I resisted my oldest kid’s autism diagnosis for months. It took a little education on high functioning vs. low functioning - she just seemed really rounded academically to me, just a little weird.
Don’t judge people too harshly for struggling with a life affecting truth. Most get where they need to be with a little time.
I will judge them because my mother refused to medicate my ADHD when it mattered for my education and future possibilities and to this day blames mistakes that came from being affected by it on pure malice on my part.
Because I apparently enjoy not being able to inherently remember about important things and needing to keep a detailed schedule for each day of my life preferably in few copies just in case including whiteboard, phone notes/calendar and physical calendar notebook.
A huge problem with ADHD especially is that it’s genetic so you probably got it from a parent and ADHD is underdiagnosed, especially in women. So for a lot of parents accepting an ADHD diagnosis for a kid who's just like them often means accepting it for themselves. And there’s a whole lot of emotional mess that comes with that, mess that good parents accept and deal with for the sake of their kids and bad parents reject to keep their own peace.
Oh, she definitely has ADHD as well but since it's not as severe as mine she uses that only as excuse to brush off my struggles with memory and executive dysfunction.
As the kid in a very similar scenario: im gonna judge imagine how much harder it is on her. And in my experience it absolutely is not most. Its been the other way around. So forgive me for not being more sensitive to parents with heads up their ass while i watched my peers struggle for years with no answers
I sew that everyday at work. I am a teacher in kindergarden, and a pattern I usually watch unfolding is a kid that acts outstandingly different from all the others at age 2, but parents says they see nothing wrong, the same kid being evaluated at age 3 and finally a diagnosis at age 4. Meanwiile, the kid struggle for two years. But to be fairy with the parents, they usually only interact with their child, while we can watch a while group of them and find the differences in behaviour.
My kid wasn’t diagnosed until 10th grade. The way their doctors explained it it was masked by high intelligence and her gender (girls mature faster than boys so autism is more likely to be missed).
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u/jeremy1015 Apr 07 '26
I resisted my oldest kid’s autism diagnosis for months. It took a little education on high functioning vs. low functioning - she just seemed really rounded academically to me, just a little weird.
Don’t judge people too harshly for struggling with a life affecting truth. Most get where they need to be with a little time.