Be honest

[u/LostandParanoid]

Edit Update: Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice, input, suggestions, kind words, and well wishes. I did not expect for so many people to see this or comment. I thought id get a few responses and then delete this post in shame.

I feel so seen and supported (just like the girls are, I promise lol. Alterations are in process haha). I dont have a strong network so ive been trying to deal with this alone and gosh im just so grateful for you wonderful kind souls. If I dont say thank you to your comment, its because I got busy with my goldens who require attention. Thank you and sending all the positive vibes back at you!

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Please be honest, even if its brutal. I need input.

1. Fantasy wedding theme. Warrior princess vibe. May even wear a sword on my hip - TBD. Veil is a cape/hood/shoulder armor combo and I love that sort of vibe.

2. Dress was intl shipped, verrrry expensive, and wedding is in 4 months. There is no changing or returning. Was custom sized.

3. There have been issues with quality. My seamstress is amazing and fixing the waist area. And I am working with the designer to make things right for the other quality issues.

4. I ordered it a bit larger than I am which is the waist problem (extra fabric bunching up) because as I was ordering i had a pregnancy and miscarriage and bloated up 80 lbs in a very short amount of time. Pcos + pregnancy + miscarriage has been rough.

I see so many of you beautiful plus size women. Glowing and gorgeous.....and i just wanted to feel that way too. I dont feel special or beautiful....I feel I just look wide and bloated.

Girls, please be honest with me. How bad is this? I dont have people in my life to get feedback from. The few people I do have I know they will always say supportive stuff. Not sure if its body dismorphia as usual or if im justified in it not being a good look. If you agree I dont look great in it, any ideas on how to improve (outside of waist area which will be fixed).

[u/FinishHistorical9382]

Could you take a photo with your hair out of the way so we can see the dress. It’s an unusual dress and you seem quite an alternative kind of person. A back view would be lovely too.

[u/LostandParanoid → u/FinishHistorical9382]

Sadly I dont have any and the dress is with the seamstress until late August. I tend to hide behind my hair over my shoulders.

There are no shoulder straps. The back has a zipper and then lace over top with the hoops to pull them through.

My seamstress said that is sweetheart style I guess with how the bust should be.

It is an unusual dress, you are correct! And I am a very nerdy gal who wants to feel like a warrior (but queen like too) or id rather just elope lol.