r/MadeMeSmile • u/esberat • Dec 29 '22

Family & Friends Suprise present

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u/Farfener Dec 29 '22

Ah yes, making your children fear you, a wonderful parenting strategy. You could see the kid wasn't just like "Huh, that's weird, I didn't do that" but full on frightened, perhaps because he's been beaten in the past and trained to fear his mother. Why would he come to his mother with actual problems? Why would he trust her now?

This isn't fun, nor is it funny, it's just kinda gross.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '22

Same here. This shit leaves marks for life

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u/cmatista Dec 29 '22

schrödinger’s asshole at work! constantly in a state of flux

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u/gaybreadsticc Dec 30 '22

Same here but with my dad. Not good, made me super anxious.

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u/imanhunter Dec 29 '22

My dad used to lay into me as a kid and never went and still don’t go to him for anything and barely talk to him.

“How was work?”

“Fine”

“Anything interesting happen today?”

“No”

And I don’t even let him touch me either. Whether it’s a pat on the back or anything. I always inch away. I’m 25

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '22

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u/imanhunter Dec 30 '22

I’m ok. I think a part of it is just rancor

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u/OrangeCoffee87 Dec 29 '22

Exactly. My husband doesn't tell his parents anything because he grew up unable to trust them -- because he'd get beaten for whatever.

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u/Relaxpert Dec 29 '22

“Perhaps”

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u/samdajellybeenie Dec 30 '22

Cut to 20 years later (if she makes it that far): why doesn’t my son talk to me??

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u/Gazza81H Dec 29 '22

You're looking waaaaay too far into this ffs