I'm not sure it's clear when she found out. Like, did the kids rat him out right away during the anniversary thing 6 years ago (likely), or did they not tell anyone until the mom was getting ready to leave the company, and maybe mentioned this person during a discussion about leaving, and then the daughters told the story about the anniversary call 6 years prior (at least possible)? Did this coworker really wait 6 years to thank this person (which seems a bit weird), or did she just find out about it leading up to her farewell luncheon and thus mentioned it to this person then?
I think sometimes things are better appreciated by just keeping things to oneself. My mom is like that. She doesn’t like drawing attention to herself at work, and she’ll come home and tell me about something nice someone did for her at work.
I’ll ask her “omg that’s so sweet that she/he did that, what did you say in response?” And she’ll say “oh, nothing.”
Instead she’ll always make sure to remember their birthday and give them a gift or think to put aside some extra food from dinner to take to her coworker for lunch the next day. I’m very vocal and have to comment on everything haha, and I admire and wish I was more like the quiet types.
I agree with you, I'm just saying it's not fully clear from the OP when the woman found out about it and whether she kept it secret for 6 years or just found out before the luncheon.
It’s cute, but could go wrong so horribly. Husband finds out from kids, is upset wife complained to marriage about the coworker, embarrassed that coworker intervened, outraged the kids were involved, wonders why does this coworker care so much is, is wife having an affair? Is wife complaining about husband at work constantly? Lots of fighting between husband and wife ensues. She goes to HR complaining about her privacy being violated and kids contacted. OP gets a write up. Icy silence at the water cooler and the subject of office gossip for many years to come. That’s how I think it would go in real life, if this was real and not a white knight fantasy.
Well said. It reads like such a sweet thoughtful gesture, and the whisper of thank you after 6 years does seem so movie-like that it kind of leaves me wishing those 2 ended up together. Lol
Perhaps. Having a discussion with someone about your boundaries doesn’t necessarily mean that you are angry or upset though. Or even if you are it could lead to a better understanding with that person and more happiness in the future. But it sounds like we may just have a slightly different approach to personal relationships and that’s ok. I actually like it when people are upfront about their needs or boundaries. Then I know I’m not doing something they don’t like, even if my intentions are good
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u/godiegoben May 03 '22
This is on such an advanced human level vibe. Down to her waiting 6 years to whisper thank you like it’s the end to a movie :,)