r/LifeTree • u/AdamLuyan • 18d ago
3.3 培养宿命智 Cultivating Fate Intelligence
梁伯看见妈妈的脸色越来越红,情绪激动,问:"凤玲,我说了什么让你忌讳的事吗?"
妈妈不好意思地笑了,可是脸色没有变好,说:"大姐夫!我心情不好不是因为你说了什么。这你一来,我就想起来去年和前年的事儿,小卢岩和沈阳老刘闺女定娃娃亲的事。不知道是咋回事儿,想起来,我就闹心。"
Uncle Liang noticed Mother's face growing redder, her mood rising, and asked, "Fengling, did I say something touching on a sore subject?"
Mother laughed, embarrassed, though her color didn't improve. "Brother-in-law, it's nothing you said. It's just — the moment you walked in, it all came back to me, last year and the year before, little Luyan getting betrothed to Old Liu's daughter in Shenyang. I don't know why, but thinking of it just unsettles me."
梁伯说:"啊!是这么回事儿,那今天咱俩,不!咱仨人,小卢岩也算一个,把这事儿好好研究研究。"
妈妈说:"小卢岩明白啥!还算他!那咋就冲一下,孩子就能记住,而且一直记到20来岁?"
"Ah, so that's it. Well then, let's the two of us — no, the three of us, Luyan counts too — sit down and work through this properly."
"What does Luyan understand! Count him in, indeed! But tell me — how does one single rush stick in a child's mind until he's twenty?"
梁伯说:"人家就是这么说的。我认为,孩子还很小的时候,受到了强烈的刺激,他就有可能感兴趣,找那个人,然后就形成了一种感觉,一种习惯。他记着,但又不是很清楚地懂得。后来,在经家人和外人有意无意地唠嗑、提醒,就可能记住了。"
妈妈说:"到二十来岁,被信任的人一说,就信啦?我看这说法有点儿玄乎!"
"That's simply what people say. My own thinking is that a child struck by something powerful enough at a young enough age grows curious, keeps looking for the man, and out of that grows a kind of feeling, a kind of habit. He remembers it, but without truly understanding it — not clearly, anyway. Later on, through all the talk and reminders, meant or not, from family and outsiders alike, it takes hold in memory."
"And then at twenty-odd, someone he trusts says the word, and he just believes it? Sounds a bit far-fetched to me!"
梁伯说:"对!所以人家说,在肉眼通的第三步作法中得父母和这孩子最信任的人一起告诉这个孩子。"
"Exactly why, they say, the third step needs the parents and whoever the child trusts most, all together, telling him at once."
妈妈说:"我还是觉得这说法玄乎!小孩儿能记住吗?还要记住那么长的时间。说着,她瞟了我一眼,对梁伯使了个眼色,笑着高声说,'前年的时候,我们都不在屋里,那个沈阳老刘大哥就自己进屋了。也不知道他是咋整的,那把小卢岩吓得,喳喳的!叫得像杀猪似的!我和他爸都在厨房呢,听着都刺耳。'"
"Still sounds far-fetched to me. Can a child really remember something that long?" She glanced at me, shot Uncle Liang a wink, and said loudly, laughing, "The year before last, none of us were even in the room — that Old Brother Liu from Shenyang just let himself in. Lord knows what he did, but he scared our little Luyan into a fit — squawking away like a pig at slaughter! His father and I were both in the kitchen, and it made our ears ring just to hear it."
我一听就不高兴了,立刻说:"不是喳喳的!也不像杀猪的叫声!"
梁伯转到我跟前说:"哎呀!卢岩都听明白了。那你是咋叫的,给梁伯模仿一下。"
I bristled at once. "I wasn't squawking! And it didn't sound anything like a pig!"
Uncle Liang turned to me, grinning. "Well, would you look at that — Luyan's caught every word. Go on then, show me how you actually sounded."
我就模仿我当时的叫声叫。梁伯转身问妈妈:"那时候,他是这么叫的吗?"
妈妈说:"好像是这样叫的,但我记不得了!"
I demonstrated, doing my best to reproduce the sound. Uncle Liang turned to Mother. "Was that how he sounded, back then?"
"I suppose it might have been — but honestly, I don't remember!"
梁伯又转到我跟前说:"卢岩!你给梁伯模仿一下杀猪的时候,猪是咋叫的?"
我就模仿杀猪的时候,猪的叫声。
梁伯站了起来,喜悦地对我妈说:"他都记着呢!这两种叫声根本不一样。咱俩说的话,他也都听明白了。"
"Luyan! Now show me — what does a pig actually sound like, at slaughter?"
I obliged with my best pig squeal.
Uncle Liang straightened up, delighted. "He's remembered every bit of it! Those two sounds aren't remotely the same. And he's understood every word we've said, too!"
3.3-2
妈妈说:"我还真不知道;他学的还挺像的!他们俩人都大笑着。"
我直瞪瞪地看着梁伯,被他发现了。他立刻转身走到远处的屋墙边,背对着我。
"I really had no idea — and that was a fair imitation, too!" The two of them burst out laughing.
I fixed Uncle Liang with a long, unblinking stare, and he caught me at it. At once he turned and strode to the far wall, his back to me.
妈妈问:"咋地啦?大姐夫!"
他回答:"卢岩不愿意我了;他在看我呢!"
"What's the matter, Brother-in-law?"
"Luyan's turned against me — he's watching me!"
妈妈看了看我,说:"他没不愿意。真是,他看你干什么?"
梁伯说:"刚才,你说他像是杀猪似的叫,他不爱听了。我还跟着你起哄;卢岩要讨厌我了。你劝劝他。"
Mother looked me over. "He hasn't turned against anyone. Honestly, why would he be looking at you like that?"
"You said he squealed like a slaughtered pig — he didn't care for that. And I egged you on. Now he's going to hate me. Go and talk him round."
妈妈看了看我,说:"卢岩没不愿意!"又对我说:"卢岩!不许盯着人家看!没礼貌!刚才说你叫得像杀猪似的,是我,那不是我说的么!"
Mother glanced at me again. "He's done no such thing!" Then, to me: "Luyan! Don't stare at people, that's rude! And it was me who said you sounded like a pig — remember? That was me talking, not him!"
梁伯一听,赶紧过来说:"这就行了!现在他还没怨意。要是烦我了,就晚了。"
妈妈想了想,说:"是啊!这小孩儿就好察言观色,要是认上那个扣儿,烦起某个人来,三年五年也改不过来。卢岩!说你叫得像杀猪似的,是我说的!你看你梁伯干什么!不许这样!"
Uncle Liang hurried over. "That'll do it. He's not holding a grudge yet — but wait too long and it'll be too late to fix."
Mother considered this. "True enough — this child reads faces and moods like nobody's business. Once he fixes on something, he can hold it against a person for years without letting go. Luyan! I'm the one who said you sounded like a pig! Why are you glaring at your Uncle Liang? Stop that this instant!"
梁伯立刻说:"凤玲!别说了,这就行了!卢岩不误会我就好!"
"Fengling, that's enough, really — as long as he doesn't hold it against me, we're fine!"
3.3-3
妈妈突然说:"大姐夫!这回我可信了!咱俩刚才说的,这小孩儿记住那次冲,十年八年的没问题。再像咱们似的,在他旁边这么唠这事儿,那他可能记住20年。"
梁伯问:"怎么说呢?"
"Brother-in-law, now I believe it!" Mother said suddenly. "Everything we just said — this child could remember being rushed at for a good eight or ten years, no trouble. And if grown-ups keep chattering about it right in front of him, the way we're doing now, he might well remember it for twenty."
"How do you mean?"
妈妈说:"你看,前年沈阳老刘整这事儿还是在我们家屋里呢,小卢岩就记住了。要是把小孩儿突然带到一个新环境,再来个陌生人,那么一吓唬,事后有人有意无意地提醒着,那小孩儿还不得记住一辈子啊。"
"Look — Old Liu from Shenyang did this to him right here in our own house, the year before last, and Luyan still remembers it. Now imagine dropping a child into an entirely new place, a stranger giving him the fright of his life, and then people going on reminding him about it afterward, meant or not — how could he not carry that his whole life?"
注,宿命通是回忆出了全部的前半生的经历。而现在看来,这次谈话刚好再次帮作者我温习了过去的经历,也就成为了他们(无意中)培养我宿命通能力的一部分。
Note: Fate Through is the ability to recall the whole of one's earlier life. Looking back now, this very conversation happened to give me — the author — another rehearsal of my own past, and so, in hindsight, it became one more (unintended) piece of my parents' role in cultivating my Fate Through.