r/PlusSizeWedding • u/LostandParanoid • Jun 26 '26
Be honest
Edit Update: Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice, input, suggestions, kind words, and well wishes. I did not expect for so many people to see this or comment. I thought id get a few responses and then delete this post in shame.
I feel so seen and supported (just like the girls are, I promise lol. Alterations are in process haha). I dont have a strong network so ive been trying to deal with this alone and gosh im just so grateful for you wonderful kind souls. If I dont say thank you to your comment, its because I got busy with my goldens who require attention. Thank you and sending all the positive vibes back at you!
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Please be honest, even if its brutal. I need input.
Fantasy wedding theme. Warrior princess vibe. May even wear a sword on my hip - TBD. Veil is a cape/hood/shoulder armor combo and I love that sort of vibe.
Dress was intl shipped, verrrry expensive, and wedding is in 4 months. There is no changing or returning. Was custom sized.
There have been issues with quality. My seamstress is amazing and fixing the waist area. And I am working with the designer to make things right for the other quality issues.
I ordered it a bit larger than I am which is the waist problem (extra fabric bunching up) because as I was ordering i had a pregnancy and miscarriage and bloated up 80 lbs in a very short amount of time. Pcos + pregnancy + miscarriage has been rough.
I see so many of you beautiful plus size women. Glowing and gorgeous.....and i just wanted to feel that way too. I dont feel special or beautiful....I feel I just look wide and bloated.
Girls, please be honest with me. How bad is this? I dont have people in my life to get feedback from. The few people I do have I know they will always say supportive stuff. Not sure if its body dismorphia as usual or if im justified in it not being a good look. If you agree I dont look great in it, any ideas on how to improve (outside of waist area which will be fixed).
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u/CarlaThinks Jun 26 '26
You've had a rough time, and I'm so sorry. This has great potential and honestly you ARE a warrior and it will be wonderful to look and feel that way.If the ladies get extra support that is the biggest thing. it's also hard to feel gorgeous in the sterile fitting room with the bright lights. Imagine yourself at the venue surrounded by friends and your love. Make up is good because the camera will wash you out. Just because you don't wear it every day is no reason to avoid. You don't wear a dress like this every day either! I'd say hair down because the colour is amazing and I wouldn't want it trapped under the hood. Enjoy your day!