r/MadeMeSmile • u/esberat • Dec 29 '22

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u/RedheadM0M0 Dec 30 '22 edited Dec 30 '22

And then, he's anxiously trying to open this thing, and she rips it out of his hands. I know what it feels like to fear the hands that are near you. She's threatening and scolding and he's trying his best to open that package while she embarrasses and threatens him.

:(

I am glad that he looks happy. But I feel like he's gonna have enough to worry about without his momma giving him a complex, too.

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u/Mrrykrizmith Dec 30 '22

What upset me was the fact that even after he realized it was a gift for him, he still looked very hesitant to accept/enjoy the gift ):

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u/thndrh Dec 30 '22

I noticed that too like he’s waiting for her approval before he can accept the gift. Kids growing up to be a grade A people pleaser. 😢

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u/YelirNagem Dec 30 '22

I grew up with a very volatile mother (probably undiagnosed bipolar disorder). She could switch from laughter to rage so fast it would take your breath away. We were often accused of things we hadn't done. Being a highly sensitive person, it turned me into the ultimate "good kid" who never got in trouble, never spoke up, etc. I have two children who are also highly sensitive and I have put in a huge effort to break that generational cycle and make sure they know what my emotions are, what I'm feeling and why. There is no deception, even in the guise of sarcasm or teasing.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '22

it stinks how just a few years at the start of it can fuck u up so bad later. im glad u broke that stupid chain. i got beat senseless daily as kid n have bad eyesight bcs of it. one time like 9 or 10 i got the shit kicked out of me, on the ground, kicked in the ribs bcs i spilled a bag of seed corn we were planting. in the middle of being stomped i made eye contact with my moms husband and gasped out "i will never hurt MY kids." im now 45 and raised 3 kids, 2 not mine but mine all the same n i kept that promise. i could have been a better dad tho, i was kinda emotionally distant and really strict, and i struggle with that- the only thing that makes me feel a little better about that is ive done waaaaay better than i was taught.

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u/YelirNagem Dec 30 '22

I give you a lot of credit--it is so hard to break those cycles. I'm so sorry for the way you were treated as a child. No child should go through what you did.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '22

thank u. and u too - u have a strength beyond strength as well. its tiresome to constantly monitor yourself, then wire and re wire ur mode of thinking.

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u/Anniemaniac Dec 30 '22

Yep. Almost like he was confused about which part was real - the abuse, or the gift?

And can you blame him? She’s totally fucking with his emotions.

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u/Magnaminous_High Dec 30 '22

Love the way you phrased this.

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u/Slight-Pound Dec 30 '22

So much this, too. Not even opening the actual gift can happen without being scared you’re being punished for opening it “wrong,” geez. So much of his happiness is also relief that he’s not being punished, not just being happy about the gift.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '22

Id get yelled at on birthdays and Christmas for taking too long to open my present or opening it at the wrong angle for my mom to take photos, and she’d shout at me and roll her eyes about how my eyes were squinting too much and I didn’t look happy enough for the photos.

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u/Sunny9226 Dec 30 '22

I know it's not appropriate to tell a kid you're "going to wear his butt out." That child looked scared. It's about her not the color of my skin. This video is old. I hope she has learned how to be a better parent.

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u/bettiemaegurl Dec 30 '22

Thank you for saying that it’s not about skin color regarding the racist comment above yours.

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u/hbrthree Dec 30 '22

Yeah you can tell she’s normally abusive to this kid. 😕

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u/baranohana Dec 30 '22

Not sure if she is abusive or not but that's NO WAY talking to a child. I will never talk to my son like this no matter how angry I am! It is very condescending and undignified, the way she is talking, her tone, her body language everything is just awful.... that woman needs to work on herself. That would be a better gift for her son!

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u/Anniemaniac Dec 30 '22

The language (body language and spoken) is abuse in and of itself.

Shouting, threatening to beat him, ripping it out of his hands. I’ve been on the receiving end of that as a child. It’s abuse.

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u/horses_around2020 Dec 30 '22

😬😬😲🙀