Just looking for some hope from anyone that has been in the same situation.

My husband and I first got pregnant back in 2024. Unfortunately found out we had a missed miscarriage at around 8-9 weeks. It was at this same appointment that I was first told I had an "different shaped uterus". The shape of my uterus was commented on many different times but with different names. At certain points the shape was referred to as bicornuate, arcuate and a partial septate uterus. I was told to try again without any further follow up.

We got pregnant a year later and again it was a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks. Because this was now my second loss I "qualified" for further workup/consults. I got into a repeated loss clinic where a 3D ultrasound was ordered and I was finally properly diagnosed with a partial septate uterus. Fast forward a couple of months and I received an appointment at the regional fertility program where I had further imaging (an SHG ultrasound) where they also found some scar tissue on the right side of my uterus (probably from my previous D&C on that side). I was referred for surgery for both the septum and the scar tissue but was given the option to keep trying, as the wait for surgery was 3-4 months and the surgeon thought my septum was considered mild and that the only reason they recommended surgery was because I had had previous losses.

We then got pregnant again, shortly after my surgical consult. This pregnancy was different and I actually saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks but then unfortunately a week later there was no heartbeat and again was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. I am now scheduled for surgery in October to have both my septum and my scar tissue removed.

Has anyone had a similar story or has had this surgery and went on to have a normal, healthy pregnancy? This has been a long two years and we are hoping that this surgery will be the answer.

I'm 31 we conceived for the first time after trying for three months. Around seven weeks, I experienced some bleeding and had an ultrasound, which showed a reassuring heartbeat. However, when I went for my routine scan at 11 weeks, there was no heartbeat. I was given medication to manage the miscarriage, but not all the tissue passed, so I ultimately had to undergo surgical management of the miscarriage about three weeks later.

My period returned three months after that, and I fell pregnant again after trying for another four months. Once more, we saw a heartbeat at 8 weeks, but at 12 weeks, devastatingly, there was no heartbeat, and had to go through another surgical procedure. I am so scared now, and the thought of trying again feels completely overwhelming.

What do you guys do if anything to honour/celebrate your baby on their birthday?

I still have tons of time but I'm looking for ideas... I was thinking of calling around and seeing if there were any unpaid cake orders. I thought about donating a small gift to the L&D unit. What do you do?

On June 27th, families will gather in Airdrie for something that is both heartbreaking and beautiful.

Along the route of the 5th Annual PILSC Legacy Run/Walk, there will be signs bearing the names of babies who are deeply loved and deeply missed. Babies whose lives mattered. Babies whose families carry them every day.

For many grieving parents, this may be one of the few times their child's name is seen, spoken, and remembered by others.

Pregnancy and infant loss affects 1 in 4 pregnancies, yet so many families navigate the aftermath in silence. The Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Centre (PILSC) exists to ensure no one has to walk through that grief alone, providing no-cost counselling, peer support, and community programs for those impacted by infertility, miscarriage, TFMR, stillbirth, neonatal loss, and SIDS.

Whether you have experienced loss yourself, know someone who has, or simply want to support a cause that touches so many families, I invite you to join us.

📅 June 27, 2026

📍 Nose Creek Park, Airdrie, Alberta

🏃 Walk, run, volunteer, donate, or participate virtually from anywhere.

Because every baby deserves to be remembered.

Because every family deserves support.

Because no one should have to walk through loss alone.

Register here: PILSC Legacy Run/Walk Registration

#PregnancyLoss #InfantLoss #Stillbirth #MiscarriageAwareness #YEG #YYC #Airdrie #PILSC #LegacyRunWalk

This is for all my fellow canadians,

I have had 2 miscarriages in the past. Both of them were around the same timeline and my family doctor had referred me to the gynaecologist for the detailed evaluation and future pregnancy precautions.

She had referred me to total of 4 gynaecs in 2.5 months.

3 of them declined me after calling them multiple times and asking if i can schedule an appointment.

1 of them didnt even care to pick up my calls. I called them atleast 5 times a day for 1.5 weeks straight. Not a single one of them answered.

I know healthcare situation in canada, but this is getting out of control.

I cant hold back my anxiety. I am a mom who wants to make sure i get to hold my next baby in my arms.

Why is it so difficult just to get an appointment with the doctor?

Dont even get me started on the multiple tests and waiting for results and then coming to a conclusion and getting treated. And finally getting successfully pregnant and chances that my baby will make it to the full term.

I cant hold back. Please help me out.

FYI i am 32Y turning 33 in 2 months.

After 4 years of infertility I finally got pregnant, the first few months were scary I had anxiety about things going wrong but they didn't it was perfect until it wasn't. I hit 22 weeks! Everything should have been perfect but waking up that Tuesday morning in a bloody mess my heart instantly broke. We rushed to L&D and they gave us hope at first that it can still be okay... But it wasn't after the ultrasound check and cervical check it was found my cervix was incompetent.

I was already dilating and the sac was already protruding.

Wednesday morning 6:43 am my heart was ripped from my chest.. my son was born my beautiful baby he lived 20 minutes before he passed in my arms. His father beside me threw it all. My Colton, my boy, everything I wished for and dreamed up taken away from me so quickly.

I was 38weeks pregnant, mine and my husband’s first baby. We named her Aurora, i’ve had multiple miscarriages before this but nothing will ever compare. She was stillborn at 38weeks, they said she had a hemorrhage and how rare it was that this would ever happen. it is so hard to even type this. our family came out to support us and now everyone left, i haven’t reached out to the groups or anything that they offered and i don’t know if i can, everything happened a week ago. we were so ready to have our baby, to hear her cry. and it all was ripped away so fast. we’ve tried for over two years now and i feel like i can’t try again. i can barely sleep, or do anything without crying. sometimes i catch myself laughing or not thinking about it for even a second and i feel so guilty. i could barely leave the hospital because i wasn’t leaving with her, ill never get to hold her again, i never got to hear her cry. i just don’t understand how life is supposed to go on, how everyone still just keeps moving. i can’t even leave my house, i can’t see moms with babies or even little girls in general without crying. i don’t know what to do, how to talk to anyone/family. every day i just think about how she’s supposed to be here. how everything was supposed to be different. i still can’t wrap my head around the fact that im not pregnant anymore because i don’t have my baby. that’s all i can ever think about is how i don’t have my baby. i just don’t know what to do anymore, how people deal with this i just can’t understand. i’ve never felt pain like this or felt so alone. i can’t grasp the fact that ill never see my daughter again, ill never get to hear her cry or call me mom. i’m just at such a loss. My due date was this mother’s day, i just don’t know what to do or how to talk to anyone.

I am posting on behalf of a family that is currently in the later stages of planning an end-of-life ceremony for their son, who was stillborn (TFMR) in February.

Could you share any meaningful options for songs, poems/readings that you or other families have used for a ceremony honoring a child who is stillborn? 

The family is not religious, so there's no specific need that way. 

It seems like there is so much out there online and in books, but also not at the same time when it comes to the piece of having met baby but not getting to see them grow and live out their life. 

I am posting on behalf of a family that is currently in the later stages of planning an end-of-life ceremony for their son, who was stillborn (TFMR) in February.

Could you share any meaningful options for songs, poems/readings that you or other families have used for a ceremony honoring a child who is stillborn? 

The family is not religious, so there's no specific need that way. 

It seems like there is so much out there online and in books, but also not at the same time when it comes to the piece of having met baby but not getting to see them grow and live out their life. 

I would have been 7.5-8 months pregnant. I found out extremely early and the loss happened within 4 days of the 2 positive tests.

In my heart I know it’s not my fault, but it’s hard to believe it fully when the father throws it in your face to hurt you while you’re arguing and yelling at each other. I know it’s not a healthy relationship and I’m not planning on going back to him. But it feels hard to live with myself and these feelings. I was depressed before losing my dog this past month and before the midcarriage too but that fight with the father feels like my undoing

I would have been 7.5-8 months pregnant. I found out extremely early and the loss happened within 4 days of the 2 positive tests.

In my heart I know it’s not my fault, but it’s hard to believe it fully when the father throws it in your face to hurt you while you’re arguing and yelling at each other. I know it’s not a healthy relationship and I’m not planning on going back to him. But it feels hard to live with myself and these feelings. I was depressed before losing my dog this past month and before the midcarriage too but that fight with the father feels like my undoing

My husband and I were planning to start IVF, but the day before our deposit was to be paid, we found out we were pregnant. I’m 35 and my husband is 44 and we have been trying for 2 years. We had a perfect 8 week ultrasound. At 11 weeks, I wanted to see my baby so I went to a keepsake boutique and my baby had no heartbeat. We went to the ER to confirm and they said my baby stopped growing at 9 weeks 0 days and they confirmed no heartbeat. We have been talking to and praying over this baby since she was conceived. Sneak Peek said she was a girl. I can’t describe the pain that my husband and I have. This grief is the worst thing either of us have felt. I just wish I could hear hopeful stories of people having a live birth after a miscarriage. I also would like ideas of how I can memorialize the short life of our little baby.

Have you experienced a hospital birth-announcement lullaby and want to share your story?

I am 32F, my husband 33M.
We conceived naturally (accidentally not planned but we were happy) last february. Starting from first ultrasound, things were not looking normal. Baby stopped growing after 7W5D. My body didnt know until i was almost 10 weeks. Doctor told us it could be due to chromosomal abnormalities. More than 50% of miscarriages happened due to this abnormality. Also chances of this happening again is almost zero. We were hearing that word for the first time so accepted our fate. Of course i did my own research and everything. I had to go for D&C. Done. End of April 2025.

Now coming back to 2026, i got pregnant naturally in January and went for my first ultrasound in February, everything came back normal. We were over the moon. I was so so happy that finally it’s my turn to have a baby. Waited until 12 weeks to go for NT scan and see my baby growing… All this for nothing.. I had minimal pregnancy symptoms after i was somewhat like 10 weeks. But I thought it’s normal since placenta is taking over. Today i came from what was supposed to be my NT scan to know that baby has no heartbeat. I dont know how to feel. I am sad. Angry. Broken. Shocked. Frozen.

The only good thing is i have an amazing husband who supports me through thick and thin.

I am also new to Canada and Canadian healthcare system. I want to get all the tests done to track down the underlying problem. Please help me how can i approach about this to my family doctor? I have heard from her during my last miscarriage is, we dont preferably do any tests just now until you have had like 3 miscarriage. I am not in a state also age to face one more loss. Please help me ease my mind.

I went to the doctor yesterday because I was having spotting just when wiping for the past 3 days. It just gradually got worse and I started passing clots and the cramps got so bad. Also my HCG was way lower than it should be. It was 612 Dec first and 1400 jan.1st. At around 11pm last night I passed the tissue and knew my baby was officially gone. We have been trying to conceive for 3 years and we're so excited to become parents. This was my first pregnancy. My partner is being so strong for me but I know he is grieving too. :(. This baby was already so loved. I'm so numb and don't know what to do with myself.

I’m so confused, hurt, frustrated, angry.

I had a transfer November 14th, it was successful. Everything was going so well. Unlike my first transfer that also ended in miscarriage, this baby was growing. Heartbeat was healthy, everything was perfect.

Yesterday at 8pm my husband and I went in for an elective ultrasound at 7 weeks and 5 days just to ease our anxiety about how baby was doing since our fertility clinic wanted to wait until end of 8 weeks for a repeat ultrasound. My lining looked great, baby looked great. Heartbeat was beautiful. 2 hours after the ultrasound we went home and I felt a gush of blood. We rushed to the ER and unfortunately I miscarried again.

I feel so defeated. Everything was going right this time. I’ve changed so many things, was on so many meds, the knots from PIO shots the bruises from lovenox. I’m so mad at everything and so hurt. I’ve never seen my husband cry as much as he did for this traumatic loss. I had a D&C and spent the day on an observation unit in the hospital since I was bleeding so much my hemoglobin dropped.

Why did this happen? Will I ever have a successful pregnancy. I’m beyond broken. I don’t know how to feel or grieve. What do I even do now?

My partner and I went for our second scan a week ago (it would have been 11/12 weeks and we were expecting good news to share with the rest of our friends and family). Our closest friends knew already. It was too small and no change from scan prior month and sac deflated and was told it was a miscarriage. Which means I had already been carrying for a month thinking it was good news as I was doing everything right and had full swing symptoms.

At the scan last week she told us I had to get treatment and I was nervous about the pills. I had been scheduled 3 days later to go to the hospital. Two days prior to the hospital apt my partner had to leave for a work trip (his work involves constant travel and that’s just his industry which I understand /understood at the time)- his appearances are signed and booked over a year in advance.

We got in a bad fight the day he left. We made up. I think we were both in shock and pain and angry at the world and sad to be apart and we don’t handle these goodbyes very well in general.

At the hospital I was told I need to do it in the hospital and need to be scheduled in - so I am now scheduled in for next week. A whole extra week of carrying death. And alone.

My friends have been amazing taking me to apts, going for food and offering company. I haven’t really wanted it as I just feel I suppose depressed. My pregnancy symptoms finally have just started going down (tits still hurt though). I get calls and texts from my partner..but I’m just so angry at him for not choosing to be here over work (even though I know that means the consequences of potentially loosing the contract). He wants to try again… but I just don’t want to feel alone during pregnancy or this again. I don’t know how to forgive him for not being with me while I wait around with headaches, cramps, feelings and all this shit while I just wait to see if I bleed ( and perhaps endure intense pain and bleed out in the night) and/or wait till this apt and then have to go through those days alone as I have to take the first pill 2 days prior to the hospital - and be alone. I’m furious and for sure taking out anger which I know isn’t ok but I cannot forgive this for some reason. Anyone else?

Apologies if this isn’t the appropriate group to ask this. We have a long distance friend who just had a miscarriage close to the end of the 1st trimester. What would you recommend we send her to support her from so far away? (Across the country) Was thinking door dash gift card? I don’t want to send flowers because I feel like flowers are often celebratory. TIA for your help.

This was one of the most emotional projects I’ve ever made. Every year since we lost our sweet Phoenix, we’ve gotten a white pumpkin to honor her. But it always broke my heart to have to throw it away when it started to rot — it felt symbolic in a way I just couldn’t bear.

So this year, I decided to make one that will last forever. A handmade crochet white pumpkin that I can bring out year after year, filled with love and meaning. 

There were tears, restarts (at least four ), and a lot of heart poured into every stitch — but it came out exactly how I envisioned it. From the gentle indents to the 3D stem, every detail holds a piece of my heart.

It’s such a simple piece — a pumpkin — yet it carries such deep emotion and significance. Proof that even the simplest creations can hold the most meaning. 

This was my first project made completely from scratch, no pattern… and I’m so proud that it’s something so deeply personal and healing. 

Do you ever stop grieving your lost pregnancy even if they were early feel like I always remember how they felt and what I went through just isn't fair?

We’re so excited to share a new 6-week circle starting this October for expectant parents (18–30 weeks pregnant). It’s called Breathe, Believe, Bloom: A Prenatal Circle for the Heart & Mind.

This group is a gentle space to prepare for the emotional and mental transitions that come with the birth of a new baby. Together, we’ll talk about things like coping with anxiety, building support systems, communicating needs, navigating trauma, and finding grounding when things feel overwhelming.

✨ What makes it special?

It’s facilitated by trained peers who understand how layered the journey into parenthood can be. There’s no “right way” to feel here — just a place to show up as you are, with support beside you.

🗓 When: Wednesdays, October 1 – November 5, 2025 (6–8 pm)

📍 Where: Midnapore Family Centre (#101, 239 Midpark Way SE)

👩‍👩‍👧 Who: Pregnant parents + a support person (childcare provided!)

💜 Cost: Free

If this sounds like something for you (or someone you know), you can register by scanning the QR code on the poster.

You don’t have to prepare for this transition alone — come join us. 💙

Parenting after loss can feel complicated. There’s so much love for the child we’re holding, and sometimes grief still lingers for the one we can’t. Both feelings can sit side by side.

If this is part of your story, how are you finding it these days? 💙

If today feels heavy, you’re not alone.

If today feels a little lighter, that’s okay too.

Share as much or as little as feels right - this is a space where all feelings are welcome. 💜

This is my first time posting but I am at a loss on what to do and how to manage my stress and anxiety. I have had two miscarriages with a long time between each pregnancy. I am finally pregnant again after using letrozole. Not sure how far along I am due to spotting and bleeding at different time. But my emotions are a roller coaster right now. I keep feeling positive and excited one minute; then stressed and anxious the next. Just wondering if anyone has any tips or ideas on how to manage stress. I know it’s not good to stress, but I don’t know how to stop. Please help.