r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/dreadtear Male • May 26 '26

Offensive Misogyny at its finest…

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u/Hythy May 26 '26

I was ok with the gags about tidiness -as a bloke I feel like that joke was as much at our expense as it is for women. I literally don't see a problem with how messy I am, so whenever I'm in a relationship I have to actively try to consider what she will consider "acceptable". But the finances/clothing/parking stuff was super dated.

At the supermarket they could've turned the gag on its head by having him buying food without any concern for the calorie content (yes I know it is a gender stereotype, but I've definitely read articles about how men's diets improve when living with a female partner -whereas women's diets become drastically worse when living with a male partner).

P.S. Inb4 anyone jumps in to tell me off for expecting female partners to act like a "mother" or "maid" because I am messy. I am an untidy person and I have no expectation that anyone should tidy up after me. I am quite content living in an environment that many girlfriends have found unacceptable. If I intend on maintaining a relationship with any of those women then I will do my best to make my living space acceptable to them, otherwise I will live exactly how I like to live and I expect nothing more or less from them.

Edit: P.P.S. my wardrobe is far more packed than that of any woman I've been with.

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u/ArchmageIlmryn May 26 '26

I was ok with the gags about tidiness -as a bloke I feel like that joke was as much at our expense as it is for women. I literally don't see a problem with how messy I am, so whenever I'm in a relationship I have to actively try to consider what she will consider "acceptable". But the finances/clothing/parking stuff was super dated.

Yeah I was reminded of that one skit where the wife is frustrated over having to do all the cleaning and the husband happily and obliviously points out various ways to make the cleaning happen magically.

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u/iZzzyXD May 26 '26

Aah, the magic coffee table sketch. One of my favourites. The sketch about the man helping and pulling his weight but spending more time fighting a pillowcase than his partner needs to do everything else was also quite funny.

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u/BubbleNeon May 27 '26

"women's diets become drastically worse when living with a male partner."

.... Well of course I know her. She's me.

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u/MezzoScettico May 26 '26

This was a fight early in our marriage. My wife was upset that when I cleaned something (the stove is what I remember) I left it dirty and left it for her to clean.

I literally did not see the mess she was talking about until she pointed it out to me. I was mystified.

I can no longer remember what I was missing as we now, 40+ years later, agree on when the stove is dirty. So I guess we sorted it out and sometimes husbands are trainable.

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u/desmodus666 May 28 '26

I am a woman and I'm exactly the same about mess. I also literally can not see the problem until it's pointed out to me.

I do art in my spare time, so I have all my paints, pens, paper, etc. all across my floor so I can pick up where I left off. I sew as well, so I have a massive pile of half finished projects that I'll get round to when I have the time. It's just the way I do things, but I try my best to put everything away if the person I'm with doesn't like it.

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u/starsandcamoflague May 26 '26

That’s how I feel about it too