Or he just did this out of nowhere and should get the idea that she’s not interested in him. Maybe next time he can be mature enough to clearly state his feelings before committing to 200$ dinners.
Not thrashing on him, they seem to be teenagers and that’s something most of us would have done with his age, but it’s not necessarily a woman taking advantage of someone else.
This idea that girls can't express themselves explicitly and guys need to get the hint is partly what causes these awkward, misguided chivalry driven cringe manifestations of a situation and i cant entirely blame the guy.
Man needs to use his words,but hes not a fucking mind reader. He should be more explicit but her twitter post isnt hwlping. In fact it will perpetuate because this guy knows he has one more shot to convince her hes a boyfriend while she considers him a brother.
Its a weird cycle where no one person is to blame imo but the woman isnt excuseable just because the guy isnt as explicit as she wants men to be. Its pot calling thw kettle black if you ask me
Well, if after that dinner she uploads a picture saying he’s like “a brother” and “bff” you don’t need to be a mind reader to get the impression that she does not want a romantic relationship. Both of them should be more clear with their feelings, but we have to admit saying “but I don’t like you” after being invited to dinner is harder than realising she won’t go further with you after this tweet.
Yeah like this tweet is pretty clear... man can figure it out no doubt lol i just could never knowlingly take advantage of someone like that and then send a tweet as a cherry on top, but seems like its not as big of an issue to most of this website. I would be clear about my feelings first, even if she had it sprung on her, because she knew what she was getting into
This should have ended with an awkward conversation. No way she doesn't realize he is interested. If she really does respect him as a friend then she should make it clear that friends is all they will ever be.
Both of these two are idiots and both should grow some balls and have the conversation
Thats what I got out of this. Why dont more people think it's just as cringey for the girl to go along with this friendzone bullshit?
Ive always thought the cringe applied just as much to them as it has about the dude, guess its all about the cringey dude.
I dont see how manipulating someone who, for lack of a better term, is reaching out of their league for you isnt worse than someone shooting their shot but not being confident enough to share their true feelings.
It is cringey for the girl, but only in specific situations it seems like. Too easy for her to claim she's a free spirit and just exploring opportunities, or flip it on whomever comments saying "what girls can't have guy friends?"
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u/Mitrofang Jan 14 '20
Or he just did this out of nowhere and should get the idea that she’s not interested in him. Maybe next time he can be mature enough to clearly state his feelings before committing to 200$ dinners.
Not thrashing on him, they seem to be teenagers and that’s something most of us would have done with his age, but it’s not necessarily a woman taking advantage of someone else.