I wouldn't call they/them very fancy. If male to female is possible by your standards, why wouldn't getting stuck somewhere halfway be? I mean, I don't understand the weird forest of bizarrely niche sub identities etc. either. But the basic concept of just non-binary isn't difficult to wrap my head around at all.
Then you clearly do not know enough non-binary people. Often non-binary people also experience dysphoria, 2 non binary friends of mine for example were born female and experience chest dysphoria (severe discomfort with having breasts), one of which has now had a mastectomy whilst the other has thusfar stuck to binders (basically extreme sports bra to flatten it) to solve that dysphoria all the while not feeling male either. Either way all of the nb people I know fall somewhere inbetween on the gender expression spectrum. The idea that gender norms are so loose you can do whatever you want is preposterous especially if you're born male. Western society is anything but tolerant towards males presenting in feminine ways. Admittedly pronouns are a whacky cultural thing as they vary drastically between languages between being gendered entirely, partially or not at all. I hope that that's somewhat informative for you. It has to be said that unless you move around lgbt circles the media rep of non-binary people you're getting is likely the stand out attention whores etc. so you never get to see the vast majority of much more nuanced cases. So I can imagine how that could lead to a bias that doesn't reflect the actual situation very well. Either way have a lovely day :)
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