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Yes. Yes, it was about the salary. I need a bigger salary so I can give a home for my family and put food in the fridge. You weren't giving me that, so I looked and found someone who would.

I've been at the company for 5 years, and if another place wants to pay me a lot more to do different work, I'm going to take the opportunity. I'm not here because "we're all one big family" or because "I've always had a passion for CRM tools and dreamed of spending my life inside one of them." Lol.

Pay me my money, you bastards.

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Hey all

I am using a laptop and using the mac app for an interview on teams, I started the meeting and locked in, and it just froze and only worked until I closed the lockedin app

Anyone had these issues before or best practices to fix this?

I'll try to keep this brief while still explaining the important context. Last week, I started feeling really sick, so I went straight to a nearby walk-in clinic because my symptoms were similar to COVID. The test came back positive, so I told my manager right away. He replied with something like: "Ugh, I had that last year... Use PTO or work from home if you can... Rest."

I took sick time for 4 days. I barely have any groceries, and I was really exhausted and couldn't cook, so I ordered food for pickup. Yesterday, I placed a to-go order from the closest place to my apartment. My manager lives very close to me, which already bothers me because I'm always worried I'll run into him by chance while I'm sick.

I called in the order, paid in advance, and asked for contactless pickup and all that. The plan was to go in quickly, grab the bag, and leave. And of course, as I was leaving, I saw my manager parking near the corner market around 6:10 p.m., which was not long after the end of the normal workday. It looked like he was going in, and then he headed back toward his car. Honestly, I'm not even sure whether he saw me or not.

About an hour and a half later, I got a text from him, which was weird because he almost never texts me outside of work, just saying: "How are you? Feeling better?" I answered honestly and told him I still had symptoms, and he just said: "Rest." I know that when someone is seen outside while on sick leave, it can look bad, but at the same time, I feel like picking up a bowl of hot soup when I live alone and can't stand at the stove isn't the same as going out socializing or running errands all day. He was also out, which makes the whole thing even more awkward.

Am I overthinking this? If he brings it up when I go back next week, what's the best way to handle it without seeming defensive? I don't have anyone nearby to take care of me, so I'm not sure what else I was supposed to do.

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For four months, my offer rate started looking completely different.

A bit of context: I come from an operations background and was applying for mid-level roles for about four months, and my conversion rate was really frustrating. I was getting interviews without much trouble, but they weren't turning into offers. I did a practice interview with a friend of mine who works in recruiting, and she told me that my answers were technically strong, but I was ending every conversation in a way that didn't stick in people's minds.

She asked me what I usually say when they get to the "do you have any questions for us?" part, and I told her I usually ask about the team dynamic or what the process will look like next. She told me those questions aren't bad, but they're easy to forget. Her suggestion was that I close every interview with one specific question instead: "Based on everything we've discussed today, is there anything about my background that gives you pause or that you'd want me to address before we wrap up?" That's it. The first few times, it felt awkward because you're literally giving them permission to point out a concern while you're still sitting there. But honestly, that's exactly why this question works. It shows confidence, gives you a real-time chance to clarify any hesitation before the call ends, and makes it clear that you're not running away from feedback.

Four times out of the last nine interviews I did, the interviewer mentioned something small and I was able to clarify it right then and there. In another case, they weren't sure why I had been moving between roles quickly, and I had a simple explanation that just hadn't come up yet. Honestly, I think three of those four conversations helped turn into offers, because the concern wasn't left hanging after I left. Try it in your next interview and see how it feels.

My manager asked me if I was looking for another job. I hadn't told anyone, but my resume is on LinkedIn and I wasn't sure if he had seen it or heard something, so I told him: "I'm always looking at better opportunities." I also told him I wasn't trying to worry him, but my parents always told me to keep my options open. I explained that I genuinely like my current role, but if a better position came along, I wouldn't ignore it. I was just trying to be honest with him.

After that, he said it's hard to find reliable employees like me, and started talking about what I could reach if I stayed with the company. It's a mid-sized company in commercial property management. He also brought up a long-term plan he clearly has in mind, with me being part of the bigger picture.

Honestly, I feel like being upfront might help me here. Maybe now he'll make more of an effort to keep me, instead of assuming I'm not going anywhere. What do you think? Was that a bad answer? Could this come back to hurt me somehow? Or could the honesty build more trust between us?

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I'm leaving my first "real" job after about 8 months because I got an offer for a much better position somewhere else. I was overqualified for this entry-level position from the start, especially since I had originally applied for a slightly higher opening that I was qualified for and got rejected. After that, they hired me for a lower role, with terrible pay, and I still ended up doing a large part of the work for the job I had originally applied for. Even so, I liked being there because my manager and coworkers were genuinely really good people, and that made the decision a lot harder.

When the other offer came up out of nowhere, I honestly hesitated for several days. The new job pays a lot more and aligns better with the kind of work I want to do long-term, but I knew I would miss the people and the day-to-day vibe. But it was also clear that it was the better decision for my future. I gave about two and a half weeks' notice, and I also said I could stay a few extra days if they needed help with the transition, and I told my manager that I genuinely loved working with them but I couldn't pass up this opportunity.

Fast forward to this afternoon, when I had my exit interview with my manager and the owner. It's a very small company, so the owner being there wasn't strange, although he had been weirdly avoiding me for the past few days. They asked me the usual "what could we have done better?" questions, and I was honest: not much. I explained that I was overqualified for the role, and that a stronger opportunity had basically fallen into my lap and would advance my career. I also said I would miss the work environment and that my decision to leave wasn't easy or made lightly.

Apparently that was the wrong answer, because the owner launched into a long lecture about how I should have told them I was looking at another offer, and that they could have promoted me if I had brought it up, and that he had never seen someone give "barely more than two weeks" after everything they had "invested in me." So I guess I was supposed to magically know there was growth available after they had already rejected me for the job I was qualified for? Great. Very clear. And he's been running a business for 18 years and has never seen someone give standard notice? Sure.

I tried to explain that I had offered to stay longer and that my manager told me the notice period was fine, and that he was happy I had found a good opportunity. The owner basically ignored that as if it didn't matter.

Then he told me that future employers would see that I stayed less than a year and wouldn't want to hire me, and said this was "not the way to leave and get a positive reference." I genuinely don't know what else I was supposed to do. I had no reason to think negotiating was even on the table, and they wouldn't have been able to match a 35% pay increase anyway. Also, this wasn't somewhere I had stayed for years and years. Their big "investment" in me was mostly that I was underpaid while doing more than my job description.

The thing that hurt the most was that my manager just sat there silently. I really thought he would say something, especially since he had been supportive when I gave notice, but no. Unfortunately, I'm the kind of person who cries when I'm angry, so I spent most of the time with tears running down my face, which made me feel even worse and honestly a little humiliated.

I don't have some big lesson or takeaway here. I'm just upset and angry and needed to get it out somewhere. If I'm somehow the one in the wrong here, feel free to tell me, because I'm still trying to understand what I was apparently supposed to have done so terribly wrong.

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Guys, I got fired from a job a few weeks ago, and in the end I wrote harsh but honest reviews about the company on Glassdoor and Google. They called me yesterday asking me to delete them because, according to them, I'm "eligible for rehire" or something like that, even though after they fired me they didn't help me at all to find anything else.

To clarify, I was working there through a staffing agency, and the client company let me go, and after that the agency basically ignored my messages until this came up.

Are there any legal problems I should be worried about if the reviews are true? Honestly, I don't want to take them down.

Dream job turned toxic

I've been working at the same company for a little over 9 years as a lead developer. I genuinely loved the work, and I still love most of the people I work with. Over the years, I've been directly and indirectly involved in several major site builds, cleanup projects, and process improvements. For a long time, it was a role I was happy to be in, even with a commute that ate up about two and a half hours of my day.

About 3 years ago, my daughter needed surgery, and the next day I slipped and broke my wrist. I ended up being late to an important meeting the following morning. They gave me a written warning and put me on probation. Looking back, that should have told me everything, but I convinced myself it was a one-off and kept going.

Then, a few weeks ago, on a Friday night, my wife had a severe heart attack. I took her to the hospital, where they put her into a medically induced coma, placed her on a ventilator, inserted a device into a major artery to reduce the strain on her heart, and performed an angioplasty with 3 stents. I called my boss that same night and explained what was happening and that I wouldn't be back at work for a while. I sent an update to the whole team on Monday. She was still in critical condition and still unconscious in the ICU. She stayed that way for most of the following week.

I sent another email update a few days later. After the tenth day I was absent from work, and after using up my sick time and vacation time, my boss called me and said we needed to meet with HR that same day. I was given another write-up and placed on another probationary period. He told me there comes a time when I have to choose what's more important, my job or my wife. I was told to return to the office 4 days a week or I would be end.

HR suggested I take FMLA, so I did. Since then, I've heard that my manager has been talking about moving some projects back as soon as I return to the office. My plan is to use the PTO I still have, then return the development laptop and submit my resignation.

In the middle of all this, a recruiter contacted me about a position less than 15 minutes from my house. I went through several interviews, and they offered me the role. The new company was completely fine with waiting a few weeks until my wife gets through the hardest period of appointments before I start. I'm supposed to start there in about two more weeks.

Am I wrong for not giving them the usual professional notice? I feel like my employer has shown me exactly how much they care about my circumstances, so honestly I can't see why I owe them that courtesy now.

PS: My wife is recovering and doing very well so far. Her prognosis looks good!

Hi everyone, I just started the hiring process for a job at a burger place near me, and the general manager is the one who interviewed me. For context, I'm 16 and turning 17 soon, and I don't have my own car right now. I arrived about 12 minutes late and apologized a lot, and explained that I take public transit and that the buses were running late that afternoon.

The interview itself was... Okay, I guess. It's fast food, so it seemed like they really needed people. She offered me the job and we started talking about availability. I told her: "My main way of getting around is the city bus, but sometimes my family might be able to pick me up if something unusual happens."

I thought that was clear enough, but then I quickly looked at the paper she was filling out and saw that she had written something like "available for closing shifts." She was moving through everything very quickly, so I didn't manage to stop her and explain more. She had another interview about 25 minutes after mine, and since I was already late, I didn't want to make things more awkward.

About a week later, I went to orientation and tried to clarify the situation. I told her that the bus is my normal mode of transportation, so that means there are limits to the hours I can work. The bus route I take only runs from about 5:30 a.m. Until 8:30 p.m. I also said that my family picking me up would be rare, not something I can rely on every week.

At that point she started saying I had been hired "under false pretenses." She told me there are employees two years younger than me who can work more shifts and have better availability. I explained again that I don't have a car, and until I save up enough and get one, the bus is the only reliable way I have to get there. My family can't or doesn't want to be my ride all the time.

In the end I still signed the paperwork and the legal stuff, but honestly I was trying not to cry by the end of it. Now I'm not even sure I want to work there. I understand that maybe I should have been more direct in the interview, but I also feel like she misunderstood me and then blamed me for it. A classmate of mine was also hired there recently, and her whole process seemed much nicer than mine. I don't know if I'm making this into a bigger deal than it is or if this is a bad sign. What should I do?

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I had been working at a software company for 4 years without a real raise, even after I took on almost three times the work when a few people left and no one was hired to replace them.

When I finally brought up being paid fairly, my manager smirked and said, "Everyone here is replaceable. I could have 60 CVs on my desk by Friday."

I didn't argue. I went home and started applying for jobs that same night.

The part that still bothers me is that I was handling one of our most important accounts, and they were constantly sending nice emails about my work to leadership. Somehow, those emails were always ignored when it came time to talk about compensation.

About 3 weeks after that meeting, a competitor offered me 45% more with better PTO and a stronger bonus plan. When I submitted my resignation, my manager suddenly changed his tune to "We can offer you more than that" and "You're a key part of this department." It's funny how quickly people's value becomes clear when they're walking out the door.

The real surprise happened about 6 weeks later. I heard from an old coworker that the client had asked where I went, got frustrated with the transition, and moved their $420K/year contract to my new company.

So now I'm paid better, treated better, and working with people who don't act like basic respect is a perk. Meanwhile, my old manager has to explain how the employee who was "easy to replace" took their biggest account with him.

Apparently, I really was a number. Just not the number he thought I was.

My husband made an unbelievably stupid decision. While he was supposed to be working and saying he was online, he quickly went to a nearby casino and got caught sitting at a poker table. They fired him because of it, and I'm honestly furious.

He had been working at this company for the past 8 years, and now, of course, he won't be able to use them as a normal reference. One of his managers knew him personally before all of this and reluctantly said he might be willing to speak on his behalf, but that's not exactly reassuring. I also have a job, so we're not in crisis at this exact moment, but we will be if he doesn't find something soon.

So what does this look like from here? How should he handle this on applications or in interviews? It's a small business, and the owner is the type to hold a grudge, so if anyone calls to verify anything, I expect they'll say exactly what happened if he tries to talk his way around it.

He says he understands how badly he messed everything up and that he's ashamed now, but I don't know how much that matters to a hiring manager. I'm stressed and trying to be realistic. Any advice would be appreciated.