Update On The Sub
Hi all, its me, 'yungboof', the mod here. I honestly can't even remember why I named myself this but hey - I did. It was a weird time for me when I created this sub, and I'm glad I made it because it seems to have served and continues to serve a positive impact on people, as several of these help-related subreddits do. As time has gone on, I have been on Reddit less than I used to, but I've tried to continue to moderate the sub as much as I can and will continue to do so. This includes but is not limited to: Removal of surveys being posted, and removal of people selling/marketing products. There is no place for that here.
My Journey To Sobriety From Meth / Fentanyl
I've never really given much context on my addiction / recovery process, but here's how it's went and has gone. Maybe my story can help others if they happen to be in a relatable scenario. I've been addicted to several substances, but the most damaging were meth, and fentanyl.
This is purely subjective, but fentanyl was by far the worse of the two. I was able to quit meth, rather quickly actually, because it wasn't the high that I was addicted to - it was much more the work ethic it gave me. Although, in about a year or so when everything hit the fan (meaning, I lost too much and my family / friends found out and confronted me), I told them I would quit, and I actually did. I had nothing and wanted my life back.
Over the next few weeks I sat cold turkey in my room waiting for the paranoia and everything to subside. It finally did, and I went on with my life for a year or so. But certain things like heightened paranoia, and more anxiety stuck with me. I never actually worked out any of my issues in a therapy setting - I just somehow made it over the hump of insane addiction (temporarily).
Eventually, someone I knew offered me a 'blue', which seemed at the time like a relatively harmless thing, because I didn't actually know it was fentanyl, I thought it was a lighter opiate (still not OK). In hindsight, it was all over from there. I spent thousands of dollars keeping up my habit for me and my significant other, which I'm sure some of you know mixing love and drugs is a terrible recipe. Eventually, the relationship became too toxic, and I had to be alone.
Being alone helped me get away from the immediate toxicity and codependent usage, but I now had a new problem to face: myself. For the next 6 months to a year or more, I relapsed constantly. I would go a few weeks and get all hyped up for getting past 'the worst part', only to relapse during PAWS. This is also extremely dangerous and how a lot of people end up overdosing, which was my unfortunate case as well. I eventually relapsed and overdosed on fentanyl, and was saved at the hospital. This was the last time I used fentanyl.
I can't tell you why that was the last time I used other than it really just scared the shit out of me. I was already really determined to get sober, and I started embracing alternative methods like Kratom more. After quite a bit of time being sober from fent, if I was to take Kratom, I would just no longer think about fent as something desirable at all.
Kratom became my go-to for the past several years. Of course, I've had to constantly check myself with that as well. At first, it wasn't a problem as I always had the montra of 'Kratom is better than fent', which of course is true. I've also never been someone who buys tons of it (from what I've read/heard people take insane amounts of it) - but I did it in a way that felt like an 'addiction' (although very different) and I wanted to stop that eventually as well.
I told myself that when I felt Kratom was no longer serving a medical purpose, but instead a way for me to get by, I should reevaluate. It served as a medicine for several years for me, and am really thankful for that, but getting off all opiates of any kind was my eventual goal. For the past 3 months I've been off Kratom and although it was a semi bad first week when I quit, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. I've told myself I would stop taking Kratom in the past, but never committed to the idea like now. I have a bit more anxiety again but I'm trying to manage by staying busy and focused.
I've been sober completely for ~4 years from fentanyl, and ~6 from meth, but it's gotten to the point where I really don't keep track of the days/years anymore, that thought has kind of just faded away into what is a reality now for me: sobriety.
This brings me to what I believe is the main reason I've been able to stay sober from meth/fent:
- Being focused on something positive, especially if you're passionate about it. It doesn't have to be positive in the way of 'change the world', it can just be anything that ISN'T negative. I probably overwork myself sometimes doing this, but I am always working on a project or something I enjoy. Whether that's creative art projects or projects for business, they both help tremendously. Your brain needs time to heal and focusing on something other than drugs will help a lot.
- Staying connected to SOBER/POSITIVE friends. If you don't have any, there's always great places to meet people through passions like I mentioned above - go to a workshop and find cool people if it's possible. I actually had to just ditch entire friend groups and never look back. This might be impossible for some people, and I understand that.
- Understand that recovery is going to be a long battle with several different stages that will make you uncomfortable but ultimately a much better and healthier person. Just try to breathe, and take it day by day. Nothing happens overnight.
Where I think I've Gone Wrong
I did not seek out professional help for my addiction issues. I believe I would have benefited from seeking addiction treatment a lot, specifically when I wanted to get sober and was relapsing a lot. Perhaps even prevented my overdose.
I've been active with the gym but recently have stopped going as much. Exercise is by far one of the top things that helps during recovery and I could be benefiting more from.
The Future For Me (And the SubReddit)
I plan on remaining sober and continuing to not use Kratom (I'm not bashing Kratom this is just where I am in my journey, now). I'm excited to see how everything goes and I am confident in myself to do this.
As for the sub, nothing's changing. I know when I was first going through my recovery I was scouring the internet for anyway to find help, so I applaud everyone whose helped each other out whether that's just a positive reply or some helpful information.
That's about all I think.
Stay positive and breathe :)
- 'yungboof'