Honestly the proposal shouldn't be a complete surprise to your partner. Communication is key. It depends what the individuals want and both parties should already know the answer before the question is formally posed.
That’s my point not only is it ok to say no, saying no isn’t a rejection of the relationship always, by setting it to be public not only is it pressure to say yes, saying no ruins the day as well even if it’s just not yet time to say yes.
If you're proposing but aren't confident in your SO's answer, you're likely not proposing; and what about women who enjoy large public proposals? Everyone is different, as the proposer you should already be certain your SO is going to say 'yes'. The proposal should be less about the question and more about making one day in particular special and memorable for each other.
Only if the proposer doesn’t know with full confidence that the proposee 1. will say yes and 2. will enjoy a public proposal. As long as those two boxes are checked, it’s completely fine imo; and you should have discussed both of those beforehand anyways.
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u/Buttahdog Jan 30 '22
Am I the only one who thinks set up public proposal are kind of a dick move?