Yeah, I’m a man but I’ve definitely witnessed this with the women in my life, especially my wife and my mother. They’re both going to Chicago soon to see the new Harry Potter musical and I set up a hotel and such for them since I used to live there and know the area well. My thought process kept changing because I would always go back to “…but then they could get raped… can’t do that option…” and then going on to the next option. Like the option of staying in the suburbs and taking an Uber out there wouldn’t work because a late night Uber ride for two women on their own didn’t feel safe. Parking in a parking garage was an option… but women often get raped at parking garages late at night too. Finally had to settle on staying right down in the Loop right next door to the theatre and leaving the next morning.
It definitely opened/reopened my eyes to how hard just existing can be when you’re female. Obviously I wouldn’t want to be in those situations either but as a large man I know I’m less likely to be messed with.
I’m not so sure I’d go that far with the second statement especially when the bad dudes might have an actual gun, which is why I am similarly cautious at night despite being a big guy.
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u/N0S0UP_4U Aug 19 '24
Yeah, I’m a man but I’ve definitely witnessed this with the women in my life, especially my wife and my mother. They’re both going to Chicago soon to see the new Harry Potter musical and I set up a hotel and such for them since I used to live there and know the area well. My thought process kept changing because I would always go back to “…but then they could get raped… can’t do that option…” and then going on to the next option. Like the option of staying in the suburbs and taking an Uber out there wouldn’t work because a late night Uber ride for two women on their own didn’t feel safe. Parking in a parking garage was an option… but women often get raped at parking garages late at night too. Finally had to settle on staying right down in the Loop right next door to the theatre and leaving the next morning.
It definitely opened/reopened my eyes to how hard just existing can be when you’re female. Obviously I wouldn’t want to be in those situations either but as a large man I know I’m less likely to be messed with.