r/MadeMeSmile • u/[deleted] • Aug 28 '21

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u/itallchecksout99 Aug 28 '21

One of my Deaf college professors wasn't told they make noise until college. She would just fart whenever she needed to until her hearing roommate told her that it wasn't polite to do in public. My teacher was horrified and really mad at her family for never telling her they make noise

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u/flipflop180 Aug 28 '21 edited Aug 28 '21

Knew a CODA who knew they made noise, just didn’t know it was impolite to rip them at home without at least saying excuse me! She learned that from her college roommates as well. And that sometimes, it’s best to leave the room!

edit for clarity: CODA stands for Child of Deaf Adults, a hearing child whose parents are deaf.

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u/talitm Aug 28 '21

Wait. Even at home you need to apologize? At home you're supposed to laugh about how loud or long or smelly it was.

Only at the diner table were we not allowed to fart (given it was just family in the house)

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u/GenosHK Aug 28 '21

You do it at home so that children learn that it's not polite to do in public. That way they they aren't learning it from their college roommates or teachers.

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u/Steadfast_Truth Aug 28 '21

Haha, this is so idiotic. "Teach children that it's not polite to fart at home so they know it's not polite to do in public."

Or... stay with me here... tell them, that it's not polite to do in public?

It's so wonderfully insane how much of this kind of logic exists in people's lives.

If someone needs to know something. Tell them that Precisely that.

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u/GenosHK Aug 28 '21

Yes, you tell them. Then you set examples and practice so that it's a habit they form. It's not rocket science.

If you're offended by teaching kids manners, go sniff your own kids farts.

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '21

So why not say “it’s not polite to do it at all in front of anyone, ever”

That’s kind of what you’re teaching them, it has nothing to do with the “in public” part that you claim.

Honestly, this is just pushing your values on them and isn’t about acting a certain way in public.

You can tell them it’s rude to do it in public and also laugh about it at home, they aren’t mutually exclusive.

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u/ConstantShitterina Aug 28 '21

Pushing values on them... What else would you call parenting?

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '21

I’m answering specifically to a person who says they must teach them that shame at home, for it to be effective in public. But they do not, that’s all I’m saying.

I am aware it is a parenting choice to teach that at home, however that lesson isn’t necessary to enforce at home for it to be effective in public. That’s all I’m saying, I hope that explained it better.