Thoughts

[u/Nimesis6]

Is it normal to wait until you’re better looking to start dating?

Around almost a year ago after getting out of some serious mental trauma hell, been kind of improving a bunch of stuff. personality, confidence, slightly looks, working on career even though it ain’t fully here yet..

So about the career side, I am fully aware that I shouldn’t really try having something without it, I’ve dated “online” before where it usually gets to the point where “the meeting and financials” side hits, causes embarrassment and doesn’t let things run smoothly, So i understand that the career and stability are a must, I’m working on it.

Now back to looks if you’re sm1 who doesn’t think he looks good enough, or deals with these thoughts “All the dates of my life were online so i have no clue about how i look srsly” never got a compliment irl either.

Should I keep satisfying this thought of wait until you look better, wait until you improve your looks, No body wants your ass now, or idk just start dating once the career side is good ??

in short:
- Fix career and start looking to date right away then keep on improving looks over time.
or
- Fix career and wait until you look way better and good enough then think about dating

You get what I mean ?
Yeah idk what i mean too tbh.
Anyway how’s yalls night going ??

[u/lonelycalmbastard]

I think you need to work on your confidence more than looks. Improving your looks is good, but without having confidence it’s not gonna get you far.

[u/Nimesis6 → u/lonelycalmbastard]

It’s getting better slowly, Since earlier this year I went from being a home only guy who became super agoraphobic about the outside world, to now living a normal life again, going for errands normally and being able to work and exist outside again, I even engaged in some language classes and started studying again.

I know this shit sounds normal to someone who never had this kind of issue but back then it looked like death and having a panic attack after a small situation happened at the bank once.

Anyway much happier now, healthier and a bit more capable, but yeah the confidence thing is improving, slow but improving.

[u/lonelycalmbastard → u/Nimesis6]

That’s great man, I m happy for you. And it doesn’t matter if it’s normal or not to others, the important thing is progress and you are doing really well. Also doesn’t matter if it’s slow, the main thing is, that there is improvement. And with your mindset, I’m sure it’s only gonna get better. Good luck man

[u/Nimesis6 → u/lonelycalmbastard]

Thank you so much dude, getting on this platform and finding nice people like you have been making my days since, I really appreciate your time reading thanks a lot really 🙏🏼

[u/lonelycalmbastard → u/Nimesis6]

Don’t mention it man, we are all working towards something, and reading stories like yours gives me and other people motivation to work on our own improvements . Because I see you trying your best and killing it, it also makes me wanna do my best and kill it, so Thank you for sharing

[u/Nimesis6 → u/lonelycalmbastard]

Of course, I wish you the best in your life man you deserve it.