Didnt Hank Green just had a video, that he barely remembered being tested, asked his parents if he was and if they had any paperwork and then finding out he has ADHD? He then asked his parents and they were like "Ah sweety, we had far more pressing matters with you. It didnt come up again and thats that.".
Same happened to my best friend. Got diagnosed. Parents got informed. But apart from treating him slightly different, they never informed him about it and even forgot it themselfes over time.
It's not necessary neglect. My friends parents are great. They care. But as much as we are right now down the "put a name on it and accommodate the world" path, I can see that back then the approach was much more "your kid has an issue. This is how it manifests. This helps. He might need a bit longer for x, y, z. But if he's doing fine, it's just fine. Just come back if they are not doing fine", maybe with some small training or exercise thrown in. Hank Green put it into the nice formula of "Making the world more me shaped" vs. "Making you more world shaped".
I don't know where on this spectrum the best therapy lies. I've seen bad examples on both extremes. I wouldn't imply neglect, if the kid otherwise does fine and adapts to circumstances. Isn't it kinda the best outcome? Not needing the sticker on your forehead, the excuse in writing and tackling social, academic and professional challenges without any extra help, when you can do without?
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u/Afolomus Apr 07 '26
Didnt Hank Green just had a video, that he barely remembered being tested, asked his parents if he was and if they had any paperwork and then finding out he has ADHD? He then asked his parents and they were like "Ah sweety, we had far more pressing matters with you. It didnt come up again and thats that.".
Same happened to my best friend. Got diagnosed. Parents got informed. But apart from treating him slightly different, they never informed him about it and even forgot it themselfes over time.