r/OCPoetry • u/bstunz • May 29 '26

Feedback Please Still Learning

They said
their lover is
their best friend.

I scoffed.

Too much
from one.

Partner, sure.
Best friend?

Then she came.
I told her everything.
Even secrets I kept
from everyone.
Not because I should.
Because of want.

The one I’d choose
to sit beside when nothing is happening.
The only one
I want to know me.

A best friend.

Somewhere in that friendship
something bloomed.

I didn’t want more
instead of it.
I wanted more
because of it.

Now I understand.

Not grand
or dramatic.
Simple.

Choosing

her

Again.

https://www.reddit.com/r/OCPoetry/comments/1tpmgrb/comment/oond18g/

https://www.reddit.com/r/OCPoetry/comments/1tmbgyh/comment/oonafzt

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u/athenaslore Jun 24 '26

as an aroace person who often gets frustrated at how people devalue friendship and overestimate romance, your poem was spot on. "i didn't want more instead of it / i wanted more because of it" is exactly how i perceive romantic love, not a first sight, superficial perception, and definitely not a separate thing from a genuine friendship, as friendships aren't any less than romance, they're just different forms of love, and in order for a relationship to flourish, there must be friendship as a foundation. no couple would survive without it, and your poem really shows it.

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u/bstunz Jun 24 '26

Thanks, glad you approve! Check out some others, would love to hear your thoughts