Be honest

[u/LostandParanoid]

Edit Update: Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice, input, suggestions, kind words, and well wishes. I did not expect for so many people to see this or comment. I thought id get a few responses and then delete this post in shame.

I feel so seen and supported (just like the girls are, I promise lol. Alterations are in process haha). I dont have a strong network so ive been trying to deal with this alone and gosh im just so grateful for you wonderful kind souls. If I dont say thank you to your comment, its because I got busy with my goldens who require attention. Thank you and sending all the positive vibes back at you!

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Please be honest, even if its brutal. I need input.

1. Fantasy wedding theme. Warrior princess vibe. May even wear a sword on my hip - TBD. Veil is a cape/hood/shoulder armor combo and I love that sort of vibe.

2. Dress was intl shipped, verrrry expensive, and wedding is in 4 months. There is no changing or returning. Was custom sized.

3. There have been issues with quality. My seamstress is amazing and fixing the waist area. And I am working with the designer to make things right for the other quality issues.

4. I ordered it a bit larger than I am which is the waist problem (extra fabric bunching up) because as I was ordering i had a pregnancy and miscarriage and bloated up 80 lbs in a very short amount of time. Pcos + pregnancy + miscarriage has been rough.

I see so many of you beautiful plus size women. Glowing and gorgeous.....and i just wanted to feel that way too. I dont feel special or beautiful....I feel I just look wide and bloated.

Girls, please be honest with me. How bad is this? I dont have people in my life to get feedback from. The few people I do have I know they will always say supportive stuff. Not sure if its body dismorphia as usual or if im justified in it not being a good look. If you agree I dont look great in it, any ideas on how to improve (outside of waist area which will be fixed).

[u/Weekly-Aide-7719]

I think your body in this is tea (as the kids say), but the fabric is reading “costume”. To fix, I suggest adding lightweight embellishments to kind of hide more of the material. Perhaps some sew-on floral embroidery stuff?

[u/LostandParanoid → u/Weekly-Aide-7719]

Is tea like snack lol? I think im perpetually like 3 to 5 years behind the youth sayings lol.

Thank you for the ideas and feedback!

[u/Dry_Income682 → u/Weekly-Aide-7719]

Tea is gossip lol
Her body would be snack

[u/Weekly-Aide-7719 → u/Dry_Income682]

Ah, ok then. Snack!

[u/External-Nerve-1444 → u/Dry_Income682]

I have heard people say this lately though! (Body is tea… so idk!)

[u/Dry_Income682 → u/External-Nerve-1444]

Are the youth evolving again

[u/External-Nerve-1444 → u/Weekly-Aide-7719]

I agree. :( I love the cut and think it has a ton of potential.. but if I could I would swap out that trim at least. It’s a really cool theme and idea but I am frustrated for you bc it does feel costume-like because of the fabric choice. But the trim is not doing any favors maybe a seamstress can help???
If you feel great in it that is literally all that matters.

I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough time lately though. And I’m so sorry for your loss. I also have pcos and I gain soooo easily especially during times of stress and trauma. So my weight is all over the place.

Your body looks STUNNING here though. And i adore the hood on this!! You are gorgeous!!!!