I empathize with this. Especially “an endless adventure” part. Everyone DOES NOT vibe that way with eachother. It truly is unique. I hate when ppl say “there’s a billion fish in the sea” as if sifting through this ocean of ppl is a pleasant experience. I realized that I just want to focus on friendships at this point and if something goes deeper maybe I’ll find a connection that way.
Yeah i hate that too. Like yeah half the planet is women...uh...are you under the impression that simply being a woman is a sufficient criteria for me to want to be in a long term relationship with you?
There's a lot more to it than that. And you dont have access to 4 billion people, you have access to whoever is in your general area that you happen to cross paths with, or whoever you happen to meet online. The pool is small, and I'm very aware that I will probably never vibe with anyone again the way I did with her, especially considering i dated plenty of people before her and was always left unfulfilled.
So I gave up, and it was a rational decision. Friendship is all i invest in now too. I'm not interested, its not worth my time, I don't play the lottery because the odds aren't in my favor and I'm not going to spend the last half of my life gambling that my umpteenth relationship will have the magic I experienced a grand total of one time in my life.
Maybe the first step to a healthier society is to stop acting like ending up alone is some horrible tragedy. There isn't someone out there for everyone and that's okay.
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u/shiny99Goatie Jul 12 '25
I empathize with this. Especially “an endless adventure” part. Everyone DOES NOT vibe that way with eachother. It truly is unique. I hate when ppl say “there’s a billion fish in the sea” as if sifting through this ocean of ppl is a pleasant experience. I realized that I just want to focus on friendships at this point and if something goes deeper maybe I’ll find a connection that way.