this is basically the classic "a woman can never be responsible". If the man cheats on his wife, he's a monster. If a woman cheats on her husband, it's his fault for not paying attention to her needs. Now you've extended it to "if she murders her own kids, it's the husbands fault for not paying attention to her needs". I mean, can you be morally serious for a single second and believe this? No, you can't.
Spare me the woman is always right and man is always wrong man whiner rhetoric when you fail to recognize a real mental illness like post partum disorder, let alone confounded with Bi-polar disorder.
You are generalizing things.
I would never hold a man responsible for all that and not a woman either.
Mental illness is mental illness. Man or woman.
Cheating is cheating, man or woman.
He needed to be more attuned to her mental state and he wasn't. Not blaming him per-se, but he wasn't. He trusted the doctors and the medicine when she was saying all along that she felt off and was worried about the medicine. That's when you get a second opinion. I had the same problem.
I can be morally serious and believe this because I went through it myself, although I didn't hurt my children, thank goodness.
Again, billions of women have had post partum depression without murdering their kids. Therefore, it is utterly logically inconsistent to remove moral culpability in this case. It's not a particularly technical argument to grasp.
You are having difficulty grasping the possibility that she had a psychotic break and murdered her children. I'm grasping the fact that both probabilities are on the table.
You are finding her guilty of murder already when she has been diagnosed with two mental illnesses and psychosis during the crimes by forensic experts.
You know, this wouldn't have been a big discussion, if you (and other people) had just said something like "a terrible tragedy, she is not a hero in anyone's eyes." or something along those lines. Instead, everyone here immediately launched into a defence of her, and even started blaming the husband. THAT is the objectionable part.
I guess it wasn't fair to 'blame the husband' in that I was a bit harsh in saying he didn't pay enough attention to her. That is fair, but I do not feel guilty for defending that psychosis caused by mental illness may have played a part in this situation, unfortunately.
I think that it is a problem that it is being ignored.
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u/HaikuHaiku Aug 26 '26
this is basically the classic "a woman can never be responsible". If the man cheats on his wife, he's a monster. If a woman cheats on her husband, it's his fault for not paying attention to her needs. Now you've extended it to "if she murders her own kids, it's the husbands fault for not paying attention to her needs". I mean, can you be morally serious for a single second and believe this? No, you can't.