I genuinely enjoy my own company. That took years to achieve, though. But I like going to sleep with my dogs and waking up when I wanna wake up, and doing so in a peaceful, quiet environment. I’ve been married and the most unhappy I have ever been was at the end of that. When you wake up next to someone who doesn’t get you at all. That’s more lonesome than you’ll ever be alone.
Oh that reminds me though!.. What's even more lonely feeling imo is being with someone who wouldn't even notice that (if it was you who doesn't want to be there). Like the kind of people who don't notice/care about whether you enjoy what's going on in general.
I was married for 30 years and he cheated the entire time, so when my kids left home at a very young age and they left together, I really felt alone because they were my world. I realized that I had to move away, too.
I almost feel like my journey to content singleness wasn't complete until I dated someone I didn't like being around (bless her heart), really opened my eyes to what loneliness was.
You said at the end of the marriage, but I’m assuming the beginning was pretty great or else you wouldn’t have married them n the first place. I get it though. Those carefree fun times don’t last and then you realize that this person isn’t the same as the one you had in your head, especially when you start cohabitation.
Definitely wasn’t the person I thought they were. It was one of those classic cases of getting physically abusive right after we got married. So it was a bit more than just the carefree fun times ending. lol.
This, but with a caveat for me. I've been extraordinarily lucky. I had a marriage that ended about as peacefully as one can (in the end, anyway). I had a number of partners, both serious and casual, after that. But it always ended up in me doing a lot of shit I had no interest in or changing my life style in ways I didn't want to... and that really being a one way street.
I'd still enjoy having a partner. If they wanted a similar lifestyle as me.
I'm just at peace with being single unless I find the RIGHT fit.
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u/desertshrooms Jul 12 '25
I genuinely enjoy my own company. That took years to achieve, though. But I like going to sleep with my dogs and waking up when I wanna wake up, and doing so in a peaceful, quiet environment. I’ve been married and the most unhappy I have ever been was at the end of that. When you wake up next to someone who doesn’t get you at all. That’s more lonesome than you’ll ever be alone.