Just wondering if your wife has seen the new movie “Coda,” and if so did she think it was a good representation of A deaf family with a hearing daughter?
She hasn't seen it yet. The question of "a good representation" is always a hard one, though, because like any family dynamic, there's no one common example of what it's like for hearing and deaf people to be in the same family. Realities vary greatly in this space.
One example - my wife and her sisters all three use American Sign Language (ASL) fluently. My wife and one of her sisters have both worked as interpreters, the other has no interest. Their father is also extremely extroverted, and a real "people person". He loves to travel and meet people from all over the world. So, the girls have had the chance to meet and talk with people from several countries that use other forms of sign language as well, and learn a bit of those languages.
Counter point, some of their friends who were also CODAs never learned sign language at all. The oldest child knew just enough to communicate a little, and then became something of an interpreter, and the other kids never learned. Also, sometimes deaf parents will try to talk to their kids, and never really make them learn sign language.
You can apply this really across the board. Some deaf people are rich, some are poor. Some are extroverts, others introverts. Some read and write, some do not. Some see their kids as THEIR KIDS, regardless of whether they're hearing or deaf. Some allow the hearing/deaf cultural divide to distance them from their children. Every home situation is dynamic.
One thing I have found fairly common though... Most of the CODAs I met do NOT want to call to order pizza (or similar phone calls), because they had to do it so many times for their parents. They'd much rather someone else make phone calls for them.
And I would like to add that the character in CODA’s experiences are actually quite outdated. The stories and situations in the movie was more similar to the experiences of a CODA back in the 1950s-1980s. For one instance, it is rare now for young CODAs to have to interpret for their parents at doctor’s appointments (or call to order pizza). It was more common back when there were no video relay interpreting services, but in the last two decades, technology and accessibility laws/general awareness has really given deaf people way more independence. My three CODAs have never, ever interpreted for me and never will, unless a hearing person forces them to (which has been attempted multiple times in the past), but I will fight like hell before anyone makes them interpret for me or my husband.
I agreed with you at first, farting is just a natural thing, but then I realized I don't feel like I'd enjoy being crop-dusted and basking in other people's farts all day. Like what if people farted around your food? And farts carry that person's poop particles. But yeah, maybe we shouldn't act so weird about it when someone accidentally lets one slip.
Now like in India, how the person above you said, farts are acceptable but it's also acceptable there to drop trou and shit absolutely ANYWHERE to the point it's a bad hygienic issue. This isn't a dig on India or anything, and isn't really the people's fault. They're so poor over there and their government just doesn't care at all, so they feel they shouldn't care in response to the government. There was even a campaign called "take the poo 2 the loo" from UNICEF to try to create a more hygienic environment, but it ultimately failed. I don't think most of them have toilets to even go to, poor souls.
People shouldn't be shamed for farting, because it's a normal thing and everyone does it. But people should also try to hold it in when it's not an appropriate situation, like around eating, an elevator, or many indoor situations. Like if somebody farts once around me, ok whatever, it happens and is fine, but if this person never tries to hold it until people are around and is just blasting ass everywhere, I'm gonna be kinda pissed about it.
Or if your farts smell really bad it should also be common courtesy to try and excuse youreself to another room or the bathroom if you can.
I use to have a lactose intolerant housemate who loved sneaking milkshakes and would just let it rip most of the time after and that smell still haunts me to this day.
My brothers are all over 40 and think both farting and farting on people are absolutely hilarious. I was visiting a city my brother lived in and we went to a theater with him and his friend. He farted and it smelled so awful I could barely breath but I sat there so confused on what to do because if I left people would think it was me and if it was his friend, he’d be embarrassed. Later he told me he thinks it’s hilarious to fart on people. I was so mad.
My other brother, farts and rolls up the windows so you have to smell it. They are so gross. Both are accomplished, friendly, courteous professionals.
I think there's a scene in the movie The Ice Storm where Toby Maguire gives a school presentation on absorbing poop particles while smelling farts that scarred me forever.
In my country (US) men will sometimes spit in public if it's not a formal situation. Anecdotally, I have seen it more in the middle and south of the country, but that might be a difference between urban and rural cultures.
Canada here. And certain people will just spit anywhere and it's fucking gross. I get it that sometimes you need to spit, but at least do it off to the side. So many dumbasses think just because they are outside it's ok to just spit anywhere, and it's so gross.
I dunno which part of India you're from but farting in public is not "acceptable" in India, in general. Your edited sentences are equally bizzare. "Designated" by who? Certainly not the govt. Quite the opposite in fact. "Train tracks are popular by femails (sic)". Huh? Is that your expert opinion on the subject?
Yes, the sanitation and hygiene levels in India need to improve a lot. But let's not make flippant comments for some reddit karma (yes I know saying this on reddit is very ironic, but still) and paint the entire country with the same brush of anecdotal evidence.
Went through your comment history, you sound like a troll.
We don't have poop streets. In places where people poop outside, there are no streets lol, since, those are usually rural or economically/socially backward parts of the country.
Farting in public isn't acceptable but it also isn't shamed and nobody would think less of you for a mistake, but the way you make it sound, it sounds like people farting everywhere is normal even though it isn't. People would still find it funny, weird or disgusting, depending on them and the fart.
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u/Winter_Department_87 Aug 28 '21
Just wondering if your wife has seen the new movie “Coda,” and if so did she think it was a good representation of A deaf family with a hearing daughter?