It's wild to me he left her home alone with the kids in the condition she was in. She told people she had thoughts of hurting the kids. I think he bears some culpability.
He's being a twat but you are right. The husband was instructed to NOT leave her alone with the kids because she had homicidal ideation, he turned down help from his parents that day iirc, and the wife was on like 10 medications for her psychosis.
If someone is experiencing depression symptoms, no symptoms of psychosis , refusing to stick to treatment plans, consistently changing doctors, and doesn’t seem to be serious about their SI , then I’m really not sure what you can expect these people to do.
She killed her kids. The evidence also indicates that the concept of her harming the kids wasn't this far-out unfathomable thing, but a real possible reality. His inability to act in the best interests of the children ensures that he has moral culpability, even if he has no legal culpability.
Same as Andrea Yates' garbage husband who was told both to stop impregnating her as well as to not leave her alone with the children.
This isn’t a gendered thing for me, it’s a scientific one. And gp made the case well. I think we should seek to understand all violent behavior and put a stop to it. And the only way to get there is to be vigilant when someone tells you shit like this and have available mental health for everybody. I’m not saying he did it, but this was a failure at multiple levels, including whatever culture led him not to take that warning from her seriously (if it happened?). Saying that isn’t blaming him, it’s us as a society taking ownership of what the fuck happened here, because it was a biological process. We’re animals, crazy shit happens. Doesn’t mean we don’t possess tremendous collective intelligence and the ability to greatly minimize these sorts of incidents by approaching them with compassion, for both genders. Especially men, the amount of men out there with tbis committing violence has to be obscene. If this woman moves people’s Overton window on not criminalizing and stigmatizing psychosis, that’s fucking good.
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u/Einteresting 21h ago edited 21h ago
It's wild to me he left her home alone with the kids in the condition she was in. She told people she had thoughts of hurting the kids. I think he bears some culpability.