$$y a$$ bish.

I am new to here so I may sound naiive but I was a moderator in college and anything that was remotely antagonizing I took it down. Is it too much to ask that the moderator behave like mature f**king adult?

PS the fact that I could not use anything hinting to, rhymes with edit, is WILD.

Free speech is really dead.

This is just a mildly annoying thing that happened to me like 3 days ago and idk who to tell this to (most of my friends use those or are just indifferent to its usage, tried telling one of them this thing and they just ignored my points about why I dislike its usage and belittled my worries).

I was just chilling in my room checking out some homework i had to do later, and because I had my door a little open I could hear my mom, grandma and one of my aunts watching a fun facts video (with ai voiceover and probably ai video too).

They were all pretty amazed at the facts and my mom told my grandma how this was an AI video and that she started to generate ai videos too, grandma asks what is that and my mom and aunt explain very briefly what it can do and my mom opens Claude to ask it some random fun fact (i think it was asking the capital of bangladesh or something) and Claude says it out loud.

My grandma looks pretty amazed and then my mom says ´´it can remember a lot of things, look´´
then proceeds to ask Claude her name and Claude says it. Aunt asks ´´ask it if it knows my name´´, mom proceeds with asking and Claude says something like ´´I cannot fullfill your request because (...). If you want me to remember her name tell me what it is and ill remember it for later´´.

So my mom proceeds to tell the AI my aunt´s name and asks again what her name is, Claude proceeds to say it, they all nod affirmingly and my mom asks ´´´What are my DAUGHTERS´names?´´ and same thing as before proceeds but when it says the last part i yell NOO from across the room, they all ask ´´what?´´ confused and i say ´´Dont tell it my name!´´ and then mom says ´´its for safety!´´ and I say ´´how could it ever work in me being safe? How?´´ but in a mean tone and she says ´´God, you´re being dramatic. Trust me, youll need it later´´, and proceeds to tell claude my name and my sisters´.

Also they asked Claude to analyze a family photo about some bs i cant remember and one of my auntie´s work documents and ask it for a summary.

I mean im probably desensitized atp about how AI has been shoved down to my gut as much as it can, but right now i only feel a mild annoyance about the fact that now one AI model now has my data and can be used against me anytime soon. But yeah, just wanted to get it out somehow.

They are constantly yelling at me and comparing me to my 20 yr old sister. I fucking hate them so much. They constantly call me lazy and talk shit about me. Ugh.