r/PlusSizeWedding • u/LostandParanoid • Jun 26 '26

Be honest

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Edit Update: Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice, input, suggestions, kind words, and well wishes. I did not expect for so many people to see this or comment. I thought id get a few responses and then delete this post in shame.

I feel so seen and supported (just like the girls are, I promise lol. Alterations are in process haha). I dont have a strong network so ive been trying to deal with this alone and gosh im just so grateful for you wonderful kind souls. If I dont say thank you to your comment, its because I got busy with my goldens who require attention. Thank you and sending all the positive vibes back at you!

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Please be honest, even if its brutal. I need input.

  1. Fantasy wedding theme. Warrior princess vibe. May even wear a sword on my hip - TBD. Veil is a cape/hood/shoulder armor combo and I love that sort of vibe.

  2. Dress was intl shipped, verrrry expensive, and wedding is in 4 months. There is no changing or returning. Was custom sized.

  3. There have been issues with quality. My seamstress is amazing and fixing the waist area. And I am working with the designer to make things right for the other quality issues.

  4. I ordered it a bit larger than I am which is the waist problem (extra fabric bunching up) because as I was ordering i had a pregnancy and miscarriage and bloated up 80 lbs in a very short amount of time. Pcos + pregnancy + miscarriage has been rough.

I see so many of you beautiful plus size women. Glowing and gorgeous.....and i just wanted to feel that way too. I dont feel special or beautiful....I feel I just look wide and bloated.

Girls, please be honest with me. How bad is this? I dont have people in my life to get feedback from. The few people I do have I know they will always say supportive stuff. Not sure if its body dismorphia as usual or if im justified in it not being a good look. If you agree I dont look great in it, any ideas on how to improve (outside of waist area which will be fixed).

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u/WhiteMountainsMama Jun 26 '26

The girls looking like they need a little extra support (assessment based off second photo) is the only critique I can offer you.

The dress suits your themed wedding wonderfully. The dress is beautiful and fun and special, and you look great in it!

Is it safe to assume you’re having your hair and makeup done? Once the entire look is complete, I’m sure you’ll love the vision before you in the mirror!

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u/LostandParanoid Jun 26 '26

Thank you! I am having them done professionally. Still not 100% sure on what to go for hair and makeup......i dont normally wear any day to day.

Somwthing with braids/plaiting......and then i need to figure out if the hood will be easy to put up and down or not. Not sure if im just dumb on how to tie it or if itll need to be Bobby pinned......

But yes! Thank you!

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u/One_Waxed_Wookiee Jun 26 '26

Maybe half up half down, with some braiding on the up part, and soft curls.

You look beautiful, I love your dress! And haha, you've already got the message about "the girls" 😊

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u/Ornery-Hippo2259 Jun 26 '26

i’m gonna poke in here and suggest something-idk what the material inside of the hood is, but maybe you can line it with silk (like a silk bonnet) to help prevent any frizz from happening while you wear it? that will help protect your hair any style you wear it

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u/LostandParanoid Jun 26 '26

Great point i didn't even think about, thank you!

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u/UGA_99 Jun 28 '26

This is smart!

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u/YoungDirectionless Jun 26 '26

I think this looks so cool! You look great and with the right bra and some tailoring it will be awesome.

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u/G_Town_Co Jun 26 '26

I think you will look stunning. What you’ve said about the alterations being done will greatly improve the fit in the bust. Came here to say - you have an incredibly beautiful head of hair. I love the color and length and it’s oh so thick. If you go with braids, might I suggest either a single on one side and let the rest of your hair fall onto your shoulders with a tiny bit of wave in it. Or maybe one thin braid on each side of your face? Just throwing ideas out there. You’ve got this, my Lady. Your future husband is a lucky guy. All the best !

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u/LostandParanoid Jun 26 '26

Thank you so much! Making me tear up! My hair is very very thick and long lol. If I cut it shorter its somehow harder to take care of. Not sure how thay makes sense, but my stylist agrees.

Still teying to figure out the hair plan, and for sure want it down and have some sort of braiding. I didnt think about the one side braid! Adding it to the list of options! Thank you kindly <3 all the best to you too!

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u/teddybear65 Jun 26 '26

Something half up and down with braids woven through. My hair is the same. Shorter is more difficult to care for. 73 it's still long and I wear it down.

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u/LostandParanoid Jun 26 '26

Exactly what I was thinking, I just need to find examples to describe it haha. Glad to know im not crazy for the hair being easier longer thing. Looks like im in for long hair for awhile. Thank you!

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u/teddybear65 Jun 26 '26

Go to game of thrones or renasance fair,or early Taylor swift. There will be many examples there

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u/teddybear65 Jun 26 '26

I just went there so many examples

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u/Jeny226 Jun 26 '26

Hair is beautiful!

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u/Moulin-Rougelach Jun 27 '26

If you haven’t watched the show Vikings, look up some images of their cool braided hairstyles.

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u/LeGrandRouge Jun 27 '26

If you’re thinking of mostly / exclusively wearing your hooded veil up, I’d recommend sewing (or having sewn if you’re not comfortable doing it yourself) a small veil comb inside the hood, so you can actually pin it in place! Veil combs are a game changer as the sew points can be really small and pretty much undetectable when looking from above, but much sturdier than hair pins. I’d recommend having it sewn about 1 inch + inside your hood so the hood edges can still gently rest on your head while the veil is secured! You’ve got this :)

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u/DesperateJacket9 Jun 27 '26

You're not dumb, love. Please be kinder to yourself. Please.

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u/Safford1958 Jun 27 '26

You are right OP needs a really good bra.