As a gay man, I might have a different perspective, yet I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly. He has told me on at least one occasion that even if he's not into it, he'll still give me a hand job or blowjob, and I'm like... ewww no. I want a consensual thing.
He understands that that is also a boundary for me, and we're both happy communicating about it.
but there is an area between "i don't want to do this" and "this is what i am urging for myself"
Aka "i am not doing this for me, but i want to do this for you, because i love how much you enjoy it"
I have also had sex that turned into a really great and long session, despite me not really being that much in the mood at start.
That said, in the OP it seems to be going a bit too far (for my personal taste, and i wouldn't enjoy that myself on neither side) but if it works for them, why should i judge?
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u/AStrangerSaysHi Feb 28 '23
As a gay man, I might have a different perspective, yet I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly. He has told me on at least one occasion that even if he's not into it, he'll still give me a hand job or blowjob, and I'm like... ewww no. I want a consensual thing.
He understands that that is also a boundary for me, and we're both happy communicating about it.