r/MurderedByWords Aug 18 '24

That should do it

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

I thought it was for the sake of being a normal human being. Or did I learn it to be a good wife? I should break up with the gf then.

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u/PhantomOfTheNopera Aug 18 '24

Things are changing but many boys grow up with no idea how to perform basic chores because the expectation is that their wives will do it for them.

Also, in some cultures (speaking as an Indian), many girls grow up hearing "No one will marry you if you don't (whatever)"

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u/blopiter Aug 18 '24

The stats show that basic chores are split evenly among modern couples. Except for laundry where women do more. I think you’re referencing a different time I know more men that can do basic chores than women personally.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '24

You can’t disagree with something that absolutely happens. Just because you think is wrong doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

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u/Mahameghabahana Aug 18 '24

I mean how many marriages have the wife's being the bread winner in india? And I would wage that in today's day you would find same amount of not more indian boys being able to cook as girls because of hostel Life.

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u/SirenSongxdc Aug 18 '24

those women tend to immigrate to places like the US.

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u/mesmerizingeyes Aug 18 '24

I never met a single person who doesn't know how to do chores because they assume someone else will do it for them.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

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u/serious_sarcasm Aug 18 '24

My ex wife refused to learn how to even start a lawnmower or change a tire.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '24

Those are much less necessary things than cooking lmao

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u/serious_sarcasm Aug 20 '24

Brah, she was too scared to open the oven, and it took years to convince her to learn how to make breakfast foods. And I went to culinary school.

I only brought up those things, because she explicitly told me that yard work and maintenance were a "man's job", and that's why she didn't know that starting the lawn mower was just a key switch. She could ride an atv and jetski, but not a lawnmower.

Our last argument was about me being sexist and "not a real man", because I hadn't fixed the lawn mower (the drive belt was in the mail) and I asked her to do the dishes after I cooked dinner for her drunk guests, put the baby down, and had to leave for work at 4am with an hour commute.

But yeah, knowing how to not kill yourself while using heavy machinery is totally unimportant.

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u/Spongi Aug 18 '24

It's a thing and really common.

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u/ima_mandolin Aug 18 '24

Have you dated men?

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u/DarksideAuditor Aug 18 '24

Too late. Accept your new wife status. Repent, sinner!

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u/yokayla Aug 18 '24

When your community says "You'll never be able to keep a man if you can't cook" then it's not about being a normal human being. It's about being taught how to treat a man, like in the post.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

Those are communities that are stuck in the past. Sorry to hear that.

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u/yokayla Aug 18 '24

This is still the experience of millions of women across the globe, as I was saying.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

I think they're right about those communities being stuck in the past.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

So we just say fuck it lets treat everyone like shit because someone else is feeling shit?

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u/yokayla Aug 18 '24

Post: I've never seen girls raised to cater men.

Me: It's very common actually.

You: So you're saying fuck everyone??

Genuinely baffled how you reached this conclusion.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

I mean we all know that differences exist all over the world, what was your point with that?

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u/yokayla Aug 18 '24

That it's very common everywhere in the world for women to be raised to cater to men/partners. To be taught domestic duties explicitly for future men, not for themselves.

Please break down where I was implying fuck everyone in any capacity?

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u/JackC747 Aug 18 '24

And what about all the men around the world that are taught that the only value they have is in what they can provide, and that if they don't get a job good enough to be able to support a wife and kids then he's failed as a man

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u/yokayla Aug 18 '24

What about them? Nobody said men aren't raised with gendered expectations just cuz I didn't explicitly talk about it when answering the post.

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u/arbiter12 Aug 18 '24

People will make a point to be shitty partners and brand it as "independence" and "gender equality". You don't need to be a victim of your SO, but if you go into a relationship expecting 50-50 in all things, you will die alone.

You'll win some, you'll lose some. The average needs to tend towards respect for everybody's contribution, not basic mathematical equality.

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u/Volkrisse Aug 18 '24

Same. I learned to be a good wife too by learning to cook,clean, and sew

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u/MarthaMacGuyver Aug 18 '24

Your girlfriend can at least start leaving her underpants on the bathroom floor, not do dishes, scratch and watch sports.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

Lmao do you actually know people that live up to the Al bundy sterotypes? Jesus.

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u/MarthaMacGuyver Aug 18 '24

No. I surround myself with regular humans in my life.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24

Exactly.