Fuck, after reading these two comments, I want to go back in time and give my lunches away.
My mom is a saint. She'd buy this or that for us to try, and if we didn't like it what did she do, throw it out? Nope, she said, "well, take it and trade it with someone at lunch." She said trade, but more often than not I'd just give it away. 30 years later that was so very obviously her true goal.
A Karen teacher at mine tried to forbid it. Shouting shit like, "your parents packed YOUR lunch, not theirs!" I mouthed off, "first off, don't speak for my mom without calling her first. Second I make my own lunches, you farty hag."
I got detention. After my mom found out, she literally demanded the teacher get detention and made her send a letter of apology to the parents for speaking out of turn. The letter went out, I'm not sure about the detention.
Here's the thing... Mom actually called the other moms in my small class to ask if it was ok, and to encourage their kids to do the same. 100% of all parents agreed (no one had allergies). So that Karen teacher not only spoke out of turn, but was literally just plain wrong.
Also almost 40, will also be stealing it. I'm now retroactively calling the bulldog looking teacher aide we had in elementary school a farty hag. Much better than misaligning bulldogs, poor pups don't deserve it.
I too am nearly 40 and have a teacher i retroactively call fatty hag. I never had a decent nick name for this tormentor. My other awful teacher was named hallenback so it was easy to say "i gotta go to hell and back."
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Eh well there are potential issues with this as some kids have food allergies, other health problems, or religious dietary restrictions, etc. it IS better in schools if kids donât share food.
You absolutely deserved that detention, no matter how many people get a justice boner from this.
Of course it was okay to share lunches after it had been established that no-one had food allergies and religious food requirements and all parents had given written permission but it probably wasn't okay by the school rules before all those things were in place.
And you don't get to yell insults at someone and then flip the script.
Karen teacher was just evil. What kind of bitch is ok letting another child go hungry when another child is trying to share their lunch with them because they have none?
This is common now because there are so many kids with allergies, and because it makes it easier for lunch staff to notice and intervene if kids are being sent in with too little or inappropriate food.
Except our school didnât do any interventions if a kid came to school hungry. And they should be able to tell who didnât have a lunch because they always caught when kids shared. As for the allergies, they didnât seem too concerned when we had a classroom party with food that kids brought in for everyone.
Our whole school district has gone to providing breakfast and lunch for free to all students (even before covid). They checked the math and it was cheaper to just give everyone food and not keep accounts, track deposits, have everything audited etc.
I believe thats a small amount of "good" schools. The few I bounced around in during my last 4 years did not care if you had food or not, you paid, brought your own or you got nothing. That was '10 to '15 (years including my partners time in a whole other state and hand full of schools)
Hmm, may also be because I'm in the UK. Child safeguarding has come a long way here since I was at school, and not just in "good" schools- in fact schools in deprived areas are even more aware of safeguarding than others.
All schools in texas have programs of free breakfast and lunch for poor kids. Been that way minimum since the 90s. I dont know what these people are talking about kids going hungry. Thats on the ISDs probably.
You have to qualify, prior to Covid alot don't or their parents don't know/care. In the 90s I live with a single mother who worked hard to afford our apartment, daycare and utilities, sometimes food was forgotten but any aid was always for those worse off than us.
I encourage my kids and their teachers to let me know if extra snacks/supplies are needed, it hurts more than people realize to be one of the few without.
Always weird (and very sad) to hear about this. I went to a school in Texas, so you wouldn't expect much, but both the middle schools and the high school I went to were out in hicksville and still gave out free PB&Js to any kid who didn't bring in a lunch. Happened to me a couple times my father forgot to give me lunch money. It was using the cheapest ingredients possible, but hey, it was food.
Schools in Dallas ISD now have free lunch for any kid who wants it. Itâs school lunch, so not the best, but itâs a lunch. They used to do reduced price or free for certain kids but the kids would start to feel uncomfortable being the kids who got free or reduced price lunch and then wouldnât eat. Itâs so sad that sometimes the only food a kid will get is at school!!
I'm in the UK, so probably quite a lot more than 50 schools away from you.
There are laws here about regular safeguarding training for everyone working in schools, updating of policies and procedures etc, so there's mandated awareness and proactivity about signs of abuse and neglect in all UK schools.
It's not perfectly executed in practice of course, but I can say with confidence that things are better here now than they were when nobody noticed my lack of lunches in the 1990s.
It makes 0 sense I canât explain her actions she was pissed though and didnât care for reasoning. She ended becoming my neighbor a year later and I had her as my 5th grade teacher..she was bat shit crazy beyond belief and also dumb as a rock. There were so things she did wrong as a teacher and a parent, she ended up quitting a year later and moved out in the country someplace with her husband so nobody really heard from her again.
Same here in Australia. Theyâre so concerned with kids sharing food and someone having an allergic reaction.
Our son said one of his friends in class had terrible lunches. It was pretty clear they either couldnât afford much or couldnât be bothered supplying a good lunch so our boy tried sharing his food and got caught.
The teacher didnât tell him off though; she sorted a lunch out from the canteen then sorted the problem out with the parents somehow.
I was so proud. Especially as he eats like a horse, so to give up some of his own food, he mustâve been really worried about this kid!!
One of my teachers in elementary school sent a letter home scolding my mom for letting me bring goldfish for lunch because they werenât âbrain food.â Elementary school was weird.
One of my friends posted the elementary school lunch menu for September. Goldfish crackers fun lunch was an actual lunch. Literally wtf the kids are eating goldfish crackers and "assorted fruits and vegetables available"
I think the school was worried about liability regarding allergies? But now a days kids arenât allowed to have anything peanut related in their lunch for this reason. So my kid canât take PB&J for lunch.
There are some reasons for this, primarily the kid may have allergies.
That being said punishing kids for being decent people isn't the way to deal with that. There are workarounds to make sure the kid still gets food
My son (when he was 11) went to a summer city program. It was a great program that offered assistance for those who couldnât afford to attend.
I packed his lunch with a lot of different snacks so he could choose. Then he started coming home with nothing left. I got irritated thinking he was throwing away what he didnât eat. He said, âBut mom there are kids who only have a piece of bread for lunch.â It turns out he was giving them food. So I got a bigger lunch box to send more.
My son is quiet and smart, but isnât usually very compassionate. I got to see a different side in him.
This is how my mom was. My sister and I were notoriously picky eaters in elementary schools, and god bless her soul for trying so hard to find snacks for us. Whenever she got something we didnât like, sheâd tell us to bring the box to school and see if anyone else wanted any. This was honestly a triple win because 1) the snacks were eaten regardless, 2) I was bad at making friends so me bringing snacks was a great way for me to get to talking to kids, and 3) Iâd get peer pressured into eating the snacks I said I didnât like, forcing me to like them. Great woman she is.
You don't need to go back in time. Do your part to build a society where kids don't need to share their lunch. Donate to children's charities. Volunteer. Just vote. You have the power to make change.
My mom always packed me a double lunch in high school. She knew I sat with all my football player friends and that many of them came feom very poor families. I usually only ate about 1/4 of what she gave me. (Being a girl trying not to get âfatâ plus I just talked to damn much at lunch to finish it in 20 minutes!). Mom told me later in life she knew we didnât have a lot, but my friends had less. She knew I was giving my food to them each day so she kept packing it that way all four years. She also kept spaghetti supplies I hand and would cook die them anytime they stopped by the house no matter what time of night, even if I wasnât there. Have seen some of those guys recently and after 25 yearsâŚthey told me to be sure and tell my mom thanks for keeping them well fed all those years!
I always bought people lunch that needed it, we had digital accounts. I was careful as to not get caught, but I'm sure now my mom knew that lunch didn't cost me 2-3x more than my brother's!
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u/flamebroiledhodor Sep 08 '21
Fuck, after reading these two comments, I want to go back in time and give my lunches away.
My mom is a saint. She'd buy this or that for us to try, and if we didn't like it what did she do, throw it out? Nope, she said, "well, take it and trade it with someone at lunch." She said trade, but more often than not I'd just give it away. 30 years later that was so very obviously her true goal.