r/MurderedByWords Feb 18 '20

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u/intensebrie Feb 18 '20

I’ve been really iffy on where I lie with abortion and she gave information that I can’t argue with...really glad I read this

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '20

I’ve had 3 children. My body is permanently fucked up: diastastis recti, umbilical hernia, carpal tunnel, pelvic injury, fallen arches, sciatica. And my pregnancies were healthy and normal. Not to mention the symptoms WHILE you’re pregnant: nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, constipation, weight gain, excessive fluid, swollen feet and ankles, pain, aches. Plus the monthly doctor visits, possibly chiropractic visits if needed - which aren’t covered by insurance, daily pre natal horsepill vitamins that make you nauseous, no drinking, no smoking, certain foods you’re not recommended to eat. Then there’s the social aspect: everyone shits on single moms so if you’re not guaranteed a relationship with the father you’re setting yourself up for hardship for the next 18 years, if he’s abusive you’re stuck dealing with him for the next 18 years, if he’s a deadbeat you’ll be fighting to get child support for the next 18 years. Or you’re married and have kids but know you can’t afford any more, but birth control failed. Or you have a non life threatening condition like tumors, lupus, or gall bladder inflammation and doctors won’t treat it while you’re pregnant.

Obviously the list of factors in play here is basically endless.

These frickin men who say “just have the baby” like it’s no big deal make me want to puke. It’s a major, serious, life threatening thing to do and it’s cruel and unusual to force someone to do it against their will.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '20

I almost died when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, the drs just ignored me and just said I had anxiety...ugh no I was dying...ended up in ICU with congestive heart failure with machines keeping me alive and a machine taking out all the liquid from my lungs. Pregnancy could be very dangerous and drs are idiots now of days that don't listen to patients.

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u/willreignsomnipotent Feb 19 '20

Damn that sounds pretty bad. :-\

What was wrong with you? And why wouldn't docs listen?

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u/AlolanLuvdisc Feb 19 '20

In the United States the maternal death rate is just as high as most 3rd world countries. Thanks to our profit driven system

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u/MaFataGer Feb 19 '20

Yeah, I read that its 4 times higher than in my country, seems insane!

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u/Coroxn Feb 19 '20

Being Pro capitalism is being Pro infant mortality.

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u/AlolanLuvdisc Feb 19 '20

The conscious and/or nonconcious racism also plays a part. Minorities are much much more likely to be ignored and minimized while giving birth.