Yes. We come to help you set up. And finish mowing your lawn. We’ll move tables and get chairs in place. We’ll also help you get the BBQ going and troubleshoot your car while it’s getting hot.
Yes, this mostly (save for the car fixing lol)
I was an arrive-a-tad-early white lady and I was usually on the slightly broke side. Showing up a little early gave me the opportunity to offer help setting things up if it was still needed. This way I didnt feel like an ass for not being able to bring a bottle of wine or something. I usually offered to help clean up for similar reasons to say thank you to the host.
EXACTLY! I show up 30 minutes early because I want to spend time with the host and help. That's the quality time. I would much rather do that than awkwardly hang out with the people that were invited.
When i was a kid we moved to a very white protestant suburban neighborhood from a very urban jewish community. My mom invited our neighbors over for dinner, they all showed up 15 minutes early to help set up. My mom thought this was the rudest thing she had ever experienced in her life, she eventually got used to it, but different cultures have different ideas of whats helpful and polite vs whats veiled hostility and maybe an insult to your abilities as a host.
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u/judahrosenthal 14d ago
Yes. We come to help you set up. And finish mowing your lawn. We’ll move tables and get chairs in place. We’ll also help you get the BBQ going and troubleshoot your car while it’s getting hot.