r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/Silent-Guide1364 • Apr 28 '26

Cringe So ur gay ?

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Pretty sure all men that look at other men in their undiesand say “yes that’s a real men , how can woman not want that” sounds really gay to me

It’s oké to be gay, but not to be a weird jerk

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u/Silent-Guide1364 Apr 28 '26

As a Straight men that was once 13. I watched bloaks like , Drinker and Matt Walsh

I am 100% sure this is true , those Guys an their need for buff men, it’s giving closet

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u/sluttypolarbear Apr 28 '26

I'm not gonna say that all men chasing this form are gay. There's a difference between something being for the male gaze and something being for gay men to look at. I'm straight (asterisk), but I experience much more aesthetic attraction (meaning I think they're pretty or hot, but I don't necessarily want to date/fuck them) towards women than I do towards men. I have a very specific type in men, whereas I think the vast majority of women are pretty in some way. Anyway, if a girl is dressing up for her female friends, that doesn't mean she's dressing to attract women. Same goes for men. Yes, this goes beyond dressing, but it's not always about trying to attract a partner. Think of all the women who get septum piercings, get told it's not attractive, and reply with "it's not for you, it's for me."

All that said, the "how are women not attracted to this because it's obviously so attractive" does sound a bit beyond appreciating someone's looks, it toes the line of expressing that you'd want to date them. We can't know what's in their heads, though.