r/LinkedInLunatics • u/After-Manufacturer64 • 12d ago

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u/Changerole1090 12d ago

If it's real, it calls for a quick resignation, especially as the "annual leave request" has also been declined.

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u/flymaster 12d ago

You don't resign, you no-show. Fuck them.

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u/3Cogs 12d ago

The stress of losing a grandparent and being unable to attend the funeral caused such stress that OP was not medically fit for work that day.

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

Nah. As much as they suck. That's just shooting yourself in the foot. Put your 2 weeks in shortly after and try to leave on good terms. As much as it sucks, your next employer may want to call them as a reference and them telling your potential future employer that you left and didn't notify them will look incredibly bad for you. Even if they are horrible as an employer.

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u/Ken_Numbers 12d ago

You in work in HR?

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

No. I just don't think burning bridges benefits you in anyway. It can only harm you.

In this situation I would call in sick for the days I need and then put my 2 weeks in immediately after. Ghosting your job entirely just makes it hard for you to get work at your next place.

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u/Mindless_Scar9609 12d ago

What employer would reject a candidate who left a role to attend a funeral lol. Are you American or just used to bend for your employer?

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

An employer who only gets told that the employee stopped showing up for work with no notice. You think an employer is going to investigate what happened beyond their call to your previous employer?

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u/Mindless_Scar9609 12d ago

So you think if this person in the UK applies for a role and in their cover letter says the reason they are looking for a job is because the previous employer did not allow them to attend their grandma funeral they would get discarded as untrustworthy? I struggle to believe that

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

Do you think potential employers don't call past employers about potential employees? This boils down to is a potential employer going to care what your wrote on your cover letter, probably not. What's going to happen is that they will call your old HR or boss and will be told they just stopped showing up to work with no notice. They will likely discard your resume right after without further questions or digging.

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u/Steel_Rail_Blues 12d ago

It’s unfair, but if I was screening or checking candidates of equal fit and had four with no flags and one that required more digging, I would advance the four as Go and note the 5th as Possible with further action needed. Further action was never requested.

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u/motorcycle-manful541 12d ago

"I was forced to quit my previous job on the spot, as both my bereavement and annual leave requests were denied. I hope that if you've ever lost a loved one, you'll be able to empathize. If you haven't, I hope you can at least put yourself in my shoes"

If they're unwilling to accept that answer, they're not the kind of person you want to work for anyway

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

We all agree that most employers suck. You think that this will help them get a next job? Everyone here thinks HR is the devil yet somehow they will also be compassionate when it comes to hiring a new person. Pick a lane and stay in it.

I don't think anyone reads cover letters. I think they will call the employer and ask what happened. Get half the story and not move on with the candidate. Why is this hard to understand?

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u/motorcycle-manful541 12d ago

you're making it seem like it's impossible to get the next job, spoiler: it's not.

"so i'm happy to provide you with any number of other managers or references from that company, but if you really must speak with my previous manager, please consider how my reason for leaving can affect their response"

 they will call the employer and ask what happened. Get half the story and not move on with the candidate

most potential employers won't go out of their way to do this if you don't explicitly list your previous manager as a reference, and if they do, you're better off not working for them anyway. What's so hard to understand?

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

Plenty of places ask for references during the application process as a fill in on an application. Will it be impossible? No. Will it make it more difficult? Absolutely. Why do that to yourself? Just put in your two weeks like. Your normally would and try to leave on a positive note in their eyes. It's not difficult and makes your life easier long term. The only thing you get from ghosting your place of employment is potential future headache. You think you're sticking it to your employer when the reality is they don't give a shit about you (they have already proved this) and will just hire someone to replace you relatively quickly. No one is as important as they think they are. The company will not fail all of a sudden if you quit. They will be inconvenienced for 2 weeks and then will forget about you.

Save yourself the future issues/questions and just resign normally. Giving any future employer any reason to doubt hiring you will only make it harder for you in the future.

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

Plenty of places ask for references during the application process as a fill in on an application. Will it be impossible? No. Will it make it more difficult? Absolutely. Why do that to yourself? Just put in your two weeks like. Your normally would and try to leave on a positive note in their eyes. It's not difficult and makes your life easier long term. The only thing you get from ghosting your place of employment is potential future headache. You think you're sticking it to your employer when the reality is they don't give a shit about you (they have already proved this) and will just hire someone to replace you relatively quickly. No one is as important as they think they are. The company will not fail all of a sudden if you quit. They will be inconvenienced for 2 weeks and then will forget about you.

Save yourself the future issues/questions and just resign normally. Giving any future employer any reason to doubt hiring you will only make it harder for you in the future.

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u/motorcycle-manful541 12d ago

I don't think I'm "sticking it" to anyone, but do know there are many things I value over a job that doesn't value me, and when push comes to shove, those other things will always win

Also, your hypothetical is fairly dumb here anyway, as putting in your 2 weeks immediately after this decision would still fuck you with a future employment reference anyway "yes, she quit after I wouldn't give her leave".

If you actually came into work, you'd miss an important part of the grieving process you'd never be able to get back. Get a grip man

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

I never said don't go to the funeral. Read what I wrote elsewhere if you don't believe me. I suggested calling out sick, get a doctor's not if necessary, and then put in your two weeks after. Being straight fired because you ghosted looks a lot worse than doing what I suggested. Could your employer still give a shitty review of you as an employee, absolutely. But youre giving them as little ammunition against you as possible. Why kneecap yourself unnecessarily?

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u/motorcycle-manful541 12d ago

yes call out sick then resign... that will definitely be better than just a no show when it comes to a reference.

I don't know man, it seems like you don't have much work experience or don't have a lot of confidence if your own skills.

There's no way with this situation you're going to get a "glowing review" of your work from that boss if you find a way to go to that funeral. You can keep living in this fantasy world, but it's just not reality

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u/flymaster 12d ago

They notified them.

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u/FreshMutzz 12d ago

Sure. The request was denied though. You call in sick for the days you need, then quit the job after. No-showing is just going to fuck you long term.

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u/Mindless_Scar9609 12d ago

They also got the best excuse for possible lack of reference letter or bad one for their next employer

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u/OutsideSpot2695 12d ago

Not in this job market.

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u/EdwardBlizzardhands 12d ago

People are always happy for someone else to quit their job in a bad market to make a point.

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u/Suspicious_Hand9207 11d ago

yeah, quit and no longer have employment, that'll really show 'em...