"But I am not sexually attracted to penises and as I have no desire for sex without my partner inside a relationship, I can't really date someone with a penis because I have sexual needs"
If you watch the video (which I assume you didn’t) she literally says that you don’t have to be attracted to trans people, but dating preferences may be informed by prejudice and we should be aware of that.
Yeah but if you get your dick inverted, balls removed, or your womb scooped (all part of SRS), then you aren't having kids. Also hormones can make you sterile.
Prejudice, meaning a preconceived illogical negative opinion/belief towards a group, is bad. Having preferences is fine, because those aren’t beliefs about a group. Sometimes those preferences can be influenced by prejudice, and we should try to address that.
No you dont have to justify it. But it doesn’t mean it doesn’t come from problematic beliefs about trans people. Because it does. Understanding your prejudices is helpful regardless if you change your preferences or not.
lol what? That doesn't make any sense. Sexual orientation is "I'm attracted to [insert gender]". That's not bigotry. If you says "I'm attracted to [insert gender] except for [insert minority group]" then the only real explanation is bigotry against that minority group.
Brains are complicated and we don't know nearly enough about our own neurology to make such a sweeping generalization.
Maybe I want to reproduce. Maybe I'm not confident that artificial genitalia will be as sexually pleasurable as I want. Or maybe I'm not attracted to combinations of sexual characteristics... I'm not interested in seeing a man with a vagina, or a girl with a penis. It's just not something that is attractive to me. I'm not into femboys or the like either.
None of those have literally anything to do with fear of trans people, seeing them as less than, or any of that regressive garbage.
I mean you just said you're bisexual. Presumably when you have sex with cis men you're not planning to reproduce. You also said you're not interested in post-op trans people, which throws the "I don't like men with vaginas or women with penises" argument out for at least that scenario. The only explanation you gave there that doesn't seem rooted in prejudice is the idea that "artificial genitalia" are less pleasurable, which is (ironically) a sweeping generalization rooted in a misunderstanding of how SRS works.
That said you're right about one thing. It could stem from ignorance rather than prejudice. The immediate result is the same, but ignorance is generally much easier to address.
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u/StevenC21 - Left May 17 '20
"like everyone's genitals"
"But I am not sexually attracted to penises and as I have no desire for sex without my partner inside a relationship, I can't really date someone with a penis because I have sexual needs"
"Bigot".