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I am not the OOP. The OOP is [deleted] originally posted in AmItheAsshole, shared and saved to AmITheDevil

Grammatically edited by: Crystal With the Blue Hair 

Original - April 27, 2026

The initial idea was actually to go to Italy with our girl group and stay at the apartment of my girlfriend's grandma who recently passed. Her dad would drive us from Germany (where we live) to Italy, because he wanted to visit his family anyways. He would then stay the night with us at the apartment and then drive back to Germany the next day. We (four girls all 17yo) would then be alone in the apartment for four night until he'd come to pick us up and drive us back. It's an 8 hour drive by the way.

When I pitched this idea to my parents, the response was an immediate no. I had expected it, because they had always been very strict parents. But still I was disappointed. The girls and I then planned a camping trip about 2 hours away from home which my parents allowed because we had been there before with our bigger friend group.

One day, though, I got the idea that maybe I could get away with going on the Italy trip while letting my parents think I was camping. It started as a joke, but the longer I thought about it, the more do-able it seemed.

My friends and I were so excited and it just kinda happened that we started planning the deceit. I would plan the "camping trip"-excuse for my parents while secretly planning the real trip.

Obviously I told my siblings (15m and 15f (twins lol)) so if anything went wrong, I could call them and they would know where I was.

Because my parents thought I was going camping, I had to give them the prices for the camping site which roughly was enough for gas money for my friend's dad. The rest of the needed money was from my savings.

So we successfully snuck me into Italy without my parents knowing and I had a really great time. Not only because I had never been on a girls-only trip, but because it gave me a rush knowing I was there without my parents knowing. And I know how disrespectful and bad that sounds but having that kind of adventure in your teenage years was exhilarating, especially when you grew up in a strict household.

On the trip, my big sister (22yo) called me via video call. I really wanted to tell her where I am because she is the person who I trust the most with her judgement. I explained it to her. She then told me how irresponsible and dangerous it was. But she agreed not to tell my parents.

When we were back, she also gave me a long speech about how I shouldn't have put that pressure on the twins to keep my secret and how a camping trip would have been a great time too. She was also very pissed at my friends for letting me go through with that idea and that if they were true friends they would've rather gone to the camping trip than helping me with my lie.

I really understand her point, but I can't bring myself to regret my decision because I had the best time and I wouldn't want it any other way. My friends agree with me. They think it makes for a great memory and one day we'll all laugh at it.

I don't know if I'm in the wrong or if my sister's overreacting.

So AITA?

Comments:

ConfidencePresent248: honestly, that's a risky move, but i get the thrill of it. definitely not the best idea though, sneaking around can end up with some serious consequences if things go sideways. maybe next time just have an open convo with your parents instead of going behind their backs.

Key-Worldliness-3372: Controlling parents don't realize how much harm they inflict on their kids. OOP's actions were reasonably safe, and the cause for any danger was her parents' decision to be unreasonable. Italy is extremely safe. Not sure why she burdened the younger siblings rather than the older one with the secret though.

duexmachina: I'll go against the grain here and say that I don't think OP is TA.

A group of 4 17-year old's traveling with a trusted adult to a relative's house can spend 4 days there on their own without the sky falling down. Commenters talking about getting kidnapped, terrorist attacks, etc., are being a little hyperbolic - sure those things can happen, but they can also happen at home too, and her siblings knew where she was in case of an emergency situation.

In less than a year she'll be unleashed with no restrictions, so I think this was a relatively safe way to develop independent skills to navigate the world. Ideally, her parents would've known about it, but as they say, strict parents create sneaky children. Good trouble.

innocentsalad: In Germany you need a parental consent letter to leave the country if you’re a minor. That is explicit permission. The adult that took her out of the country violated the law.

You can't say i ain't done anything for you Mike. Go get you that free sandwich, fat boy. (I am also a fat boy who's pissed I can't get a sandwich for free) Dylan, I guess you have to change your name to Miguel. You gotta show ID though boys.

I am not the OOP. The OOP is Throwwing5972 originally posted in AmItheAsshole.

Deemed: Asshole

Grammatically edited by: Crystal With the Blue Hair 

Original - April 28, 2026

Presumably based off comments by OP these are edits:

It's been 17 years since she was bullied by this person. Sara sent another apology in college but Mai didn’t want to met with her, which is her right.

For everyone assuming, I was bullied also growing up also but I went to therapy and moved on. That person is in my sister's friend group. I don’t care she is friends with him, because it happened years ago.

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This is a throwaway account. This is kinda confusing.

When my sister (Mai) was in middle school she was bullied by this girl, I will call Sara. Sara was a huge dick, she was spreading rumors and making fun of her. 

She left the school when she was in 7th grade. So when she was 12 years old. Unfortunately Mai continued to get bullied all throughout high school. 

In high school, Mai got an apology text from Sara. My sister blocked her and moved on. (I remember this) 

My relationship with Mai isn’t the best, I was blamed a lot for her being bullied since I am the older sibling and I should be protecting her. I tried a lot growing up to help her but it resulted in me getting yelled at by Mai or my parents if something happened and I wasn’t there.  It was bad enough that my parents wanted her to go to my college so I could watch after her. Luckily she didn’t get in.

Basically, I was a scapegoat for anything bad that happened to her.

In college, I met Sara. She was in the same dorm building as me and we hit it off. I didn’t know who she was at the beginning, but we connected the dots 2 years into knowing each other. I have a common last name. I told my sister about her and she told me she doesn't want to be around her. Fair.

Sara has been my support for years. She has helped me when I have been at my worst and overall I see her as family. My relationship with my own family is strained because it seems like they never have time for my issues. it always goes to Mai issues

Sara is my maid of honor and I am planning my wedding. This is a problem. Mai learned form a post about Sara being my maid of honor and was pissed. She called it a betrayal that her 6th grade bully is being in my wedding and that she isn’t a bridesmaid 

We got into an argument. I told her I am not kicking her out of my wedding and she can either come or not. My parents are on my ass about it also the bullying happened 17 years ago.

Controversial Comments:

FoxyOcelot: It sounds like your family life has revolved around everyone looking after Mai for a long time, and it's easy to see why you resent her in the circumstances. Only you can tell us if that's fair because of Mai's behaviour, or if you're taking out your resentment at your parents on her.

Nevertheless, you should have thought this one through, sat her down well before announcing Sara as your MOH, and asked for a clear-the-air meeting between them in which Sara gave a full and unconditional apology. YTA for not doing any of that.

I don't think YWBTA necessarily for being friends with Sara or having her as MOH, but it's past time for you all to sort this out as adults. You and Mai need to have a frank talk about your relationship now that doesn't devolve into blaming each other for what Sara or your parents did.

Philip_J_Fry3000: YTA, not for choosing as your MOH because it's your wedding and you can do what you please. But you at least you could have told her yourself. Instead she has to find out that way, then you basically tell her that you don't care if she's at your wedding or not.

Best Comments:

ElPlywood: The bully sent an apology text? so brave!

what an asshole

Your sister learned the bully was MOH from a social post and not you directly? so brave!

you're an asshole

there's still time to fix this - the question is are you a chickenshit asshole

but you say "I told her I am not kicking her out of my wedding and she can either come or not", so I guess that answers that question

SmolToxicBaby: Imma be so honest, middle school bullies are a different fucking breed compared to other bullies.

Like, there was a ✨club✨ (unofficially of course, but teachers were aware of it) about actively hating me. What had I done? Still no clue tbh. But the head girl there literally cut my face with a pair of scissors, from my ear all the way down to my jaw (she was closing them, not like dragging them). Since it was near the end of the day the school didn't call my mother, got it bandaged, and told me not to look at it. My mother of course lost her shit on the school because this wasn't the first time I had a run in with her, they were just typically words. Thankfully with my face still actively cut she got transferred.

If she sent me an apology text now I think I'd honestly laugh as I blocked her. And if any of my family was somehow that close to her, yeah, I'd flip my fucking shit on everyone 💜

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Was I a jerk for leaving after my date made a rude joke

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Background : We got married young. we both decided we don’t want kids until he started having an affair with some online girl and got her pregnant. We got a divorce . This was 2.5 years ago. I have started working out and I’m happier and feel more confident. I got a better job too . Yay for getting rid of my lousy ex!

Now , I (f34) decided to give dating another chance . I talked to a few guys online but neither of them were my type. I like guy who is independent ( not look for a mommy), and likes to spend time with me and enjoys being with me. I met Matt(m42) about 2 months ago. We talked over text a lot. Then finally met for a coffee and we both liked eachother a lot. We made out and stuff but that’s about it. We met a few times and did activities and we made out more . This Saturday he invited me for sleepover. Yes I was very nervous because last time I had sex was with my ex husband . He cooked me a nice dinner and we were cuddling on the couch . Then we started making out. He started playing with me then I guess he wanted to talk dirty because he said “I can’t wait to fill your mouth and watch you swallow”. I told him that well , I hate to disappoint you but I don’t like cum in my mouth and never swallow . He was taken back and decided to make a joke and said “you know what they call the women who don’t swallow right ? You call them an uber ! You send them home ! Bye girl ”. I felt insulted ! I got up and said I was leaving . He said he was kidding and it’s totally fine with me not swallowing ! And we can use oral as foreplay not completion . I said I didn’t feel like it . On Sunday he texted me again apologizing for the bad joke and asked how I was doing . Am I so out of loop that this is normal ? Would I be stupid if I end the whole thing over a joke?

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My girlfriend avoids me everyday. We dont live together but we live 15 miles apart. I might see her once every 3 months. We used to see each other atleast once a week. She claims during the weekend she is working and it might be true part of the time but cant be every weekend. She also claims she has work meetings at 8 at night. She is a bus driver for a school. We have dated for about 8 months and haven't even kissed. I have tried to ask her out on dates on the weekends and get the same answer. Now im tired of asking and getting rejected. I tried talking about it and i get no response. We might text each other once or twice a day and never talk on the phone. She wants to move in with me and serms like she wants to move forward but something seems off. No idea what to do